Tips for Single Guys

When we first started exploring “the scene” almost 2 decades ago, there was, as is the case now, an army of single guys drooling on the sidelines, hoping to get some action without the drama that comes with romantic entanglements.

Many of these single guys moaned that they weren’t even given a chance to meet couples and prove how talented they are. Only when pointed out to them that they actually looked and seemed like the creeps women usually took pains to avoid, did they understand-

-You need to show you are sociable, in public. So attend parties and Meet and Greets. Don’t lurk in the shadows. Couples know very well what you want. But if you look like this is your obsession, you’ll be waving warning flags like crazy. 😳

-Be gracious and lekker. Swinging your work titles and German car key ring doesn’t impress people as much as you think. Nobody likes an asshole . 😎

-Dick pics. Not necessary, but necessary.

As proud as you are of your stuff, that isn’t the face that’s going to walk in the coffee-shop door, or the body shape they are expecting to see. BUT, have a dick pic available in your album ( and No, No, NO.. not the lame comparison to a toilet roll !) Why? Well, most women already have an average cock in their bed. If they are going to go through the trouble of arranging babysitters, waxing, having nails done, then it might as well be for something bigger than they usually enjoy. So, don’t forget to include a pic so she can decide whether it’s worth her time 😉

-Learn to handle rejection. We used to have a policy of “First Reject” at CapeFantasy years back. If the dude’s face falls, and he suddenly becomes less nice, then great. We dodged that bullet. If he is cool and accepts that there is no chemistry, then later on that evening we might pull him into a room with us, and shut the door.

-Presentation is that snapshot you present of yourself.

If u spel lyk dis, it’s a turnoff to many intelligent people.

If you’re drunk, loud and insistent, how are you going to be in an intimate situation, where you need to be honest and considerate?

Be a nice, open guy with nothing to hide, and you’ll be very popular.

Our 2c to add to this…………

Relating to profiles here

1. Read the couples profile before messaging. Hints are left of how to approach.

2. Don’t send messages saying “im horny” or “im in your area” and “wanna fuck”. These messages are highly disrespectful

3. Don’t send friend requests when you have never engaged to couple at all.

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Our 2c to add to this…………

Relating to profiles here

1. Read the couples profile before messaging. Hints are left of how to approach.

2. Don’t send messages saying “im horny” or “im in your area” and “wanna fuck”. These messages are highly disrespectful

3. Don’t send friend requests when you have never engaged to couple at all.

We totally agree !

If our profile says “ no friend requests if we haven’t met”, your unsolicited friend request screams that you are an inconsiderate lout who doesn’t work well with others. You’ll be ignored , like you ignored the gentle hints on our profile.

If your msg is “ be in your area tomorrow. Wanna play with a horny cock?” .. Perhaps you should give one of our local sex workers a call.

Thank you for this, I as a single male really appreciate it, But I do have some question in response;

• What would be an acceptable first message? Because "Hi" is too generic and a waste of a message, But I also don't want to write a full Paragraph.

• How do you politely ask for a response even a negative one to help improve yourself, I understand most accounts are free and don't want to waste a message saying no. But if I don't know why people reject me how can I improve?

I must be honest, i dont see why this site even allows single men to join... single guys have such a bad reputation that it has been impossible for me to get meets....
you cant get vouches if you cant get a hook up... pity

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Thank you for this, I as a single male really appreciate it, But I do have some question in response;

• What would be an acceptable first message? Because "Hi" is too generic and a waste of a message, But I also don't want to write a full Paragraph.

• How do you politely ask for a response even a negative one to help improve yourself, I understand most accounts are free and don't want to waste a message saying no. But if I don't know why people reject me how can I improve?

Dude...write the paragraph. You already have a decent profile with pics and an "about" section that explains what you are looking for. We instantly get annoyed with a generic "hi" message, cause for us it means you skipped the part that we're not interested in endless chatting. Your first message is your foot in the door...so put in the effort and do the paragraph. Be yourself, the right couple/lady will appreciate it.

We cannot believe how many single gents send a message saying one word, 'Hi' or 'Hello'...

Little wonder you guys are on this site trying to get laid, this approach won't work here and won't work outs this lifestyle.

Tell us what you ate about, where you are, what turns you on. We don't want to know the size of your penis (yet), or heavy details.