Well now I am confused, need advice from people that has been in the game for some time now.
Well here goes. Lets make two kind of people first. Lets call the person that made first contact with another person via the site THE HUNTER. And the person that responds to the HUNTER lets call that person the RESPONDER.
Well the hunter makes contact with you, you respond. Now the two parties get together for the first meet in public which is a neutral venue. Both parties knock it off lets say fairly well. After the meet each party goes there own way. Usually on your way home each cpl talks about the other cpl. You know did you like them ext.
Then there is a message send back and forth after wards usually saying one of two things. Sorry but we don't see it going anywhere between us or it says we do like you guys and we can see it going somewhere. and that is it.
Now things seem to run dead from this point, because the hunter does not want to sound hard up and nor does the responder
and this usually leads to a dead end and nothing comes from it :sad:
You see because if the hunter keeps pushing, the responder thinks, you the hunter are hard up and if they go ahead with meeting again, then you owe them one or visa virsa. Or am I wrong? By saying that.
So the question is how do you get it to the next level, without coming across as hard up?
Joyrider
Came people teach me more with out been ugly, as there are a few people we've met, but what then?
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Taking things to the next level. How
Orgasminator
Joyrider ek sal graag op daardie vraag my opinie gee maar kan ek dit in afrikaans doen
Orgasminator
Ek glo nie ons het raad nie maar soos ek se my opinie,
Ek wil net eers 'n stelling maak, en dit is my mening dit is in baie uitsonderlike gevalle dat die 4 persone in 2 couple met mekaar gaan reg kom, al 4 kan mekaar verdra maar dit is nie te se daar is chemistry tussen al 4 nie.
Die jagter wat die gesprek begin het glo ek is 'n jagter in natuur hy probeer kontak maak met die prooi en soos jy se die jag partie het nou al gevorder tot by ontmoeting in die oop veld en daarna word nog jag stories uit geruill maar dit loop eintlik dood.
Ek glo die prooi het hier 'n baie belangrike rol te speel. As jy gaan kyk na 'n werklike jag toneel is die prooi baie weerloos want die jagter het die eerste oorwining agter die rug. As die die prooi geen teen reaksie toon nie gaan die jagter sy lus verloor, neem maar die stellling maak of jy dood is en niks sal gebeur nie, maar hoe meer jy terugvoering gee hoe meer gaan daar reaksie wees.
So daar is 'n verandtwoordelikheid op die prooi om ook die belangstelling aan te wakker deur terugvoering te gee.
My probleem is dieselfde as julle sin, wanner besluit jy is ek nou te voor op die wa, want almal is bang vir die afval slag,
Dit is amper dieslefde alles vorder tot by die eerste speel dag en elkeen toon aan dit was gemaklik en genotvol en die gesprek begin al minder raak daarna en jy sit en wonder wat het fout gegaan.
Ek glo en dit gebeur nie ons probeer so eerlik as moontlik wees maar ons se nie vir die ander couple wat hulle dalk wil hoor nie, "Ons hou werklik baie van julle en nie ons of julle gaan dit beeindig sonder dat ons dit nie uit gesels het nie", want albei party weet nie hoe om die sitsuasie te hanteer, maar glo die jagter moet maar die leiding neem.
Hoop ek het te deur mekaar gepraat nie, wil die jag intressant hou
@ Joyrider,
Your response to the *couples* after the initial meeting sounds good ,specially the negative response sounds good with out being down putting or rude.
But you might like to change a few words throwing the ball in their corner so to speak, if you guys find them acceptable.
If they then do not respond back then you know they are maybe not as straight forwards as you guys to say *Sorry but we don't see it going anywhere between us*
But with the message reading *We do like you guys and we can see it going somewhere. Leaves a gap no one wants to cross in-case you or them sounds TOO eager!
So why not send a message that reads something like this.
We as a couple find you guys very nice and we can see it going somewhere,We are leaving our *hopefully* next meeting in your capable if you would like us to choose a venue and date, let us know.
With a message like the above, the next couple then knows you are interested and that you WANT things to go forward. But as I said, if they do not respond on that *open* invite, well they are then not really interested.
