Hi so would you let your wife or husband play with a friend of yours and I am not talking about a casual work friend I am talking about a friend that knows your secrets and stuff
Me and hubby recently had this conversation and it turned us on
Would love to know if the is couples that have done it and how did you guys start it and how was it and how is it after playing with your friend
What makes this more of a turn on is we both have close vanilla friends that we would love to play with and the thought turns us both on
We even fantasize about how we would do it
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Hi so would you let your wife or husband play with a friend of yours and I am not talking about a casual work friend I am talking about a friend that knows your secrets and stuff
Me and hubby recently had this conversation and it turned us on
Would love to know if the is couples that have done it and how did you guys start it and how was it and how is it after playing with your friend
Can we become friends ………. Just joking . This seems to be a very interesting topic. Will watch it closely
We have in the past played with a few of our ( not so vanilla afterwards) friends.
It's a different dynamic, it's a bit of a challenge that also adds to the excitement. Definitely something we will continue doing .
We do however feel them out properly and make sure their relationship could handle it . The board game helps .... haven't had or created issues yet
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We have in the past played with a few of our ( not so vanilla afterwards) friends.
It's a different dynamic, it's a bit of a challenge that also adds to the excitement. Definitely something we will continue doing .
We do however feel them out properly and make sure their relationship could handle it . The board game helps .... haven't had or created issues yet
I think that's our problem at the moment we don't know how to bring it up or start it like the boardgame idea
We wer also thinking truth and dare
True dare is a good starting point but it's difficult to set up a game of T and D to not get out of hand . Ours is set up with interchangeable game card decks that you can have a fun drinking game while cleverly probing the interest level of potential less than vanilla friends . Then change out the card decks and have some naughty time next game ...
This is actually a good topic. We started about a year and a half ago and we where actually devided on this opinion. I felt our first time should be with a stranger that if something should go wrong we do not have to see the person again. My wife was very uncomfortable with it and suggested that we see if we can not try and arrange it with a very long time friend of ours whom we are very close with. a braai is an amaizing thing where we all where very comfortable and I just raised the subject ond swinging. It hit the right note and it turned out to be a very good time and point. We went home and my wife said she wanted the first time to be with him a mfm threesome off course ascwe both where not sure how we would react if it happened. I phoned him the next day and asked him if he would like to try and have a threesome with my wife, well. Two weeks later was the best turning point of my life as we enjoyed it a lot, we where back the following week and i am very comfortable with sharing my wife and we are actually better friends now than we where before. BTW he is married as well.
A qualified yes. Not about to proposition our close friends but if the conversation with a friend goes in that direction and it becomes a mutual agreement as per the arrangement with my lady, then yes. Many lifestylers would probably agree with my next point. We are already playing with close friends, even if we first met them in the lifestyle and they then became close friends. Some really beaut souls in the lifestyle that I keep close to me even if we no longer play.
It's crazy how many couples have stories about wanting to play with vanilla friends I love your story @justpurefun
So for us it's definitely a huge turn on the thinking and talking about it
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A qualified yes. Not about to proposition our close friends but if the conversation with a friend goes in that direction and it becomes a mutual agreement as per the arrangement with my lady, then yes. Many lifestylers would probably agree with my next point. We are already playing with close friends, even if we first met them in the lifestyle and they then became close friends. Some really beaut souls in the lifestyle that I keep close to me even if we no longer play.
Definitely agree lifestyle friends to be come real friends but dey knew all along who you guys are swingers. with a vanilla friend I guess it's the thrill of them finding out the nervous tension of the first time maybe converting a vanilla friend or couple into the lifestyle maybe even a fantasy you had of your partner's spouse coming to reality that thrill makes it's a huge turn on
Oh so very very true , that " first time thrill" is contagious. Being part of someone's first experience with all that nerves and excitement is just the best , this is even more so if it's conversation of vanilla.
After a while we forget how that first time felt , and being part of a first is how you can relive that at least in part.
This hits close to home for us. We often soft play with a couple that lives in the same vicinity as us, about 400 meters away. It's actually a primaryschool friend that I ( Mr ) rekindled with. We have been close friends for a while and let me tell you, you speak of it turning you on.... it's actually that and more. They are or were vanilla lol. Although it's soft play but dam it's hot. I dont think we need anything else.
Both the mrs are stunning and sexy which drives the men mad. Here is the thing..... a few tequilas and things get warmed up. The thrill is the anticipation and the fact that you know everyone is on the same page on what is going to happen
What does happen is that we often encourage tops to come off....or bras to be removed before the ladies come back from the bathroom together. Innocent easy going little moves that go a long way.
From there its bliss. No sex, clothes just come off up to underwear, dancing and touching and watching 2 sexy woman. The guys take off their shirts and its play play play.
It becomes a slight habit and almost expected.....of which there are no complaints by anyone. 😆 🤣 😂
Afterwards you go home and you both so horny...you climb into each other as a couple.
We have been there! However we do not do full swap, but same room play with a married couple who are good friends. We found that getting the ball rolling was best left to the guys to start talking and then it was discussed between them. After the interest was there, a dinner out, some drinks at home, skinny dipping together and it kicked off from there.
If I may add my 5 cents worth...the couple who introduced me to 3way fun were my friends...we started off doing business..became friends hanging out having braais going to rugby etc....and then one day in their office was that contact mag on the desk, open on a page and thinking nothing of it I picked it up and they just grinned. The rest is history and we remained friends and playmates for years...
Many moons ago, as a married cpl and being in the lifestyle we had some close friend who were in the lifestyle as well, although we didnt know they were into it and neither did they know our little secret.
Weekend braais was always very flirtatious from theis side and some subtle hints were always given. As a couple we discussed the scenarios and all hints thrown at us. All be it, I was conviced our friens was swingers and my x wife didnt.
So as per agreement between my x and myself, we challenged ourselfs to find out. We have both agreed that if our friends were keen on swapping we would both be into it as well.....
Needless to say......about two months later....weekend braais were never the same
Um... So... Our entire social circle, incredibly close,, personal friendships, the lifelong and beyond type friendships, are all people through lifestyle. We have no vanilla connections beyond 'school moms, work colleagues etc.
We returned to lifestyle due to inability to connect with vanilla people, and not cause we wanted sex, but that they were too sensitive and immature about sex, seeing it in EVERYTHING making social get togethers very uncomfortable having to tiptoe around them so much, second guessing every word said or joke made.
Playing with strangers with pure NSA dynamic, "friends" just for sexy times, is the exception for us, not the norm.
Hedonistic sexual lifestyle vs swinging lifestyle, seems many here have things confused.
Nothing wrong with hedonistic, nsa fun, as long as all parties consent, honesty and all that, but yeah, thats not what swinging is.
Will love it to play with with friend but they don't know we are swingers!
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Will love it to play with with friend but they don't know we are swingers!
Introduce the concept to them gently by first suggesting it to them, followed by explaining your involvement in the lifestyle and take it from there. You will be surprised how receptive, or even just curious, people are.
