So i've been dipping my toes into the lifestyle over the last few years, but I've never fully leaped in with both feet. As a single chap, you're more often than not dealing with the disrespectful bullshit being committed by a large percentage of the single guys out there. In my adventures so far I have had a few epiphanies along the way.
1. If you manage to get through the door. Be bloody respectful!! I cannot stress this enough. We as single guys are there as the third wheel. We're there to help fulfil a couples fantasies. But by being arrogant, pushy and disrespectful, all you're doing is putting the couple or potential playmate off of you and potentially off single guys entirely. In my experience.... we are the wingmen, her husband knows what makes her tick much better than you do. So respect that. Also you'll never go into a conversation with hi... would you like to see my dick. Nothing has changed here! Politely and respectfully introduce yourself with a face pic in a message and you've done right by the entire swinging community.
2. Pitch up to meets. The point of a meet is to check the chemistry and if it's not there that's also okay. But by not pitching, all you're doing is giving us all a bad name and trust me I'm sure people talk and it will be noticed. So don't be a doos.... pitch up if you've agreed to a meet.
3. Communicate and listen to what THEIR needs are. People in this community are excellent communicators and will tell you what they want. Remember it's YOUR privilege to be invited into their inner sanctum. from what i've experienced, your needs will most definitely be taken care of in the process.
If any couples want to add to this or feel I've left something out, please i'd like to learn more and be well educated.
