Forums are a way to ask questions, make statements and to give YOUR opinion on what ever subject is on your mind.
By posting a Forum you are opening a door for ANYONE to make a comment,whether it is good or bad or puts you in a good or bad light.
Some times you get a response you were not thinking off when you wrote your forum and this puts you in a bad makes people think that you are small minded.
If you are not explaining yourself properly in your forum and the topic you are opening up, you come across as a bigot and ignorant person.
EVEN if this is not the normal you,and you did not intend for it to become a topic of discontent.
It can happen.
Anyone is allowed to make a statement on YOUR views.
They MAY not always be right or all knowing.
And here, I take it, anyone who is commenting on forums should know and will agree we all KNOW any statement made by a comment is NOT to be taken seriously.
It is THAT persons opinion and you as the forum poster gave him or her the right to comment.
NOT by making BAD remarks toward the commenter, cause he or she did not answer you in a way you where hoping for.
Forums also have the knack that when it goes on long enough, to become a talking session on what ever someone has answered at one stage or another,thus deviating from the original forum.
Now TODAY ,I am and was made to feel I have stepped on someone`s toes and that person is making remarks on the forums that the person is to cowardly to make to me personally,(which is the adult thing to do, mail me and complain)
OR if anyone or that person feels it should be addressed as a personal slander towards his profile, to please go ahead and REPORT ME to the moderators.
Anyone else who has a problem with my RESPONSES , please DO tell me.
BUT if you do,You also have to give me a reason WHY you find it offensive.
I may even go as far as to refrain from participating in any further discussions here in the forums.
Should there be a few complains about me and my opinions.
Just blowing of steam.....
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Slander and Forums.
Hi PiB,
I have been following the forum threads today, after having missed most of the stuff over the weekend, and can fully understand why you would want to blow off steam! Some of the forum posts today have been rather nasty and personal, and, I gather, directed at you, because you have the strength of character to speak out about issues! As you so rightly point out, this is a FORUM, where different people participate voluntarily, and differing views are and should be expressed (and thank goodness that there ARE differing views - life would be really boring if we were all the same!!). And if you start a forum discussion, you ARE inviting other people to express views that might differ from your own...
But yip - it's important that we all realise that the point here is to debate the issue or express an opinion, and NOT attack the person who has made the comment!! Guys, surely we understand that we need to "keep it clean" and refrain from personal criticisms...?
PiB, PLEASE don't stop participating in the forum! You have a lot of very well-informed and well-expressed opinion to offer, and your comments are ALWAYS worth reading! Unfortunately I did not get to read Joyrider's original comment at the start of the thread where he got upset, and it has since been deleted, so perhaps it WAS derogatory, as you suggest. Maybe just "take it from whence it comes", and move on?
I believe the SH forum is part of my "adult education", where I can be exposed to new ideas that were lacking in my formal education and earlier upbringing. And so I look forward to reading posts, especially posts like yours which invariably make a lot of good sense. So for the (rather selfish, I must admit!) benefit of my (and I believe, a number of other people's as well!) continuing education, please keep the posts and comments cumming!! In my case, they are genuinely appreciated! 
Personally, Puss, I think your posts were very kind.
I would have been a bit less tactful and would undoubtedly have littered my posts with vulgarities like "pussy"! :grin: I know that would be ungentlemanly of me...but that's ok - a lady should never be a gentleman
Vent away sweetheart, I doubt anybody's going to support the idea of you leaving the forum! I know we don't!
Cam.
Vent away sweetheart, I doubt anybody's going to support the idea of you leaving the forum! I know we don't!
Cam. 
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...................and take it like a man - or woman!
Freedom of speech and all that.
PIB, at least you don't hold back, and there are a few of us who contribute to the Forum who also have strong opinions. But that doesn't mean that one should be opinionated!! There's a difference.
While we do vent our spleens sometimes, or just offer an opinion on a subject there is absolutely no reason whatsoever to get personal and vindictive. If a member has a problem with any statement by another member, say so - TO THAT MEMBER!! Don't hint and play with words.
I often get angry about things or have something I wish to express or get off my chest. I don't give a flying shit (sorry, Rider, but that's how I speak) who may get offended. Bloody well grow up and get over it. This is the real world.
I will however, not be offensive - again, there's a difference. Rudeness and personal attacks havew no place on this Forum.
There! Said it! Now I feel a whole lot better.
Quote by CamFun
Personally, Puss, I think your posts were very kind.
I would have been a bit less tactful and would undoubtedly have littered my posts with vulgarities like "pussy"! :grin: I know that would be ungentlemanly of me...but that's ok - a lady should never be a gentleman
Vent away sweetheart, I doubt anybody's going to support the idea of you leaving the forum! I know we don't!
Cam.
I did read the post in question before PIB replied, and it was primarily a wandering commentary on why there exist couples on this site, who were 5 to 9 years difference in age (from each other), it went on basically to imply that all couples in this category must be somehow dicey because "if he is older then she must be a gold digger" or some such nonsense, basically relegating the larger portion of membership to this 'dodgy' category.
Falling squarely into said category, I was personally quite insulted, though when I am insulted I have learned to bite my tongue, forat least some time, which in such cases can be quite sharp, if unleashed.
PIB was, in my opinion, extremely diplomatic and explanatory of her stand, and if one is the type to react to the first four lines of a post as though it were the message contained in its entirety, this might explain a level of offence taken, however it does not excuse unseemly behaviour/response.
If you want to be asked to play in the game, you have to 'get' and follow the rules.
