I was referring to the stats i presented to you in the context of the swinging lifestyle.
I feel as if you are purposely trying to stir something. You not arguing on the points i have made but you taking my words and using it in a completely different context.
Looked if it comes to preferences nobody had a problem, but when it comes to ethnic there is a problem and a big problem in South Africa.
Somebody said in this tread that the ethnic thing only happen on this site. But go and looked at the other SH sites overseas and you will be surprised that they also see it as a preference.
One person, last night in the pool, said if you take a 1000 nude people they look all the same :doh:. If you believe it, that's your way of thinking. But it not say you had to play with all of them.
Haven't read all the responses, but the general sentiment seems to be that everyone has their own personal preference whether it's attraction to the same or opposite sex or both, a preference for blondes or brunettes or an attraction to bald men. So why is it a problem for people to be attracted to their own race. That being said, people's preferences and what they are attracted by is fluid and changes over time. I am also quite sure that given the time to get to know someone of another race, where there are shared interests and similar intellects, colour becomes less of an issue. But back to the point I actually wanted to make disclaimers like "race is an issue" or even the ubiquitous "colour barrier" phrase can certainly be offensive. Rather simply say that you are only seeking Caucasians/Indians/Asians/Afrikaners/Martians/whatever...
Saw this on a profile:
"Absolutely NO blacks, we don't do interracial shit..."
Still feel its preference related?
I cannot understand how you can compare sexuality to race.
Its two very differing categories. So next time we apply for an ID or university application they should ask us our sexual preference as well?
By that token we should have equality in the workplace and hire more homosexuals than heterosexuals.
Or maybe the springbok team should have atleast two homo sexual and two bi sexuals in the matchday squad?
Mr play had you grown up and lived in the UK or the states im sure race would not be such an issue as it is for you today in the bedroom.
Again shy couple made a very valid point.
Mr play......
I said race would not be an issue for you in the bedroom. I didnt call you a racist, your profile says you dont do interracial.
Operative word in the bedroom.
So seeing as you so vocal about it. If you dont mind me asking. And you can choose whether or not to answer.
Why do you not cross the proverbial racial barrier?
We all people at the end of the day?
Seems that BEE will apply here one of these days
I strategies this conversation merely as a request that those that do have a certain preference stipulate it right up front. What's interesting is however the schools of thought that emerged. I come from a background of equal opportunity, apartheid regime has not affaires me at all and I grew up fairly mixed, I.e live, schools and work. However seeing some of the comments on here and how defensive some people get, I ca see why the fight is far from over. I'm not sure if it's merely white guilt that makes you defensive, or of it's hatred towards the current government that means you paint all "non-whites" with the same brush. Or is it merely a superiority complex. Lord knows why?! All that I do know is that we have a looong way To go clearly
I'm Caucasian my wife is Asian. What I have to smile about is the mails I get that the sender's profile states this colour line preference issue. I guess what they mean is black. Or a pretty, sexy Asian just overwhelms their prefs. Or maybe a combo of pretty and female is the catalyst.
Doesn't matter to me, really. It is not a hard line racist thing necessarily, though it is a red flag for racism. Does not mean I will exclude them from consideration automatically, just think about it harder.
Sexual prefs are valid. Whatever they are, including race/culture. My bedroom is not a public facility, no need 'to offer an opportunity' to anybody.
I see no problem with such a statement in a profile. But then I've yet to go PC crazy.
:sad: it saddens me that some of us people still live in shell afraid to take a step and join in the adventures our country have to offer i have read most people from rustenburg where i am from most of them would not cross the line lets talk this through
I personally think we can decide with whom to play or not. Those who prefer to play with their own race should be respected. There are times when we would not even play with some people of our own race for one or other reason. Let's not make an issue of this and enjoy those who do cross racial lines.
This topic has been discussed at great length under the Anything Goes Forum page (numerous different threads), which is probably where it is more appropriate than here under Dogging...
Looked forward to see what this tread will use to argue the discussion
I love my stake very rare, pink in the inside, did that mean i had a problem with color.
