Tips for guys

Guys, some of you wonder why it's so damn difficult to meet anyone from the site. May I give you a few tips to make life easier?

1.     Put some effort into your profile. Say something about yourself. Yes, it might be boring to sit down and write stuff, but if you can't make the effort to write a few words, how much effort will you put into chatting/meeting/entertaining with a lady?
      
2. If your profile contains only pics of your dick, it pretty much says that you're a dick. And ladies prefer not to meet with dicks. Keep those pics if they make you proud, but then put them in a folder labled "my most prized posession" or something. If you don't want to publish a face pic, that's fine, but getting assaulted with a dick pic as soon as you open a profile can be quite disheartening.
      
3. If your relationship status says "unspecified", then it says you are one of those people who hide stuff. Rather be straightforward and say "married" even if you are playing without consent. Very few women would take a chance on meeting some sketchy guy, and if you can't even state your relationship status, it makes you sketchy.
     
4.  Contrary to popular belief, this site is not there for guys to find easy, quick, cheap sex. If you treat a lady like an easy, quick and cheap object, you will most probably find the ladies become cumbersome and difficult, labour intensive and pretty darn unobtainable.
    
5.    Be trustworthy. It helps. If you make arrangements with someone, stick to them. If you request to join a party, attend. If you don't, you will lose credibility, and believe me, ladies talk.
    
6.   Last but not least, vouches help. If you meet with someone, ask them to vouch for you. If you've been on the site for 5 years but nobody has liked you enough to even vouch once, you're either a pic collector, an untrustworthy SOB (see nr. 5) or simply not a nice person.
     
7.  That's it for now. Use it, don't use it. It's all up to you.]

All good comments Jess. Thanks. Will check that my profile ticks all the boxes.

Excellent observations, Jess!!

Hi Jess, and thanks for a relevant read. I would say 1,2 and 5 are the most important. Of late I been reading so many posts and adverts where guys complain the site is boring etc etc. It does make me come to the conclusion that people want maximum output with little to no effort, and I’m afraid that this is the wrong platform. 

I think to add to your comments, when contacting people make sure u read their profile properly and only respond if you meet all their criteria, yes some people bend their own rules, but that’s not for u to decide. When approaching people type a proper decent well versed mail. Formulate and punctuate your sentences, don’t use short / type messaging as I think it shows lack of effort. And use a language that you are comfortable with. 

The above doesn’t guarantee a response as I have learned and find frustrating about people, but that’s on them not you.

Key is patience and manners and thou shall receive desired outcomes 

Good Luck

And here's my 2cents......Read and understand what the word "Dogging" means....(and the rules)

Two dudes in a toilet in a mall is not dogging......and anonymous ads are seen as fake.

Placing ads such as..."Need a fuck today". .."Will lick you till you explode"....really guys...show some respect. ....abe

Jess, thank you very much for your forum post. I have met with all your criteria, and yet, I find it very difficult to make friends on the site. It took me a long time to understand why, but the penny eventually dropped and the clue lies in your point number 4. It is unfortunately true that a very large proportion of single men on this site, and perhaps in the lifestyle (including bullshitters with couples profiles) think the site is there for guys to find easy, quick, cheap sex.  Very quickly, or over some time, the lady feels like an easy, quick and cheap object and then treat ALL single men with suspicion, and who could blame them?

Insightful thanks for sharing