Wife sharing for Newbies
Having been in the lifestyle now for many years and being the bull/play mate for cuckold/stag&vixen/MFM couples now for about eight years and being lucky enough to successfully introduce many South African couples into wife sharing, I get many questions from curious newbie couples. There’s a couple pieces of advice I’d like to give.
The first is good communication between the couple. Open and honest talks not just in sexual situations but over coffee with your clothes on. Everything sounds sexy and hot in bed but the true realities need to be understood. It’s no small deal to have another man, especially if the idea is for him to be bigger and better than hubby in bed. Quality bulls are very confident and charismatic with women and that is a huge turn on for most wives that haven’t had that kind of attention from strange men since getting married. The idea of having sex with such men can be a huge aphrodisiac. How I see it is the bulls not just trying to get into her panties but also her and your head. The same open and honest communication should also be held between any potential candidates. Ask questions, share interest, disclose fears and limits. On that note, some things can and should be negotiated. But never the hard limits for the wife, the stag/cuck or the bull.
Ignore bulls until you and your wife have agreed on the ground rules that work for you. Never let some bull push you into something you are not comfortable with; kick that guy out and seek out someone who is aligned to your relationship. Bulls can be replaced, but if you let some jackass wreck your relationship then you have a lot of repair to do.
Secondly, patience, patience and more patience. It’s easy to find a willing hard dick but a heck lot harder to find a true bull. A man that gets and understands the dynamic. He should truly understand that what’s done is not just for his or the wife’s pleasure but all three of you. Sometimes that means just allowing the husband to witness his wife being taken. Sometimes it’s more involved, verbal communication and sometimes even physical interaction. These are some of the things that need to be discussed prior to anything happening in the moment. At the end of a good encounter everyone should walk away satisfied feeling they got their needs met.
Just go for bulls that have at least 3-4 vouches from SH couples. Not vouches from singles, as it is a very different thing to play with couples. If not enough vouches from couples, you might end up with a person who can't get hard or cums too quickly. This is unfortunately very common so be diligent, you want the first experiences to be great. Even check with the couples who played with and get a reference from them via a message.
Third, look out for exploiters. There are a lot of guys who assume that cuckold couples are just an easy source of pussy. They may put on a surface effort of understanding the cuckold dynamic, but what they are really after is to shove the husband aside and fuck the wife just to get some pussy. So dig in, ask your prospective bull what they enjoy about cuckolding a couple, besides getting some pussy.
It is NEVER a good idea to have some bull try to seduce your wife as a way to get her interested in cuckolding. Go talk to her about your feelings and desires. If you cannot be honest enough to just talk about it, you will not survive the real thing.
Lastly, cuckolding (or any kind of open relationship) is an amplifier for what is already happening in your relationship. If your relationship is strong, it will get stronger. If your relationship has problems, the problems will get worse. So, never try wife sharing to try to fix your problems, go fix your problems and then come back.
Happy wife sharing and don't hesitate to reach out if you want to discuss further.
Cheers, NordicBull
