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SDM
Sex God
So, I have been around this site for a year or so, and to date like most others on this site I have had a "hit & miss" experience here, ie: some successful meets and some unsuccessful contacts, a bunch of people that where we just chat with no intention of ever meeting, some no shows and a large number of disappearing acts. BUT . . . . (there is always a but) lol lately it seems like the newest trend is: Step 1 = Hi Step 2 = request pics Step 3 = (after ignoring anything that was written is previous message) request pics Step 4 = (after ignoring question re: why they want to see pics before establishing any kind of compatibility) request pics Step 5 = request pics Step 6 = (after you send a let's rather not message) request pics Yes, I know it will simply just be the "luck of the draw" I am having at the moment, but really people, make it clear in your profile that your requirements are pics before talking (will be way less frustrating for yourself too)
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Was she blonde? Sorry sad
SDM
Sex God
Quote by LeeEC
Was she blonde? Sorry sad

Dunno, never stuck around to see pics, but there has been a few of them of late . . ..
SDM
Sex God
Quote by LeeEC
Was she blonde? Sorry sad

OR, the answer to the question could be "Dunno, she never turned up" . . . lol
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ha haha
Mike_Pta
Orgasminator
It seems some couples prefer the fantasy than actually moving past pics and wow we want to meet you.
SDM
Sex God
Quote by Mike_Pta
It seems some couples prefer the fantasy than actually moving past pics and wow we want to meet you.

Mike I wonder how many are actually couples . . . . .
Mike_Pta
Orgasminator
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Mike I wonder how many are actually couples . . . . .

Good point, lets say profiles then
Unknown User
I think for a single guy looking for couples the "rules" are slightly different. If a single guy contacts us and asks for a meet we generally do ask for a face pic so we can see if there is some attraction - yes that sounds shallow but we have to try sort the wheat from the chaff. We do return the favour and open our face pics album though
SDM
Sex God
Quote by PerfectFit
I think for a single guy looking for couples the "rules" are slightly different.
If a single guy contacts us and asks for a meet we generally do ask for a face pic so we can see if there is some attraction - yes that sounds shallow but we have to try sort the wheat from the chaff.
We do return the favour and open our face pics album though

I am sure that there are a number of people who just like you are totally "above board"
the problem with the "if there is some attraction approach" is that the person may be a seriously good looker who cannot string two sentences together, and on the other hand, a person may have all the same interests and desires as you, but because they may not be photogenic, they get the negative nod . . .
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Quote by PerfectFit
I think for a single guy looking for couples the "rules" are slightly different.
If a single guy contacts us and asks for a meet we generally do ask for a face pic so we can see if there is some attraction - yes that sounds shallow but we have to try sort the wheat from the chaff.
We do return the favour and open our face pics album though

What the hell is wrong with wanting to be attracted to the person you want to shag? My god!? That's not shallow, that's obvious- how on earth is a person supposed to be in the mood and actually enjoy a play connection without some smidgen of attraction?
And on that note - and this NEEDS to be said.. there is nothing meeting a person in person has ever told me about what kind of person they are, that they way they communicate in type hasn't already revealed.
People reveal themselves in the way they communicate, no matter the form.
That's why these forums are so interesting, coz a lot of the time people are saying stuff they don't mean to reveal, but it's there and I can see it and they probably wouldn't be happy that I can. So I don't say anything.... but it's interesting.
And besides it doesn't matter if you have a brilliant mind, if I'm not physically attracted to you.. there will be no bonking buddy..
Mike_Pta
Orgasminator
Nothing wrong with looking for a physical attraction, if your not attracted then it's not going to be fun. IMO attraction is a pyramid, Looks, brains and respect, all 3 should be present if your looking for a great night.
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@Mike - agreed on the pyramid! And thank goodness for me what people find attractive differs.....else some of us non Barbie doll ladies would have no fun at all!
georgeous
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@Mike - agreed on the pyramid!
And thank goodness for me what people find attractive differs.....else some of us non Barbie doll ladies would have no fun at all!

Yes there certainly has to be some sort of attraction. For me mainly it is about some physical attraction, intellectual attraction. Size and physique does not matter as long as they are clean and well behaved. Couldn't feel that there could be attraction if one of them had pimples all over their face.