Hi there, great idea,
for starters I would say the venues is extremely important, the layout and atmosphere created when one walks in has a huge impact on relaxing the participants.
Then id suggest you start small first, to test the waters and interest, as experience has taught many of us on here, if you 20 couples/singles agree to hook up, if 5 actually pitch then you are lucky.
Happy planning.....
Thank you, I have awesome venue, intimate and will create a great warm,sensual atmosphere. Adjust lighting etc. The parties and clubs I've been to had harsh bright lights, difficult to have fun when you self conscious. Also naked in a jacuzzi for my first time was horrible. All the men were oogling any, was so uncomfy. Who made that stupid "you have to be naked" rule anyway.
Having your goodies over exposed does not make one feel attractive, well this one.
I have asked people to pay a deposit because the last few parties I've had, I've over catered and that and few people pitched.
Ms Kitty could you give us an I idea on the venue....
Is there a jacuzzi?? dancing space, how many rooms and what is the areas and how big is the social areas??
We can not really give specific input if that is not known.
I agree with adam_1.... go smaller rather than bigger!!!! it is more intimate and more relaxing than a LARGER group of just strange people
Plan these parties more regular and thus more people get the chance to you get known for decent parties your attendance will grow and your parties will be more in demand.
Just ensure there is enough safe parking
Also as the hostess you should NOT really play that much, but move around MORE!!! and make sure your friends are comfortable and not lonely and meeting each other.
Not saying you can not play...just not so much you neglect the people you have invited.
but the basic is.....
THERE is no written rule that says YOU or anyone has to be naked!!! It is the HOST`s rule and that is NOT really kosher, as you yourself said not everyone is comfy in being naked.
YOU can send out a list of things the people might wanna bring with..like a sarong when they feel like wandering around naked. EVEN men can wear one!!!
Soft lighting is nice!!! But not so much that you can not see what is going on!!
A lot of comfortable chairs!! and benches and little coffee tables for drinks.
Catering not as important...just mostly snacks , own drinks usually is okay!!MAKE sure everyone understands that!!!!!!Enough ice and glasses and plates.
Good SOFT back ground music!!! NOT to loud....and change the music so everyone gets to hear something they might like!!!
Or even to dance too!!
Rooms are important ( some ideas)
PUT the RULES of each room on the doors for the people to read!!!
Room for massages and touching games.
A voyeurs space or room!!!!
A room which is PRIVATE...
A room where couples can SHARE and can have same room sex
A Naughty room where a little orgy can happen if so inclined.
A kinky room is you can...JUST your basic kinky...like a swing if you can get one..and have it mounted!! and ready to use
a few basic kinky stuff...LIKE rope or leather bondage cufffs /some blindfolds in the way of silky strips of material...just to keep things nice and clean a little flogger more for tease than hurting....a few feathers...and such....
A room if possible people can leave their private stuff SAFELY and change into more comfortable clothes!!!Like hangers for clothes to be hanged up on....
Sorry if I say safely...BUT it does happen that stuff can disappear.
In the play areas
Clean beds with just a sheet and some pillows( I always felt comfortable when the sheets could be changed after each play,specially if the lady squirts)NOT nice to go into a room and the sheets is used and soiled.( you could make the rule that the last couple using should also change the sheet and have a dirty hamper there for the sheets and a lot of clean sheets!!! And sorry to say this, but sometimes people are rude and ignore rules,thus you may have to enter the rooms frequently yourself and will have to change the sheets yourself in the end.
A bin in each room and toilets for disposal of condoms
A bowl of condoms to use (if you can not buy, go get some government free condoms!!
Some gloves ...and dams.
Some lube`s and massage oils.
Some paper towels and some hand wipes.
Bath rooms some clean towels and dirty hamper basket for the dirty ones.
Enough toilet paper(sounds like this is something that should not be mentioned...but it is actually vital )
Other ideas is
You could make it that for the first half hour of entering that the person wears their name & profile name just so everyone knows who is who.
You could line up a few nice naughty games to break the ice.....and only if all feels comfortable with that.
Some oil rubs and such.....
BUT the main thing is make everyone FEEL welcome and SPECIAL and make sure everyone is having a great time even if you have a BUSY time and not as much play time!!!
Your list of what you want the people to bring with can make your life easier like their own hand-wipes and condoms towels and massage oils and toys....BUT I ALSO know that there will be people who will BRING nothing of the sort and will think that they have paid thus you will have to provide!!!
Sorry for the LONG comment.... I know others will give more input as well!!
the MOST important thing is...ENJOY ENJOY!!!!!
Great reply PIB :thumbup:
Thanks PIB, well I have thought about everything except the blind folds, dams and gloves.
Will include that. I care about catering, a lot of folks like me, get famished after play lol. So im serving finger foods. I have made a list of everything ppl should bring eg. Towels etc, because there is a pool and jacuzzis. There's a laps and I suppose a place to dance. There are pvt rooms, all sorted with extra linen and cleaners.
I've set out rules and will have a welcome intro when everyone gets there. Thank you so much for input.
Anyone else? Please your suggestions.
Something I saw in London that I haven't in SA is the use of colour coded weistbands so people know what you looking for in terms of play partners.
