Why scare the newbies ?

Something that always kinda threw us for a curve is newbies that cum and go on the site and in the lifestyle. Those that stay usually have a horror story about their 1st experience.

It's bad that so many people duck out without ever knowing the pleasure that the lifestyle offer.

I can hear the comments already " they have issues, or they weren't ready "

Think back , way back . Was any of us ready ? No.. we all had some or other issues or feelings to work through. But sadly people with experience forget what is was like to be new.

I know not everyone is like this and kudos to the experienced people that like us take time and have patience with newbies.

But to others , please stop scaring them away by doing too much too soon . Rather let us and others get them game Ready at a pace they are comfortable with ... lol

Valid point, and we agree totally...some people tend to push newbies where they don't need to be just yet.

But...like everything on the site...there is a flipside to the coin. We always try to be the couple we would've wanted to meet first...a couple with experience and has seen some stuff, done some stuff, and know some stuff. So when a newbie couple approaches us...we always offer advice, in a open minded way. We have noticed the past 2 months...chatting with newbies is getting harder. We have to literally coax info out of them...the communication is one sided, and blunt in a way.

We WISH we had the same support when we started...so newbies, take note...if an experienced couple puts in the time and effort...do the same. We get you're nervous, we get discretion...but if you can't have a light, honest discussion about what you as a couple want/need/feel comfortable with...eish.

Love your approach " be the couple you would like to meet " . Probably the best advice anyone has ever shared.

we have found that when a new couple arises in our part of the country. setup a meet, but before we can meet, they play with other couples. then 2 weeks after, profile deleted. many old time swingers are just in it for themselves, getting to fuck the new couple in town. that scares people off as well. they dint experience how its actually supposed to go.

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we have found that when a new couple arises in our part of the country. setup a meet, but before we can meet, they play with other couples. then 2 weeks after, profile deleted. many old time swingers are just in it for themselves, getting to fuck the new couple in town. that scares people off as well. they dint experience how its actually supposed to go.

Very true