Hi well this is just my 5 cents and what we i and my partner think of the life style both partners must be on the same page and not feeling neclected or undesired by there partners if so we will alway agree to just for a while step away from the lifestyle to give more attention to each other we dont need this its just to spice things up and live out some fantasys we love each other and communication is very important plus trust and respect we will alway be honest and talk about everything to know if and when one of us are not relaxed or in the mood or have insecuritys about a situation and no one of us are in the lifestyle to just please the other one we must be both in it or nothing hope that will help in your situation
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