The nuts and bolts: Have you ever taken one for the team?

24 Dec 2013

Have you or your partner ever "taken one for the team"? Engaged with a couple/one of a couple, because your partner liked the other member of the couple (IN OTHER WORDS: if your lady liked him/ her/them both and you liked neither or the chick didn't 'do it for you'.. would you still shag the other woman for your lady to have fun? or vice versa) So far I've been with a guy who I wasn't REALLY into (and still am not), so that my hubby could watch - so mainly for his pleasure - but I still actually got satisfied in the process so it wasn't all bad, but the thing is, I'm never excited or thrilled at the idea of a repeat coz there's no chemsitry and he isn't flirty with me at all... in fact he's more friendly with the hubby smile

I don't think I could ever shag someone who I felt turned off by in some way...

24 Dec 2013

Very good point you made. We did it in the past but decide against it, rather to be honest with each other, when it became to take one for the team, we rather play single as long as we have each consent of the single. I put it in the forum once that to find two couples that all 4 of the group find chemistry looked like once in a bluemoon. In the beginning we decide that we will stay with couples but we change our mind because of we don't want to play for the ream. We enjoy the lifestyle so much more, and that not saying, we did not play with couples any more.

24 Dec 2013

Been there, and done that. This was our nightmare scenario, which almost destroyed our marriage. After much fighting and arguing we now have a firm rule, It takes 2 yes's to continue but only 1 No to call it all off.

24 Dec 2013

Quote by MIKE_
Been there, and done that.
This was our nightmare scenario, which almost destroyed our marriage.
After much fighting and arguing we now have a firm rule, It takes 2 yes's to continue but only 1 No to call it all off.

A good rule I think smile

24 Dec 2013

Quote by LeeEC
Have you or your partner ever "taken one for the team"?
Engaged with a couple/one of a couple, because your partner liked the other member of the couple
(IN OTHER WORDS: if your lady liked him/ her/them both and you liked neither or the chick didn't 'do it for you'.. would you still shag the other woman for your lady to have fun? or vice versa)
So far I've been with a guy who I wasn't REALLY into (and still am not), so that my hubby could watch - so mainly for his pleasure - but I still actually got satisfied in the process so it wasn't all bad, but the thing is, I'm never excited or thrilled at the idea of a repeat coz there's no chemsitry and he isn't flirty with me at all... in fact he's more friendly with the hubby
I don't think I could ever shag someone who I felt turned off by in some way...

A thought provoker this is indeed . . . . knowing about the "taking one for the team" experience is one thing. But now I am wondering how many times we are not even aware of which ever partner at the time had that frame of mind . . .
I do remember one time where my relevant other at that moment was only kind of into the idea of a third person but went with it anyway . . . . . bitch would not let me get near either one of them the chemistry was so electric between them :grin:

24 Dec 2013

Well this one is a scary idea. We have a rule and that is a a word or a saying and if any one of us that is Joy and myself feel something is not right and if Joy or myself use those words we stop at once. Even if i am about to enter the other lady I stop. On this way no one takes one for the team. Although i think every time Joy gives me that look. like in what the hell must she do with such a small thing. She is taking one for the team. I mean can you imagine everything gets stopped because the guy tool so small :twisted: Rider Been blessed, can bite you in the ass sometimes:twisted: lol

24 Dec 2013

Yep, we both have. But that's because we derive pleasure from seeing each other in the throes of extacy.

25 Dec 2013

We have not and, our rule is, will not "take one for the team".... It's all or nothing for us!

25 Dec 2013

havent been here long, only for the last 3 or 4 months, but also have not taken one for the team. and if we met the couple, i continuesly ask my lady what shes thinking and would she want to play with them, and if she says yes: i stil ask her if she is 100% sure. that way i know that we are not doing anyone favours. and not taking one for the team.

4 Jan 2014

The moment I can see there is NO connection between one of the couples and me, all play is canceled,no questions NO bad feeling can most certainly not like everyone. No one needs to *take* one for the team.