waste of time

30 May 2013

Quote by hairym36
why do people do this,spend days talking then get around to setting up dates to meet ,then the excuses start,this came up,that happened ,people if you dont want to meet PLEASE do not waste other peoples time,this is how sites like this get bad names

I agree and not to mention when you send someone a message they dont even have the balls to decline your off or tell you they not interested. srely if you send someone a messagee they should be honoured and at least have manners and say you mot intertested or your profile dont match good luck with your search. guys come one is someone sends a message at least respond its the right thing to do. I only wish there was a block button so i could block those rude people that dont reply.
if your profile is specific in what you are looking for then those outside of that requirement should not even ask, we try and reply to everyone, but when you sometimes get 10 or so msg's a day from people that say 'maybe i'm the exception' it does get tedious
we do however try to reply to everyone, even those that are obviously not what we are asking for

8 Jun 2013

We have been VERY successful in making friends via this site. We have met over 10 couples and singles (we have not played with them all, however, we have maintained a friendship with the majority). Not one person/couple has ever "not shown up" for a prearranged meeting with us. We may just be lucky??? However, we think that experience and patience does contribute to our "good luck". We have found that chatting here and getting to know folk has definitely helped because it gave us the opportunity to convey that: meeting us in person is not a guarantee or promise of sex......this takes the pressure off everyone and things then can take a natural (sometimes VERY sensual and sexual) course. PS: in the previous comments about " organizing a gang bang for the Mrs where none of the guys arrived" or/and in the case where "strangers" are invited to a pvt party. As sexy and exciting as these scenarios may initially appear/sound to the folk being invited, when it comes to the actual event ie when the reality hits home, a lot of people may be too nervous or afraid to actually follow through as they realize the pressure is on to perform.....

1 Jul 2013

Quote by newbie6576
We been there many times. It is frustrating not even that the people don't rock up also when you write an "Honest Message" that they are not even reply. Two honest words "Not interested" would do. If not even that comes these ppl even closer in the line to be in the box of fakes. Swinging should be about respect and honesty.
Yes ,we are verry picky and honest that's why we not contacting anybody.
We are thinking to name and shame the people what waste our time and don't show up without calling.

Hi!
I completely agree with your comment. Can we not start a thread naming people who are not what they say they are? I think it's only fair and the reason why this type of life style can have a bad reputation is down to the dishonesty. If you are really keen to have what you ask for in your profile then be real. Don't mess with other people. If you don't like the other person/ couple profile then just say so... Don't lead it some where where some one is going to get hurt!

2 Jul 2013

@ PlayingNice - No, You CAN NOT NAME AND SHAME.
We have made this ruling several times on the forum and no you may not.
You CAN however report all and EVERY incidence of bad behaviour and the moderators/adminwilltake action.
Personally I support a zero tolerance for abusive behaviour, but on the issue of not pitching - there can be any number of reasons... life happens guys. Sure we've even missed a couple of casual connections ("we might be around" type conversations) - but NEVER made a promise of a specific meeting time and place and JUST NOT PITCHED.
@anal_man - PLEASE note that "single male" and "straight male" are not the same thing, the first has to do with marital status (or in this case - playing alone) and the second has to do with sexual orientation. So assuming that one means the other sets you up for responses like that.
@ Vee1 - if you aren't getting a good response with your current MO, after a long time - it's time to update your profile, have a good look at your approach and maybe refine your skills doll! smile

@Adonis - Agreed! Report! Get them gone!
@playcouple - It is true, responding to endless messages from people who clearly haven't bothered to even look at your profile is very very discouraging - but on that note to all those whining about people not even saying no thanks. You should see some of the responses to "no thanks" that I have seen - people get mean - abusive, rude, horrific actually.. such tender little egos.. so sad - but if you're already having a tough day who needs to deal with a sad defective individual who clearly can't take "no thanks" and see it as a massive personal rejection - so "no thanks" goes to the very bottom of the list of priorities... It sometimes just takes too much energy. And you never can tell which people are going to behave like that either... so it's always a gamble..