What puts you immediately of a profile or somebody contacting you ?

Quote by Annabel

• One word "upmarket"

Agreed...

Point about friend requests is noted but I consider it skin to a wink at the bar in the real world. It’s an admission of interest before invading personal space. Anyhow there is overwhelming negativity about “friend requests” & other system generated messages so SH should remove this functionality.

Kind of feel I should tell the other side , whether other couples are the same or not maybe this will help .

At times we get loads of invites and mails . And we do dismiss the boring ones first . Also we have kids and have to have the time available so not always convenient and the we obviously have to be in the mood .

So what works with us ?

Be direct , don't tippy toe . Tell us your interested and try to set something up . Our vouches are all people that did that and most was set up same day . Remember that people have lives , we do have other commitments. And here is loads to choses from . If you don't get a response or they , he or she want to make endless small talk just move on . Others like us are probably waiting for you .

Hope this helps guys

What puts me off is when you look a people's profiles for the first time then they block you.

What really makes a great first impression on me when being contacted by a couple for the first time is when I can see, by the letter they write, that they have actually read my profile description! Now singles have been accused of not reading profiles and yes, a lot of them are guilty as charged! However, couples from my experience, most of the time are also not reading before contacting me. So when I am contacted very occasionally by a couple who do actually read my profile it is very refreshing!

I also don't enjoy receiving friend requests from perfect "strangers" 🙄 who make no introduction or who have four pictures to their profile of up close and personal pictures of privates or pictures that are so close that I cannot make out "the wood from the trees" so to speak. This in my opinion is as bad as having no pictures in their profile.

There are a number of ways to make a good first impression, especially one that says that you are a quality person. So paradoxically, maybe its a good thing that most don't make that good first impression because the manner in which first contacts are made allow a couple or single person to make a quick decision and move on and away or - to welcome that first contact.

For me it's too many dick pics. Like the ones from different angles. And stupid cum in hand shots like why?? Short descriptions and also blank spaces. If there's no effort, then person is most likely a lazy lay aswell.

Quote by Shaybytheway

People are generally rude and ill-mannered, I'm sorry to say. 

That is a total generalisation, as in between one does find a gem! 

Agreed Shay. I see a lot of fingers pointing at the single men and indeed a lot of them have no idea about etiquette. However, I have found over the years that the couples are just as bad! It is extremely rare for me to receive polite introduction that tells me a couple have read my profile.