So i have been doing stuff while i was single before i joined this site, before i even knew it was called "the lifestyle" anyway...
I recently attended a swingers club party and well my nite was f'up, basically im am a full figured woman , im not a nudist or an exibitionist just plain human. I am more comfy wearing undis or something other than my own skin when im around strangers. I dont like being under the spotlite or center of attention. When i got there we went to check out the jacuzzi i left my undis on but when i got there was told that i HAVE to be naked. I obliged and took it off and got into the water i felt stripped of my dignity if thats what i can call itand was being watched and oogled by horny pervs. I felt terrible and out of my comfort zone/element. I have never been "forced" like this before and i dont see why its a must. Am i the only one that has an issue with this ? Does becoming a swinger or joining in the lifestyle mean that u have to be comfy with strangers and ppl u dont want seeing u naked??
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Quote by Sofistikitty
but when i got there was told that i HAVE to be naked.
Some one completely took advantage of you! But my friend, have you never learned to say no?
Don't you know the ABSOLUTE MOST IMPORTANT RULE OF SWINGING???
Boys = tell her what the rule is!!
It's : LADIES RULE!!
ONLY, Always, ever... what the lady wants is what goes. Your body is only yours and the fact is that people at a party (not the conveners mind you) in a jacuzzi BULLIED someone whom they don't know into doing something they didn't want to do. BUT I need to say this - you obliged, so they probably didn't realise that you didn't want to do it.
You DO NOT EVER have to do anything at all that you do not want to do.
PLEASE DO NOT EVER LET ANYONE DO SOMETHING LIKE THIS TO YOU AGAIN>
I was at a party and though I do not mind being naked, I do not like to be touched "there" in a hottub, it's unhygienic, causes medical issues often for me and I want to KNOW who is touching me and they need my permission before touching! Groping is not fun EVER, not even at a sex themed party - it wasn't cool when I was 16 and it's REALLY not cool at 35!
When I was touched against my will... I moved away from the culprit. I will not let anyone ruin my experience. It (my experience) & my body belongs to me only - not even my husband would try to persuade me into something I'm not 100% into (and he can be very persuasive with me and he knows it!)
REMEMBER - you rule babe! Even in your sexy undies!
Voyeur i didnt say i dont like being watched given that its not like how it was in the jacuzzi.
Matt thanks for the encouragement. No one touched me its just that i think they are stupid rules and yes i was dumb enough to oblige because i didnt wanna be the party pooper. I have though realised now that i dont like the pool or jacuzzi areas and will stay far clear from those at future parties. Just u know i came there with open mind and thought i woiuld enjoy myself if i explored, but between the "fear factor" jacuzzi incident my nite was ruined. But hey i know for next time. And big ups to the couple that organised me towels and the sexy guy that lent me his shirt for the evening lol.
I am outraged for you sweetie, Like MattLeeEC said YOU have the right to say NO always....and if it is the *RULE* of their club they should re-think it.
As a really BIG assed woman I know how you feel, I usually NEVER take off my clothes at any party,I will always be draped in a sarong, it is easy and you can be as naked as you like,and as the night goes on you can drop the top to show of breast or the front can swing open you feel really sexy I can promise you that.
Now I also know sarongs does NOT come in BIG sizes,that is why I have a few REALLY funky pieces of material that I made sarongs off and boy if that material is slinky and soft it glides against your skin and that makes you feel sexy and then it shows the sexy glow you feel.
For the hot tub, I know you can always take a bathing suit with... and wear that, NO one should have a problem with that.
You just go enjoy yourself, LUCKY for us larger ladies, there is men out there who loves larger ladies.
Hugz.
Im so glad someone gets what i mean . I felt better once i had the guys shirt on still was sexy just covered my bum and didnt have undis on...that to me is far sexier than being stark naked.
The hot tub thing totally freaked me out, as i sat my nude toosh in the jacuzzi instead of enjoying the company of the ppl i met there i was more worried by wtf just slid passed my thigh was like bathing with strangers lol . Never again i'll stay dry lol in some places that is. But i will try the sarong thing thanks a mill PIB
Say just to PiB, I am also biger woman and never liked sarongs cause they don't fit nicely! But heck now why did I not think off your idea to make some of my own!?! Thanks for that 
@kitty I hope your next clubbing experience goes much better and thnx for some of the heads up. We haven't been to a club yet but are eager to try it, so now I know to be causious of the jacuzis!
@kitty I hope your next clubbing experience goes much better and thnx for some of the heads up. We haven't been to a club yet but are eager to try it, so now I know to be causious of the jacuzis! Forum Virgin
Despite being told over and over again that my body is nothing to hide I still have certain parts of myself that I prefer not to parade. I also agree that sometimes a little cover can add to the allure. I have a lingerie fetish and I will wear it. Having said that sometimes the pressure to look and act the part can be huge. I just figure if you don't like the fact that I keep my skin under wraps at times then don't look at me. I will do what I feel comfy with....
