Total financial costs of a play session...

Hi all, this is our first forum post.... here it goes!

Warning: This is a boring and unsexy post, but I'm not sure if any others have thought about this?

Mrs and I have a play session, usually involving a bull and sometimes a couple, about 4 or 6 times a year. We are quite over the club scene and prefer more intimate, private meets. We prefer not to play at home, so we always rent a nice, classy Airbnb or 5 star hotel. We find that being somewhere fancy and classy adds to the excitement of a play session.

Now, we are not short on cash or anything, also far from being frugal, but looking back, I find that our secret, naughty hobby has been a bit pricey. When you include fine dining, alcohol, new lingerie, toys and other playtime necessities to the hotel and travelling costs, it adds up to quite an expensive weekend. Its never mattered before, but for some reason, whilst arranging our next playdate, it just dawned on me what we spend for a weekend of sexy fun.

My question is, is it at all appropriate for swingers to split some of the costs with a bull or couple, with whom they'll be paying with? If so, how does one go about raising the subject?

Looking forward to hearing some opinions on this matter... Have a lovely day!

Heya. Definitely appropriate to split the hotel, drinks costs.... New toys or lingerie you've purchased is debatable. I wouldn't agree to that. 

But shared things like hotel and food/alcohol. Absolutely. Just bring it up prior to meeting and not as the bill arrives. We'd be more than happy to split costs. 

I think differently about that(very good and inciteful,interesting post!)...

I am of the opinion that if I place an ad looking for someone/s to join Me...then as i am in control of the decisions(venue,dinner,etc)then it should be on my cost...

By the same token if I was invited to join another couple...I would never simply expect or assume that my bill is covered!

Quite an interesting post.

There’s pleasure on both ends, so the sharing costs to necessities to have a good time such as hotel, dinner, enterianmient, etc. can be split.

If the bill is split, maybe it will be able to avail more sessions of fun going forward? And, is a bull really a bull if he can’t at least take care of those things himself?

Should not be a reason why anyone is privledged  to the bill, unless the fetish runs deeper....

First of all full marks for making it an adventure. Playing in one's personal space , should be avoided for a heap of good reasons . 

We do see the cost differently tough . If you are going all out on a hotel and drinks and dinner then it's something that you have planned for . A cost you would have carried regardless . ? 

The extra person or people in that scenario is in fact the entertainment.... So to speak. 

So the cost should not be a problem if you planned it . 

Out of experience we found the people invite you to their homes because they don't really have the cash to splash . 

We used to arrange to meet for drinks , and have the hotel / guesthouse paid and sorted . If drinks works out , then surprise them with a nice place to play. 

I think in the " normal " sense if you invite someone to lunch it's implied that you are paying ? 

But if you invite a guy or couple for dinner and sex the we ( as lifestylers) expect them to pay ? 

Does the concept not remain the same. We as couples tend to use the guys as our entertainment , and only when it suits us ..... And then expect them to pay . But if we take a unicorn out ..... She is catered for ..... Are we not using them in the same way .

Oh crap I'm ranting ... Lmao sorry must be early menopause

Sure I'm in agreement partly. I believe that regardless if you're a guy or a unicorn, you should be treated the same way, fairly. Food, drinks at the hotel room... The couple pays. Assuming they set it up. If it's dinner at a restaurant before. I see no reason why the costs can't be split. Hotel room included. I do think that each situation is different each time and will need to be thought out and negotiated though.