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So I've always been a sexual or rather sensual person. Also a very curious person. I tend to try things first then decide its bad or good. 

Any way, I've been in the lifestyle a good couple of years. Ive seen and experienced some stuff, some I'd rather not repeat, some I don't understand and others I enjoyed thoroughly. I've met some a few men that have had me clawing the sheets and so Ive kept 1 or 2 around for regular hook ups. 

But its been very long time and now I want to get back into the "swing" of things. And someone asked me what my fantasy or fetish is. To tell you the truth I have no freaking idea.

I've tried some stuff but like nothing to call it a fetish. Am I like boring? Is having intense sensual sex a fetish? Someone even told me once wtf do I want on a swingers site if I don't want to f$%k. Any advice? Is there anyone with a similar issue? Am I weird?

You are not weird darling.... Many many people do not have a fetish. Many people enjoy this lifestyle more for the company and just plain old sex. Now allow me to once again stick my neck out and say. Men on here ( singles and in couples) stereotype the women here. Women are thought to be kinky wild sluts .... If you are great. If not it's also great. Explore it ( like you are doing) and find your path . It is your path and you decide what works. Don't let people and their opinions make you feel weird. 

I think we are all different and different strokes for different folks. Because society has its own rules and standards don’t feel like you are compelled to follow them. A lot of everything in this lifestyle is about labeling oneself and not having a fetish per say is fine. Don’t judge oneself based on others 

Fantasies Fetishes Kinks whatever it is called, some have and do them others don’t.

Keep doing what u do and enjoy and the rest will take care of itself 

@Sofistikitty   Only you know when you are weird really...no one else can really tell you, you are.... cause what is weird to me is not really weird to someone else...so each to his/her own.

Not everyone has a fetish or kink....but then again.....there is everyday small things that is not sex related which can be viewed as a fetish only you would know if you have a little something - something... but I would not stress about it.

As for the Fucktart/s who says you should do something cause you are on SH...once again  just ignore them, and NOPE that does NOT make you Boring!!!