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Confirming for a party and not pitching up!

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Quote by sa35couple

It's called good manners to inform the host of a cancelation... a lot of effort goes into arranging a party.

Not every one in the lifestyle has good manners unfortunately. This is just one of the frustrations of this culture.

Perhaps Admin should consider creating a section on here to Balcklist those kind of people. Or give them a warning at least that they will be put on the list if they persist with their behaviour.

Quote by Synfulsox
non bullsh@#er

like 5% of all members on here. It is sad

Quote by Woestynkind

There should be a list where people who confirm and don’t pitch without any word should be listed to help future hosts. It is very bad form to confirm and not pitch.

agreed. We host parties and now if people confirm but don't pitch we will not invite them to a future party and we keep a list of all.

The no shows, especially single guys are f..... It up for genuine single men. I understand the frustration raised here. Big mouth on social media but doesn't have the decency to cancel or reschedule if a genuine problem crops up!!

I would say that MOST of the swingers dont have the decency to cancel once they have booked. A simple : sorry we not going to make it" is all that is needed

The problem is one people will promise things they can't do or lies that I can do this and while they know very well their not cabaple of.

And then you get those..."Sorry the wife couldn't make it"...

I think most people want to attend parties but finically they cant I know my wife and I book for parties but we cannot attend all the parties its expensive most clubs have high entrance and its understandable but in this economy we simply cannot attend every party being held we would love to if we could

The problem is not people NOT attending. The problem is confirming and not letting the host know that they can't make any more or have lost interest.

Quote by Freshman

The problem is not people NOT attending. The problem is confirming and not letting the host know that they can't make any more or have lost interest.

Welcome to my world of arranging parties and get togethers for over 10 years

Quote by Klaus

Welcome to my world of arranging parties and get togethers for over 10 years

So true Klaus, we have learned already to read between the lines 😠

The two private parties I didn't make were both because no specific location was given by the deadline. It is sometimes the poor organisation of the organiser that is at fault, and then they blame the attendee.

Quote by Woestynkind

There should be a list where people who confirm and don’t pitch without any word should be listed to help future hosts. It is very bad form to confirm and not pitch.

Agreed

Another thing that happens is that people join the party on the site to check out who the other attendees are. They never intended to join but never removed themselves from the list. Then they don't respond to the requests to confirm attendance, They just read the inbox and ignore it. This shows a lack of decency and poor manners.

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