Why we prefer separate to same room sex.
We are not against same room swinging and do believe there is room for it during a swinging session..maybe late at night but we do feel that if you want to swing and change partners same room swinging is like watching a porn movie. Same-room swinging can be hard to balance and split attention. In the past we’ve caught ourselves focusing too much on our partners. We want to make sure they are enjoying themselves
If you spend too much time watching your partner, you risk ignoring the person you are with. Or the other way around! Sometimes people are so focused on watching their partner that it isn’t possible to sexually connect with them, The eyes are elsewhere. The focus is elsewhere.
We don’t want that. We want to be able to experience heat with the person we are having sex with
This is why we like separate room sex for that first 2 to 3 hours of a swinging session: Being in the same room as your partner you can’t fully lose yourself in someone else. And occasionally one just wants to get lost in the heat of the sex without having to think so much. In a separate room you get to let go and focus on one person, and they do the same.
This allows you to feel every sensation. Everything is heightened. And you are not distracted . Your attention isn’t divided. You feel every touch, every breath, every brush of your partner lips over your skin. And it’s all you will feel. It’s all heat. It’s the only way you can really give in to pure lust because you only need to focus on the other person, and yourself.
Another big perk of separate play is that it allows for people to play differently without ruining anyone else’s vibe.
Sometimes people feel different vibes for the evening. If two people having sex are soft, slow, passionate, they don’t want the others on the bed to be engaging in choking, making gagging noises or hear things like “yeah, swallow it all!!.” That completely ruins the vibes they’re feeling that night.
Separate rooms let people go for whatever vibes they’re feeling. No one has to hold back, and no one gets their vibes ruined. And! No one has to rush!
