we are a young couple, new to the lifestyle, however we are fast loosing faith in the lifestyle as people around here just want to chat and play email ping pong, or they make a meeting and then vanish leaving you hanging.
we are slowly but surely getting tired of this nonsense
any suggestions as to where we can find real swingers,(not men they easy to find)
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Welcome to forums bks_kinkycpl..
I would advise you guys to go to a few swinger clubs...go see if there is people who falls into your age group and what is happening...that is the only way to really really see if Swing is something you might enjoy.
On the site it is not easy to really connect,there are couples who do have private parties, look under the parties and ask if you may attend.
Or invite a lot of people for coffee...out of the NO shows....the lot who disappears...you may find one couple that pitches and that you might like.
But do not loose faith there is people feeling just like you guys....just keep on browsing and sending out invites to meet.
Best of luck.
Quote by Pussinboots1
Welcome to forums bks_kinkycpl..
I would advise you guys to go to a few swinger clubs...go see if there is people who falls into your age group and what is happening...that is the only way to really really see if Swing is something you might enjoy.
On the site it is not easy to really connect,there are couples who do have private parties, look under the parties and ask if you may attend.
Or invite a lot of people for coffee...out of the NO shows....the lot who disappears...you may find one couple that pitches and that you might like.
But do not loose faith there is people feeling just like you guys....just keep on browsing and sending out invites to meet.
Best of luck.
Hi PB
It is not about finding the people that irritates us, it is the people that 1. make arrangements with you and then when it come to the crunch they turn their phones off and leave you hanging, and 2. yes lets meet and then dissappear or give you the run around.
Strangely enough it is not the men (like most people seem to think) but rather the couples and ladies that do it.
We were made to believe that this is an open lifestyle. my question is that if people cant even be honest, how can they be open.
Orgasminator
Unfortunately you will come across people like that on every site, you have to work at it to avoid disappointment, my advice is to see if the people you are arranging a meet with have been verified, you should also be able to see who has verified them so it may be worth dropping them a PM, you may even make new friends, chat in private and see them on cam and, talk to both parties on the phone.
We will be updating this site later in the year and will probably be adding the ability for others to add feedback if the member concerned allows it, that should help.
Sex God
Hi PB
It is not about finding the people that irritates us, it is the people that 1. make arrangements with you and then when it come to the crunch they turn their phones off and leave you hanging, and 2. yes lets meet and then dissappear or give you the run around.
Strangely enough it is not the men (like most people seem to think) but rather the couples and ladies that do it.
We were made to believe that this is an open lifestyle. my question is that if people cant even be honest, how can they be open.
@bks_kinkycpl, this is an unfortunate situation with any site like this. Another unfortunate thing is that a number of those so called ladies and couples are in fact probably men or teenage children. @daddy3866 makes a good point, have pictures and request pictures while chatting even before considering meeting
It is not about finding the people that irritates us, it is the people that 1. make arrangements with you and then when it come to the crunch they turn their phones off and leave you hanging, and 2. yes lets meet and then dissappear or give you the run around.
Strangely enough it is not the men (like most people seem to think) but rather the couples and ladies that do it.
We were made to believe that this is an open lifestyle. my question is that if people cant even be honest, how can they be open.
@bks_kinkycpl, this is an unfortunate situation with any site like this. Another unfortunate thing is that a number of those so called ladies and couples are in fact probably men or teenage children. @daddy3866 makes a good point, have pictures and request pictures while chatting even before considering meeting
Your profile does not say that single males are welcome, but your ad does? Many do not go as far as reading the ad if the profile does not have the boxes checked.
No pics.. The serious ones are probably closing your profile as fast as they open it. People want to sneak peek, no-one really likes a "blind date"... Miss Word on the other end of a keyboard, Rosanne Barr in real life...
As for people arranging meets and not pitching, that is just rude on their part I think. I am sure that after a chat or two - you guys supply them with pics, etc. So no reason to drop you. Many people on here are genuinely serious. From my experience: Forum posters and people that are in the chatroom everyday are mostly here for a genuine meet.
I think you are arranging meets with the wrong people. Skip the "curious ones", meet the "serious ones"...
Having said that - I feel your frustration! Bouncing mails that leed nowhere get irritating!
I suggest talking in private to verified members and ask them for suggestions.. ie: people that they know for a fact are active and will meet.
Quote by Stamina
Your profile does not say that single males are welcome, but your ad does? Many do not go as far as reading the ad if the profile does not have the boxes checked.
No pics.. The serious ones are probably closing your profile as fast as they open it. People want to sneak peek, no-one really likes a "blind date"... Miss Word on the other end of a keyboard, Rosanne Barr in real life...
As for people arranging meets and not pitching, that is just rude on their part I think. I am sure that after a chat or two - you guys supply them with pics, etc. So no reason to drop you. Many people on here are genuinely serious. From my experience: Forum posters and people that are in the chatroom everyday are mostly here for a genuine meet.
I think you are arranging meets with the wrong people. Skip the "curious ones", meet the "serious ones"...
Having said that - I feel your frustration! Bouncing mails that leed nowhere get irritating!
I suggest talking in private to verified members and ask them for suggestions.. ie: people that they know for a fact are active and will meet.
i agree with the Pic thing , we don't even look at profiles without a few pics , if you want to be taken seriously here you need to show a "sneak peek" as you say .
we have had 3 meets on here and each time the people did show and all 3 were fantastic meets
Sex God
Quote by daddy3866
Your profile does not say that single males are welcome, but your ad does? Many do not go as far as reading the ad if the profile does not have the boxes checked.
No pics.. The serious ones are probably closing your profile as fast as they open it. People want to sneak peek, no-one really likes a "blind date"... Miss Word on the other end of a keyboard, Rosanne Barr in real life...
As for people arranging meets and not pitching, that is just rude on their part I think. I am sure that after a chat or two - you guys supply them with pics, etc. So no reason to drop you. Many people on here are genuinely serious. From my experience: Forum posters and people that are in the chatroom everyday are mostly here for a genuine meet.
I think you are arranging meets with the wrong people. Skip the "curious ones", meet the "serious ones"...
Having said that - I feel your frustration! Bouncing mails that leed nowhere get irritating!
I suggest talking in private to verified members and ask them for suggestions.. ie: people that they know for a fact are active and will meet.
i agree with the Pic thing , we don't even look at profiles without a few pics , if you want to be taken seriously here you need to show a "sneak peek" as you say .
we have had 3 meets on here and each time the people did show and all 3 were fantastic meets
I had one meet that stands out in my memory the most, it was with a lady who from the start said "I want to see a face pic & I'll send you mine, so we can see if there is even a slight mutual attraction and we don't waste each others time" I thought ok, this meet is not going to happen. I sent the picture (as did she) she then responded requesting address and said "I am busy for an hour, will contact you later" I thought well that was to be expected. anyway, a little over an hour later my phone goes beep beep and it's her saying "ok, I followed your directions but cant' find the building" the lady was outside as promised . . . . . So what I'm trying to say here is that this is a different lifestyle and one has to take "safe chances" don't put your face (not a clear pic anyway) on your profile or your album, but have something there that people can see is not taken from an advert or the internet somewhere (remember, if a meet happens and you have a pic that shows you weigh 65kg and you are actually 85kg's . . .well enough said) the real people like yourself will want to meet and you will have wonderful experiences.
I know a lot of this all sounds like basic information, but I assure you we all tend to forget it sometimes, so having the forums is like having a refresher course sometimes . ..
