Here is the problem, single gents and ladies are complaining for being sidelinedby( couples )swingers ,this makes them rude at the end bcoz for example if you seek sex and you get pushed away how would you feel? you become mad &you cry,at the sametime i get couples point,i understand them,then give us ideas as single that what shoul we do so that we don't disturb you, i love you swingers and iknow this site is for swingers but could you please help us coz we also like to have fun like you guyz!not to be used,
Well you knocked me down! although it is bit bitter to be single coz chances are slim to play with couples ,not to mention to meet straight female and play if you ur straight guy coz they ur on demand,couples needs them in most cases,well what can we say ,we all choose what we want in life.
I myself was on here as a "single" male and I feel your frustration. What is funny is that many say "no single males" simply because of "bad apples" on the site. It would seem that many couples believe that a man looses his "asshole" status when he gets married or involved and a male as part of a couple is decent compared to single males. Many swingers (not all) live in their own little world and will not let anyone in their with them easily. Simply avoid such profiles.
Best advise I can give you: Search for profiles specifically looking for single guys and specifically just NSA sexual encounters. Make contact and present yourself as best you can. We as a couple are not truly swingers and we don't meet with couples at all... we are simply looking to address my threesome fantasy and entertain her bi-curious streak. There many profiles like ours so avoid them as they will not meet.
What I find strange is the sexism of swinging... it seems single male = asshole but single female = OK.
And the attitude that "single males are not swingers" but a single female is?
Thank you guys for your comments and the best advices ever you just gave in this topic especialy from you STAMINA,thanks buddy,now i've came to realise that this is an open topic coz takin from what SMDR said,atleast i now get the clue as to why single males ur flushed, the idea of searchin profiles related to your needs is an excelent one ithink,although chances ur slim to play.
We have been in the lifestyle for many years now. We have learnt a lot, most of that being right here, online. I (Mr) have had success, when I was single and now as a couple. I'd like to share what I feel are the most important points.
1 - You are joining a community/group of likeminded people, which has its own terminology, ettiquete, activites, history, rules and acceptable behaviours. So read all the information that is kindly provided by the site to help you.
http://www.swingingheaven.za.com/terms-and-conditions.html
http://www.swingingheaven.za.com/guide-to-swinging.html
http://www.swingingheaven.za.com/chatroom/chatrules.html
2 - When you joined the site a basic profile was created. Complete your profile as soon as possible. Be as detailed as possible (Dont lie, dont try to be someone you aren't), and use it to create an identity for yourself that represents you and what you'd like to achieve by being a member. Basic profiles get totally ignored by most. Post a few of your best and recent pictures (of yourself)in your "public album" and select one as a profile pic. Keep your face, genital, in the act, party photos in "private albums". Get your photos verified by a moderator ASAP.
3 - Before you contact anyone, read any one of these books
4 - Get involved, start chatting, read personals, introduce yourself on the forum, browse photos and send some messages. If you want to know something or feel lost, ask.... there are over 60 000 members here, so their are literally thousands of people to answer your questions and share their ideas and experiences.
5 - When communicating with anyone, don't be lazy, and stop thinking with your dick. Don't just browse the hot photos, look at the entire profile and read it properly and you'll know if you should even send a message. Send a message to introduce yourself and your intentions. DO NOT send winks, pokes, nudges, album invites, group invites, event invites..... blah blah, any of that shit. It is very impersonal. In our inbox, these get instantly deleted. Always introduce yourself, and invite to view your complete profile and to a chat when available.
6 - When chatting, respect and follow the rules e.g.. Don't whisper without asking, Don't ever make anyone feel cheap or like a piece of meat (you're literally causing the single chicks (the unicorns) you so desperately want, to never return). See who the regular users are and befriend them. These people will be more open to communicate, and get to know them and share things about yourself. These people can and will vouch for your reputation and make you a more credible user making it easier to get in contact with others you fancy.
I was a single guy on a forum and chat site just like this. Yes, it sucks being a single and all the other views posted here are relevant. But being patience and taking time to get to know people payed off, and I met a few awesome single women, one of them being my wife. Yes, I met my wife online, so its possible.
As a couple, here on the site, we have made countless friends. By being cautious and taking our time to gauge people on chat, we quickly eliminate the frauds, cheats, assholes, perverts and weirdos looking for a quick shag. People who take time and make continuous effort to get to know us, will be the good ones and will get our attention.
Not everyone is a play partner. Things don't work out. People aren't all attracted, or lack chemistry together, but they can still be good friends. Through these friends you can make countless other connections. For a couple to meet another couple and end up playing together is way more difficult than you think. You singles have it easy, once a connection is made, all you need to do is show up.... so don't let others down when you make arrangements.
We have made many so totally unexpected friends, couples, play partners, non play partners that we would never have considered meeting cause they aren't what we are looking for. I have a few good guy friends that Ive made here, that I myself suggested to Foxy because I felt they are worth considering. Likewise for Foxy finding me possible play partners that I wouldn't have considered.
So yes, we have met singles when we aren't looking for any. Some resulted in play, some didn't, but I can say that we have matched non-play singles with other couples or singles that did result in hookups or long term friends.
The more time and patience you invest, the greater the possible rewards. Remember, you are being invited into someones relationship, so always be respectful, well-mannered (don't allow yourself to be bullied either) but always show appreciation. In doing so, you'll be offering something back, not just a "tool", will be gaining the experience for yourself and you will secure invites for future experiences or parties. If you think you'll find easy and quick sex here, you best not bother here at all.
iwould be stupid if i don't listen to you Bagderandfoxy, what i will have to do is to collect your advices together with others,this is so helpful to me and to other guys who ur fustrated like me,thanks Badgerandfoxy for your input,like now i've realised that to be invited and watch other people play or any activity would be best for me, ithink there is lot to learn on my side,i'm very new in this game,Thanks a lot Badgerandfoxy!
