Now how do I put this?
Okay let me start at the beginning. We meet our first Cpl when it came to the bedroom fun it we the following way. I start by giving the lady oral suck nipples and her love box then I asked her if I can push in and we did it missionary style. And that was it. Then we meet the next Cpl and the same thing too place and so with the third Cpl that is what happened in my set up.
In joys side she had to give the guy head and claim on top and do it in different ways.
Now I want to ask the following:
During the fun part must I tell the lady hey give me some head or hey how about you get on top for a change. For he as person that does not feel right telling the lady what to do. Or are the ladies like that if you do not bark out orders then all they want to do is just lay there. I mean where's the fun in that? And they don't want to try something new?
So what do I do? Or should I ask what do women prefer?
rider
Join the most popular community of South African swingers now
Login
Where's the fun it that?
Quote by JustaLurker
I would suggest that you ask politely if she could give you some oral action back and when you do get to have sex that you subtly hint that would it not be nice if she could climb on top in order for you to enjoy her beauty.
Thank you for your reply, but I have tried to hint but the ladies always have an excuse about oral and with the hinting to try another position they say no they prefer it on their back not even doggy style.
Hey just got an idea, do women prefer to lay on their back if the guy is too big? I am just grabbing now at straws to try an find an answer
You might be right Rider about the relationship between the size and the position - but on the issue of oral; I suspect if you're a lot bigger than their partner, and if they aren't sure whether you'll allow them to control the process, the oral might be a scary prospect for them. On the issue of positions, I suggest asking what her favorite is BEFORE proceeding to the bedroom... then you know what you're in for. Could also be the prevailing attitude in the age group you're meeting with (that Joy is unusually willing/explorative/liberated in her ways).
This is the HUGE benefit to flirting before hand, the ability to talk with prospective playmates at length about expectations, ideas etc, allows you to prompt them to be a bit more adventurous when you finally get to play.
Also sometimes with a big guy... to the woman; the idea of being on top (if she's not fit, tall, supple and/or flexible) can freak a girl out - especially if you're quite long and very erect.
Quote by LeeEC
You might be right Rider about the relationship between the size and the position - but on the issue of oral; I suspect if you're a lot bigger than their partner, and if they aren't sure whether you'll allow them to control the process, the oral might be a scary prospect for them. On the issue of positions, I suggest asking what her favorite is BEFORE proceeding to the bedroom... then you know what you're in for. Could also be the prevailing attitude in the age group you're meeting with (that Joy is unusually willing/explorative/liberated in her ways).
This is the HUGE benefit to flirting before hand, the ability to talk with prospective playmates at length about expectations, ideas etc, allows you to prompt them to be a bit more adventurous when you finally get to play.
Also sometimes with a big guy... to the woman; the idea of being on top (if she's not fit, tall, supple and/or flexible) can freak a girl out - especially if you're quite long and very erect.
Thank you LeeEC your answer just confirmed what I was suspecting all along. So basic if you have a big tool you screwed :sad:. But it would be nice to also hear what the other ladies over here also have to say and to give advice
My advice... Inexperienced as I be is as follows...
Before things get wet and sticky, there is obviously a bit of conversation before hand. Use that to try and assess the personality. You should be able to pick up pretty quickly what type of lady she is. Deduce if she is a take charge type or a bit submissive. Use that info in the bedroom. If she seems the "take charge" type, then let her choose the way things go down. If she is a submissive lady, then take control and you decide on positions and such.
As for the bj part, I personally believe that you should just ask if you really want it. I doubt any lady would ever make things awkward by saying, "no, I do not want to suck it, just bang me rather"...
If you end up in the bedroom and you let it just flow without the awkward requests and talking, the lady will extremely impressed that you took the time to find out before hand what she likes. Sex is better when it just "flows". I never ask my lady to move into a certain position, I simply turn her or nudge in that direction. No awkward stopping and asking "please turn over so we can do some doggystyle". Conversation and questions during a heated session is a buzz kill.
So in short, know your plan and her preferences before her panties drop.
