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Do my profile pics deceive? Do I look white in my pics? Am I that fair in complexion lol? I've been getting a lot of invites,requests and messages from "we do not cross race barrier" guys and couples. My profile clearly says that I am of mixed descent. And they still want to get to know me even after I have told them. Sigh, told one dude that he should come over to the "dark side" lol pun intended-he might like it.
Well just shows you how fickle some profiles are..... Saying one thing and DOING another. You MS Kitty, however are one sexy lady so...who can blame anyone for trying???
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Do my profile pics deceive? Do I look white in my pics? Am I that fair in complexion lol? I've been getting a lot of invites,requests and messages from "we do not cross race barrier" guys and couples. My profile clearly says that I am of mixed descent. And they still want to get to know me even after I have told them. Sigh, told one dude that he should come over to the "dark side" lol pun intended-he might like it.

Kitty,
I have the same question.
Daily I recover messages from couples and single women. When I have a look at their profiles, a large majority of them state "we don't cross the race barrier".
Now I'm curious to know, are people jut not reading my profile?
I find in many cases, especially with couples, that is one person in the couple that excited to "try something new".
It's quite evenly split. Half the time it's the female that sees my pics and wants to play, and it seems the husband domes want his woman to corrupted by a man who is not white. And half the time it's the husband who wants to see his wife with someone of a different race out of a fantasy factor.
It seems to me the following conclusion can be drawn. Couples always accuse singles (especially guys) of not reading profiles, when it is clear based on my experiences that they them selfs do not read. Or, these couples do not communicate with one another about this topic, and try and find a way or encourage in secret subtle way for this to take place.
Hence why as each day goes by, I am becoming more and more selective of who I will consider playing with.
Thanks PIB mwah. So true FWC, with my case its the other way around, the hubby wants to but the wife not so much. Once at Poizon I was approached by this awesome looking white dude(totally my taste) and well he flirted with me all night, begged me to have a drink with him and chased me around the club all nite. When we finally sat down he told me that I was so gorgeous and he wishes he could play with me ,but his wife came and told me that they don't do interracial lol. Pity. I get prefferance but in my opinion u can't call yourself "open minded" then. I mean I'm more attracted to medium to dark of complexion guys but I've seen and met gorgeous fair skinned/white men to. Attraction is attraction. Maybe they scared they'll love it? Is there really that much difference in look/appearance or technique? Or is it a very touchy subject?
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Kitty,
I have the same question.
Daily I recover messages from couples and single women. When I have a look at their profiles, a large majority of them state "we don't cross the race barrier".
Now I'm curious to know, are people jut not reading my profile?
I find in many cases, especially with couples, that is one person in the couple that excited to "try something new".
It's quite evenly split. Half the time it's the female that sees my pics and wants to play, and it seems the husband domes want his woman to corrupted by a man who is not white. And half the time it's the husband who wants to see his wife with someone of a different race out of a fantasy factor.
It seems to me the following conclusion can be drawn. Couples always accuse singles (especially guys) of not reading profiles, when it is clear based on my experiences that they them selfs do not read. Or, these couples do not communicate with one another about this topic, and try and find a way or encourage in secret subtle way for this to take place.
Hence why as each day goes by, I am becoming more and more selective of who I will consider playing with.

FWC
I'm sure anyone would want to play with you, even if you were from an alien race! Lol (I know I would I CUM in peace hahaha)
Sorry lol.
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Kitty,
I have the same question.
Daily I recover messages from couples and single women. When I have a look at their profiles, a large majority of them state "we don't cross the race barrier".
Now I'm curious to know, are people jut not reading my profile?
I find in many cases, especially with couples, that is one person in the couple that excited to "try something new".
It's quite evenly split. Half the time it's the female that sees my pics and wants to play, and it seems the husband domes want his woman to corrupted by a man who is not white. And half the time it's the husband who wants to see his wife with someone of a different race out of a fantasy factor.
It seems to me the following conclusion can be drawn. Couples always accuse singles (especially guys) of not reading profiles, when it is clear based on my experiences that they them selfs do not read. Or, these couples do not communicate with one another about this topic, and try and find a way or encourage in secret subtle way for this to take place.
Hence why as each day goes by, I am becoming more and more selective of who I will consider playing with.

FWC
I'm sure anyone would want to play with you, even if you were from an alien race! Lol (I know I would I CUM in peace hahaha)
Sorry lol.
Awwwwee kitty! You just made my day. lol.
Hi there all I can relate to what u said FWC. To think we are 20years in to democracy and still people think less of u coz u not the same skin colour. We all human after all. My preference in playmates are simple. Clean and discreet and that's it
20 years in democracy and we still have our preference, and hairy people is one as well as pushy people, democracry is just that gives u rights.
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20 years in democracy and we still have our preference, and hairy people is one as well as pushy people, democracry is just that gives u rights.

Preference, yes. Nothing wrong with that either. I have my preferences. I have my likes and dislikes. There are people I am attracted to and those I am not.
Preference though is not a justification for people who are essentially hypocrites. Preference does not mean stating what your preferred play mates should be and then sending those people who do not meet your criteria a message.
Do you not agree Adonis?
This thread was and is not an attack on race. It is simply trying to find a reason for those who say one thing and clearly do another.
I read the forums all the time and whenever such a topic comes up there u wil see Adonis comenting on it. Do u feel guilty of doing the same ? What is this lifestyle realy about ? For me its to live out my sexual desires and fantacies with likeminded people.
I agree in a sense, but you must remember, that a lot of people are fake, and will answer you any thing to get rid of the question or message. Real people will answer a message with respect
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I agree in a sense, but you must remember, that a lot of people are fake, and will answer you any thing to get rid of the question or message.
Real people will answer a message with respect

Agreed.
What I saying is, the people who initiate the contact are the ones who are being hypocritical. If you read my first post properly you will notice I say, I receive messages from couples who's profiles state the preference. And their preference is not me.
So the question is................ If my self or anyone else does not meet your specific outlined preferences, why contact me?
Sorry i rather sharrump, i don't attack you dunno:dunno:
Valdon,
A forum is a place for fellow members to reply to the topic at hand and is not a place to name individual fellow members and cast aspersions against them.
If you don't like a fellow members reply then simply don't comment or reply.
Would you watch a cam in the chatroom if it wasn't or didn't meet your preferences?
dunno
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I read the forums all the time and whenever such a topic comes up there u wil see Adonis comenting on it. Do u feel guilty of doing the same ? What is this lifestyle realy about ? For me its to live out my sexual desires and fantacies with likeminded people.
Irish I'm sure u don't have a clue what u talking about. And Duh I know what the forum is about.
Val,
I'm very aware about what I'm talking about! Your " Duh" comment proves that! - presuming what - that I'm stupid?
I've no desire to get into a debacle with you. That said you made a personal attack on a fellow member naming them in a public forum.
If you post in the Forum at least take time to have the balls to read and reflect the replies and take onboard the comments.
Now you're having a pop at me !
I accept constructive critism and like you have every right to reply, like I respect yours and all others that reply in any Forum.
Irish
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Irish I'm sure u don't have a clue what u talking about. And Duh I know what the forum is about.
The better way to reply to a forum tread is by getting to argue with those who did not have a clue whats going on. I don't have to buddy up with members to put my opinion forward, yes i reply to some treads in the forum, why because it is my right as a member in good standing. That is also my right to have my own preferences. But as i said in previous notes, to kill the forum , begin to play the man and not the ball. But thanks for small mercies, because people play the man not stay very long in the forum, small things amuses small minds.
Let me just say this once again if u haven't been discriminated against becoz of skin colour u wouldn't know it feels. No problem with preference. Its ur choice. Let's just treat each other with respect. After all we are all human. If I offended any of u sorry for that. I just gave my opinion.
dunno:dunno::dunno::giveup:drinkies:drinkies:
lol :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :thrilled::wave2: @ Mike_Pta.
it may seem a bit on the fence but i do .i see why kitty is confused because why would someone make contact with anyone they list as not wanted ?the only person to answer that question would be those who contacted you kitty we could speculate ...i have met couples and had tons of non sex fun with them because playing across the colour line and being friends are different things , and this is where i agree with adonis , we dont choose who we are attracted too .there is chemistry or there is not and some people have a hard time finding those different to them as attractive .to call that prejudice would be the same as calling a straight guy a homophobe .something else we should consider is that over time people change and perhaps they are more open to new things .now in my time here i have heard stories of couples who will not play with any couple who have crossed the race line , and i believe there is that sort of pressure in certain circles (and this i would say is prejudice ) .that could be a reason why people list the race issue but still contact the un desired (just a thought ) .i wonder if a "race curious" option would be viable .i have also seen profiles of non white people listing their own race as undesirable because they want to experiment here , yet we don't say they are prejudice do we ?and what would we say about a profile which lists woman of any race acceptable but white guys only ...and they do exist ....in closing there is a line from movie "as good as it gets " where jack Nicholson plays a bigot with ocd and he befriends his gay neighbour and a scene where his gay neighbour says "i love you " and jack replies "i tell you i wish that did it for me " rotflmao