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Where have manners and respect gone?

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Ok, so I am oldfashioned... so shoot me!

Just getting a bit fed up with the lack of manners and respect on this site...

If someone takes the time to send you a message... an answer takes seconds to type. Even if it is "no thanks"

You wouldnt walk up to a person on the street and say "lets fuck", or "can i see your genitals" so dont do ot here.

If your profile reads that you are looking for a single male and one messages you, dont get rude. Alter your profile...

And on, and on.....

Best one for me was a cpl looked at my profile an blocked me. WTF. I have never looked at their profile so have no idea. 

Quote by Woestynkind
Best one for me was a cpl looked at my profile an blocked me. WTF. I have never looked at their profile so have no idea. 

 Sorry i do this all the time but it wasn't me this time. Saves a lot of mails from people that you have absolutely no interest in. 

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Quote by Woestynkind
Best one for me was a cpl looked at my profile an blocked me. WTF. I have never looked at their profile so have no idea. 
 Sorry i do this all the time but it wasn't me this time. Saves a lot of mails from people that you have absolutely no interest in. 

 Ok makes sense the sins from my fellow single males. I will guarantee that I will not contact anybody who’s profile clearly say no single male. 

Therin lies one of the issues... it states 'single male' in the interests... but try to message and you get told in no uncertain terms they are not interest in single males... confusing to say the least... but ok... you understand, appologise, and get blocked.... 

Quote by Woestynkind
Best one for me was a cpl looked at my profile an blocked me. WTF. I have never looked at their profile so have no idea. 

 Its actually sad because most of those looked at you first, its actually very nice to know not to even bother with those... Doesnt mean i looked at your profile,i want you... We all have preferences too. 

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Ok, so I am oldfashioned... so shoot me!
Just getting a bit fed up with the lack of manners and respect on this site...
If someone takes the time to send you a message... an answer takes seconds to type. Even if it is "no thanks"
You wouldnt walk up to a person on the street and say "lets fuck", or "can i see your genitals" so dont do ot here.
If your profile reads that you are looking for a single male and one messages you, dont get rude. Alter your profile...
And on, and on.....

We try reply to all messages even if its sorry but no thanks, which often opens the door for an attempted negotiation which ends in us blocking the person, 

But many are not on the Gold membership so cant reply to all messages as they limited to I think 5 a day/24 hour period which may not allow replies.

I am getting fed up with people who want to chat. We start a conversation and then they disappear.

No warning or anything! A simple message to say you’re bored or not interested would be fine.

Have some manners!

True. But then there are complications such as loadshedding, cell signal loss and I suspect possibly the sudden appearance of a significant other....


Quote by cumminglinguist
True. But then there are complications such as loadshedding, cell signal loss and I suspect possibly the sudden appearance of a significant other....


 I am a bit worried about the significant other statement. Swinging is not about cheating. Massive complication that it cause. 

I have found quite a few 'couple' profiles that when you chat, you are told that the wife dosnt play anymore or at all.... 

Or single people that are playing without consent openly. 

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I have found quite a few 'couple' profiles that when you chat, you are told that the wife dosnt play anymore or at all.... 
Or single people that are playing without consent openly. 

 Which usually end badly for them and unfortunately to an innocent third party


True. It takes a while to sort out the gems from the rest.

The fun and games of being a single male on the site. There are so many rules that we must follow and abide by. Which allot of them I actually agree with. But respect goes both ways, and it wouldn't hurt if you not interested just to say no thanks. It makes it final and a guy knows where he stands.

Quote by cumminglinguist

Ok, so I am oldfashioned... so shoot me!

Just getting a bit fed up with the lack of manners and respect on this site...

If someone takes the time to send you a message... an answer takes seconds to type. Even if it is "no thanks"

You wouldnt walk up to a person on the street and say "lets fuck", or "can i see your genitals" so dont do ot here.

If your profile reads that you are looking for a single male and one messages you, dont get rude. Alter your profile...

And on, and on.....

I agree! There's lots like that, and adding to what someone said about preferences including Single Males, and when you try and make contact you get either ignored, or blocked, or both.

There's currently a single lady, same town as me, with shared interests. I sent her a polite, well thought out message a few days ago, which she immediately read, and ignored. OK fine....then yesterday I see her ad in the personals section where she actually asks whether there are any people who are actually into meeting.....wtf?

So I reacted to her advert by saying I actually sent her a message and am actually willing to meet, and got ignored again, so I have now blocked her.

My point is that plenty of the people on here have that sort of attitude and it's extremely rude.

I also get contacted by unwanted people, but I take time to reply and politely turn them down. It's the least one can do (if you've had some sort of proper upbringing at least)

Unfortunately many profiles have limited messages and can't reply to all enquiries.


But  as an opening message " Hi, I want to fuck with you, but can I first see your private album?" gets an instant block.

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But  as an opening message " Hi, I want to fuck with you, but can I first see your private album?" gets an instant block.

As it should , I don't think anyone would disagree that those sort of messages don't warrant a reply. We do reply to messages but the lady does most of the replying when she logs on ( ladies rule right). So sometimes I read it and she will reply when she reads I was a single guy on the site for 9 years and I know the struggle, and all I can say is gents be yourself and you will attract the type of people who share your values. 

I know this thread was started about 4 months ago but I have to chant in here, I am all for decency and manners BUT I have more than a THOUSAND unread mails in my inbox, everybody expects a reply and wants to chat on all platforms. I have a busniness, children and a life outside of SH, if I had to answer each and every mail which usually ends up in another reply even if I politely said no thanks, I would end up replying to mails the entire damn day and might as well charge per reply since it will then be my dayjob!! Its simply not possible and after years on this site I really do not give a shit who thinks what about how decent I am for not answering piles and piles of mail! So before you get on the bandwagon about decency, think about the ratio of single men on here and single women and how swamped we are!

This is the exact reason Ive quit this site so many times before because I have been called all the names in the book for not answering mails...guess what, its on MY terms now! Rant over.

While we agree with the concept of manners , we do appreciate the direct approach.

Yes yes we know some will break out the torches and pitchforks now .... but that's our preference.

We see it as follows. We are on a website, dedicated to the purpose of having sex with people other than our spouses. So we prefer being contacted by people wanting that exact same thing .

So if you send something in the line of " what to shag " and your profile is appealing... we probably will make contact..

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I know this thread was started about 4 months ago but I have to chant in here, I am all for decency and manners BUT I have more than a THOUSAND unread mails in my inbox, everybody expects a reply and wants to chat on all platforms. I have a busniness, children and a life outside of SH, if I had to answer each and every mail which usually ends up in another reply even if I politely said no thanks, I would end up replying to mails the entire damn day and might as well charge per reply since it will then be my dayjob!! Its simply not possible and after years on this site I really do not give a shit who thinks what about how decent I am for not answering piles and piles of mail! So before you get on the bandwagon about decency, think about the ratio of single men on here and single women and how swamped we are!

This is the exact reason Ive quit this site so many times before because I have been called all the names in the book for not answering mails...guess what, its on MY terms now! Rant over.

Damn. A thousand unread?


*deletes the mail he was busy writing to Wednesday.
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