Why do we feel the need to cheat

Not the most popular topic on a swingers site....

I am a very happily married man. My wife gives me everything I can ever desire. Both as a wife (looking after the household and kids) and as a lover. There is truly nothing I could ask for.

Then why am I still on this site? Why am I looking for more??

My wife and I use to play together, and then just one day out of the blue she said we are done...wait, what??...yip finish en klaar. No reasons, no visible bad experiences...just done.

Okay, as a married couple, I should respect my partners decision and move on. We had our fun and for that I should be thankful and carry on with life. Nope, not me, now I am flying under the radar, so to speak.

I also travel a lot for work, and I am away from my family for extended periods of time. Does the loneliness maybe cause me to be this adulterer?

Don't get me wrong, I am not looking for an affair, another one to love...no, just some extraordinary sexual fun.

But why?? 

Am I just another bad husband and father, or is there something deeper?   

cant really comment here, as we are in an op relationship so to speak. we are both allowed to play alone, but we seldom do, as we like it more to see each other having fun.

@ Lizaan...it is just way more fun having your partner involved!!!

l have the same experience toy and I believe there are a lot of guys out there that are cut off from sex at home and if you try force the issue it could be classified as . Its not that l cannot do the deed properly just ask the couples l meet up with the lady always leaves with a smile on her face and the usually call again.

Its better to have a friend with benefits than a wife without, sometimes we forced into situation's we did not think we would be in, in the beginning of a relationship.

I find most people are curious and hoping to improve your sexual life.  @ toy  This you have already shown us by your questions on how to do sensual massages. And asking about FF interludes.(Not that I am moaning about it) I am just honest here.

Maybe being bored is another culprit, this could be indicated by you working away from home being alone, and most of us know men like one on one encounters and not always with Ms Palm and her five daughters.

After encounters you might feel more engergized  and full of life, that adrenaline high.

Might even have a contest with yourself to see if your sexual prowers remain intact and might even improve.

Sad  as it is staying here enjoying talking to like minded people is in fact also considered cheating.

Sextexting, flirting online,  watching porn, is very much a part of cheating.

As a human we consider monogamy the norm but in reality it is not so, we do fall in love and out of love a lot during our life time, but staying with one partner is a choice we make.

l wonder how many lady partners think of making love to someone else while being with their male partners, or even thinking of other men while masturbating that then is also cheating, they should also get off their pedestals.

@ daretostare  Immagination plays such a big part of anyone`s everyday life. That it will be very boring if we did not have that. I think we all have thought about someone else during a sexual interlude somewhere in our lives while with our partners. People will also say that is part of cheating, then so be it. Fantasizing  to me is a kinda normal and healthy thing to enjoy, what makes fantasies scary and unhealthy for me is WHEN we fantasize EVERY SINGLE time we have sex with out partners about SOMEONE else. 

Fantasy and Role Play goes hand in hand for me aswell, just think of you and your spouse going into a bar and then pretend that you meet up for the first time, and then whatever the game plan is, He might  flirt with her and *pick her up* for a one night stand, or she might approach him to solicit him for sex.....all IN FUN of course. Is that then also cheating?  I think not, just  a healthy spicing up  of their sex life.

Once again, this is only my own opinion and you and everyone does not have to agree with me.

Very good points made here...