Why single men have a hard time hooking up

Just for fun I did a bit of analysis on the site with respect to the members. I limited my analysis to Gauteng and the results are telling. Single men (including married men that play solo) constitute a whopping 73% of the total membership in Gauteng. Couples make out 17% and single females (that is why they are called Unicorns), only 10%. So guys, if you got laid because of your membership to this site, you are either exceptionally exceptional, or exceptionally lucky!

Just as an aside, if you considered this to be a site that belong to couples, well, the numbers don't lie do they...

The_Hedonist

That is true but you cannot catch a fish if you do not cast a line

Couples only 7% more than single females? Now there's a talking point . . . . .  

The Hedonist, in reply to your question 

Do you recall the unsolicited mail you decided to send us as an opening line?

Most likely not so let us refresh your memory, you in your very first message sent us 17 days ago

" Too many fucking rules!!!!!??"

Yes maybe so, we posted those what you term rules so no one wastes their time, we respect peoples time as well as our own plus we as a couple have rules as its not simply a free ride with either of us as our requirements are fairly specific, so why waste peoples time if they fall outside what we looking for. In fact many message over and over, even with those we try be polite, when that does not work we are forced as a last resort to block them.

We told you exactly what to do in response to your nasty message.

But that leaves a unanswered question of why send such a message in the first place as you destroy the pleasure we get from this site and honestly you give single men bad reputations by your actions, ok you not single you married,  we try to answer messages, sometimes we fail, but most we try do, we try be polite, but we never contacted you, you by choice decided to contact us with amounts to a rude message, so answer why did you send it to start off with, not a way to find a playmate?

But if that's how you treat us as totally random strangers who have never contacted you, offended you or even till then known about you we both understand why you not coming right here.

Your message has been screen shotted in case any admin asks for it.

Admin if our post is inappropriate kindly remove it as we don't wish to complicate your life, nor do we wish to this hard done by post go unanswered. We hope you understand. Also we hope this will not trigger more abuse from The Hedonist.

To end, we guess around 99% of the single or married males we dealt with thankfully have been decent.

And yes we have met some very decent blokes on this site.

We guestimate from our interaction over the last 3 years that at least half the "single males" arent single. They're cheating spouses. Then add the upfront males who list themselves as married and you begin to appreciate how many cheaters are on the site.

To clarify - The inclusion of the single male genus in the swinging pool was to facilitate the fantasies of couples who wanted a third. It wasn't supposed to benefit the rogues themselves. But rather the couples. The single men seem to have forgotten that. They are here courtesy of tollerant inclusion by couples.

Excuse the broad term - but cheating does NOT encompass any of the cornerstones of the lifestyle. Married men playing without consent shouldnt be on this site strictly speaking imho. If you're unhappy - get a divorce. Find a lady that will satisfy your urges. Simple. Or if you're deeply in love but she's lost her libido - hire a professional. There's a market for you. Created in biblical times. Catering specifically for your urges. Swinging wifes are not prostitutes and sadly many of the single guys miss that fact. Some of the intro messages we get would shock even Caligula.

As an aside - your ratio is skewed further by the fact that of the 10% unicorns you cite - we estimate (through personal experience) that at least half of those are also single male catfish.

Why bitch and moan on a SWINGING site about your losses in the lifestyle as a single male. Join a site that caters to your situation. Cumtree. Ashley Madison. NSA Hookups. Google is your friend.

We chose for the last 2 years to exlude the painfull single males from our repertoire because of their disrespect and vulgar approaches. Our profile is VERY specific regarding our preferences. We spell everything out clearly. Yet we are left sifting through dozens of unsolicited messages and friend requests on a daily basis. Too many rules? -----> Here's the door. This is our journey.

Single guys. If a couple engages you...  feel blessed. 

Yes, we also have a couple profile for both my partner and myself. The decision we both made is also to have this profile as we only play with males , mostly (but not always) bi-males .As a couple looking for a bi-male we found many say they bi, but at the last moment say they not sure,looks like its just a ploy to score with the female. But find quite a few males in both cases be it bi-male looking for fun in a bi-male or  a couple profile can be rude and crude. 

This destroys all chance of them having some fun.

Well, that certainly drew some responses:

Chappie, since you elected to publicly reprimand me for my poor behavior, I publicly and unconditionally apologize. The nature of my response to your advertisement was uncalled for. I also apologize to everybody who in any way took offense to my post and experienced it as "hard done by".

The information is what I got from the site through the browse function. There is no way to know from that which profiles are genuine and which are bogus. Many men will list as single, even though they are married, and they are cheaters.  Many single men will list as couples with the hope of eliciting more responses, they are likewise cheaters and dishonest. I don't believe this phenomenon is unique to this site; in fact, I met with people  at  a popular swingers club who was telling their spouse over the phone (in the toilet) that they were with a friend at a location some considerable distance away from where we were.

My post was not intended to bemoan or detract from the pleasures that the site provides. I get much entertainment from it, cheaper and better quality than most tv shows and movies, because we are real people. I made, in my opinion, interesting observations and wanted to share that. Nothing more, nothing less, no gripes or bones to pick.  

My post was intended to show that single men (honest ones) are extremely lucky when they make successful contact because, in Gauteng alone,  each single guy has to compete with almost 25 000 others, and if it is couples they want to meet, they are competing for less than 6 000 of those!  That is almost 5 single men for every couple, including same sex couples looking for same sex people.

Just as an additional aside, the proportion of single ladies to the total number of members is surprisingly high, which could lead to speculation that there are also married ladies pretending to be single. Just saying.....

The Hedonist, apology accepted.

But sure you will understand we will never enjoy any play time together.

We chose to make it quite clear as to what we looking for out of respect for peoples time, but you not the only one who was outright rude, check our profile out to another person who was politely rejected, did not delete his comments but chose to leave it there as a warning to others of what he is like.

As I said , we try to reply to every message we get, sometimes its not possible, but we try, plus we always friendly even if its a no thanks, which most of our replies are due to the specific thing we looking for.

How can anyone complain of not getting hooked up, I have had many experiances and made some good friens