So a few months ago, my wife took me totally by suprise, by sheepishly suggesting that she wouldn't mind venturing down LS rabbit hole, to see where it might lead us. Now with her being your typical "plaas meisie", with a super conservative upbringing, this obviously took me totally by surprise no doubt. Anyhow, shortly after regaining consciousness, from the mere shock of this very out of character suggestion from her, we ever so eagerly started the process of finding suitable candidates. I mean, how difficult could it be? You go on the SH site, select a couple, meet up and Bob's your auntie, right? ...... right? WRONG!!
Well, to be totally honest, up untill now it has been an arduous journey for us. Sifting through the mountain of profiles (yes we actually read through the profiles), we soon came to realize that this would be all but "a simple task". Just the sheer amount of variables/personalities/preferences involved, and the potential influence these attributes might have on whether the participants will be suitable for each other or not, actually makes it redonciously difficult to find a good fit! This couple/person only prefers fit people, those do not like smokers. This person does not like facial hair, that one likes a hairy chests. This couple only likes soft swing, those couples only prefers playmates of a certain age group and the preference-lists goes on and on.
Don't get me wrong, it goes without saying that of course it is each person/couple's perogative to set their own list of preferences, but how do you actually alingn the planets of 4 individuals so that everyone is in a sexual equipoise? What is the secret? What is the key to sexual contentment?
Fortunately we have had the pleasure of meeting three super couples in the process, all of which we ended up befriending, but other than them, there is no one!
I wish I could give something the blame such as perhaps our standards might be to high, or my wife is super fussy, but this is not the case. In most cases we have not even passed the initial message stage on the website. We have obviously sent out a few messages, during our 12 month tenure in the LS and on the SH platform, but 95% of our messages were simply ignored and not even responded to. And those very very few messages which were actually replied to, numbers were exchanged, then....... nothing. No comms whatsoever. On the even fewer occassions where numbers were exchanged and actually used, a few pleasantries were exchanged, a face pic or two was swapped and again, boom! The end of the initiative.
We have not even managed to reach the point of actually meeting up for a drink/coffee in most cases. (other than one couple we met, a while ago two absolutely stunning human beings!!). Some couples would make plans, which never seem to materialize (of course no explanation needed and we harbour absolutely no hard feelings towards them, I am fairly sure they have a valid reason for their actions, no judgment here at all), or this person is not "feeling it" with that person, or the initial "Hallo" message, is not even responded to, again the list goes on and on.
Look, I'm under no delusions of grandeur, by thinking that we are the worlds most beautiful people, we are I suppose your avarage guy and gal next door, but we are not uneasy on the eyes either. Quite on the contrary, my wife is very attractive, with a super body and if I had to be patently honest, looks much better than most 25 year old women out there, but still, other than the plethora of requests from the single-gentleman army, not much "intrest" has been forthcoming from the couple front. (Which is obviously our preference). Why is that? I'm sorry, but I just don't get it. Is there perhaps some magical method of making this actually work? How exactly does one reach this illusive Swinging Summit? 🤷🏻♂️
So if anyone out there has the formula to success, please kindly share it with us, because obviously we are doing something wrong! 😄😄
D&F
