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Time to retire??

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So I've been an active and not so active member of this site since 2014 or so. I've met many people that I'm still aquainted with. Have had bad and good experiences and boy, have I learnt and seen some things. I've had two serious relationships with guys I've met here as well and even met life long friends that are singles and couples. I've even help run a swingers events company.

But, I don't really play anymore and things are just not the same. Not sure if the novelty has worn off or if it's because I've had years of different experiences, if it's because I'm older and listless. Is it the whole COVID pandemic??? I'm not sure, but I feel like it's time to throw in the towel.

I mean I do still crave sensual sexual encounters, but it just seems to be getting to be to much admin. Sigh, I'm just so out of it. Anyone else feeling like this??

Yes am feeling the same..it's just becoming way to much admin..yes I do understand that's its a swinging site..but there is a shortage of single woman and the few that are on the site are overwhelmed with messages and from what I can gather the quality of the messages are very primal...

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Yes am feeling the same..it's just becoming way to much admin..yes I do understand that's its a swinging site..but there is a shortage of single woman and the few that are on the site are overwhelmed with messages and from what I can gather the quality of the messages are very primal...

I can vouch for that yes, also swinging use to be erotic ,sensual and intense. Now if you mention that, guys go all "this is a sex site" as if you proposed. It seems like now it's just Jack rabbit, you the masturbation prop sort of sex...it's not the same anymore

We are totally with you here Sofistikitty. Met some wonderful people, some real friends and had some very memorable erotic experiences, although to be realistic, those were few and far between. Maybe as you say it is an age, or more specifically a maturity thing in that there is so much bullshit and disappointment to cut through to get to the few good bits. Of course we still enjoy sex but life is way too short to waste one's time humoring self-absorbed, self-serving people only interested in ticking boxes, at the expense of everyone else

Ditto the feeling. The disappointments are far more than the sensual erotic encounters and what a pity.