Hello All
My Lover and I were having a chat about size....but before you groan and think not size thing again!
She told me about her one and only experience with a well endowed lad when she was but a lass herself and how he hurt her,as a result she sees well endowed,large huge and she shivers in dread.
Which then prompted the question do those gents who are on the larger side learn that they can't drive home the point that size alone is not the be all and end all.
To the gents what lessons have you learned over the years ? has your technique changed? Are you gung-ho or do you take your time and wait for the lady to encourage further .
And ladies...when you have decided on taking on the bigger members....were you in control , did you direct the action was it on your terms or did the moment get the better of him and pain and suffering result?
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Size ....and technique
Sexlightened
Apart from extremes on super small or super huge i believe that sex is far more than just penetration.
In my experience in order to seduce a woman....there is a thing called intellectual stimulation. If you get that right it doesnt matter how big small you are.
Woman want to be seduced not just boned. In fact for me sex starts at foreplay a total body experience. Penetration is just penetration if you catch my drift.
It also depends on how at ease she is and how wet she is as well as how considerate the guy is.
If he just rams it in then yes it will hurt but if you take your time to stimulate slowly it shouldnt be a problem.
My 2c
Warming the Bed
My 2c
there are the woman that give me one look and just want to ride the shit out of me as the see the my size and then there are the ones that just plain out sais there is now way I'm getting close to them.
Being huge has its down falls as well.
This just makes for a long fore play and gentle, patient approach to penetration.
And from my missis point of view you do get guys that's just to small, and then they the ones that needs to take extra care putting enough time into fore play and making sure their hands and tongue make up for their short Cummings.
Master of Sex
Honestly its always a nice surprise when a guy reveals a nice package...this could be large or average. I find that if a guys technique (slow gentle) is good then i dont have that much pain. The pain usually comes after the deed like lower adomen pains and sometimes a tear. But thats when we get carried away then again the more u do it the less it hurts. If a guy is large in length, different positions and ways a woman positions herself could help to- else you get your "furniture" rearranged lol.
Also its true what Amethyst said is that seduction and arousing a woman is the key.
You guys know what is being said about shoe size, or the thickness of your wrists...or the length between your out stretched thumb and forefinger....
For those who does not know ...it is supposedly to indicate a males genital length and girth.
The same can be said about a ladies feet, if she has petite small feet it is an indication that she is *small* and petite down yonder.
Ladies can take the initiative when playing with a very large man, genital wise that is, she usually will take the *top* as to lower herself just so far as she is comfortable with....or can prevent to deep a thrusting,by holding the penis at the ding all that takes some pleasure away...as you are to scared to really relax.
Lotsa LUBE WILL ALSO help preventing the tearing and pain....Myself I like an *normal* to rather smaller penis, then I know I am *safe*!!!!
so guys with normal to small penises know you re really LIKED by most ladies.
The beauty about vaginas is that they stretch when adequately aroused, enough to fit a fist!
There is always a bit of excitement when playing with a well-endowed guy, as I am always curious as to how much will actually go in!
I have a wonderfully tight vagina, and can squeeze just one finger out of me if I wanted to, so allowing myself to be stretched is always nice!
Again, the beauty of a vagina is that it can go from holding onto/accommodating a thick member to being able to hold onto a finger within a matter of a minute!
;)
C
Thanks for all the replies.
I fully appreciate that for many if not most ladies the joy of sex beginsway before the clothes come off. And for men that do have a larger specimen that they do realise that they need to be considerate in their approach and by the sounds of things they generally are.i was never my intention to rehash the old "does size count" or "bigger os better" debates. I merely wanted to show my partner that the one nad experience is not indicative of the future.
That with good communication and the a understanding partner of the larger persuasion that she could if she so chose enjoy the encounter and need not live in fear of a large one eyed monster.
Orgasminator
Generally I think if you take it slow with plenty of foreplay you any guy can make sex enjoyable for her.
@kc not every girl can stretch down there, I once went to a party and the girl was seriously tight, she said she loved it but eish that was far to tight. Took me a day to recover, I'm not even gonna imagine her the next day.
Quote by KC_
The beauty about vaginas is that they stretch when adequately aroused, enough to fit a fist!
There is always a bit of excitement when playing with a well-endowed guy, as I am always curious as to how much will actually go in!
I have a wonderfully tight vagina, and can squeeze just one finger out of me if I wanted to, so allowing myself to be stretched is always nice!
Again, the beauty of a vagina is that it can go from holding onto/accommodating a thick member to being able to hold onto a finger within a matter of a minute!
;)
C
erm KC_ dont forget about stretching during child birth, that's quite a bit more than a fist ;) but keep in mind the stretching varies from hour to hour, never mind day to day, some times you'll be able to get a fist in, other times you will battle to get two fingers into the same one
Quote by playcouple
erm KC_ dont forget about stretching during child birth, that's quite a bit more than a fist ;) but keep in mind the stretching varies from hour to hour, never mind day to day, some times you'll be able to get a fist in, other times you will battle to get two fingers into the same one
Very true playcouple!
I think that one's ability to stretch has lots to do with level of physical arousal, desire, what kind of mindspace one is in....
There are so many things that affect our sexuality and sexual function!
I seems that in terms of size one needs to distinguish between length and girth! excessive length seems to be a problem, as PiB pointed out, ladies don't appreciate having their cervixes bashed! FYI, the position of the cervix, depth wise, changes throughout the menstrual cycle. Gobblingirl vociferously protests at deep thrusting, guess everything about her is petite! However, as far as girth is concerned, I have yet to hear of a woman saying 'his tool was so thick he almost split me in half', but have been told that 'slender' dicks are immediately apparent (without even having been seen), definitely not as filling or satisfying. As usual, the standard things are measured by miss the point entirely! So, to all you ladies out there who actually look at all this, lets have a vote; forget long or short, what do you prefer: THICK or thin?
The central scrutinizer
14 to 15 is about average I think
Now as old age is creeping up on us and we don't have sex as much as we use4d to she cant take the really big ones anymore but still handles a friends 17 without trouble unless he penetrates herb to deep and then she is sore the next day
She has found out to control his depth and actually found that standing up gives her a lot of pleasure and depth not an issue
Another friend is in excess of 18 and very thick, cant fit a normal condom. He is very gentle and as his fetish is older people he knows how to treat them and not just bang away but slowly stretch her and make her enjoy it. After a couple of sessions with him she can again handle anything but this does not happen often as he is away a lot so maybe once a year.
I need to find her another lover around 16 witch is what she enjoys most
Quote by LeeEC
Anything from 13cm round is good for me - but I draw the line at 17! absolutely...
Ah Lee! You've just dashed my hopes now.
I'm 19cm around. And I must say, it has been an issues with woman a few times in the past. I find a lot of women are slightly intimidated when they see and or feel the girth.
Quote by Funwithcouples
Anything from 13cm round is good for me - but I draw the line at 17! absolutely...
Ah Lee! You've just dashed my hopes now.
I'm 19cm around. And I must say, it has been an issues with woman a few times in the past. I find a lot of women are slightly intimidated when they see and or feel the girth.
I should probably say that my 17cm line has rather more to do with men's general attitude to sex and how to go about it, rather than the actual size. Most guys on the thicker end of the scale tend to be of the opinion that coz you're big that's all the skill you need to have. Unfortunately, as you well know, the bigger you get the more skill is in fact required.
So the truth is.... provided you have other skills.... I might be persuaded.. the problem is, particularly with this lifestyle thing, by the time a girl realises that a guy is bigger than average and that he completely lacks the foreplay skills to compensate... ti's a bit late to say no thanks! So let me revise - if you come with references, I'll consider making concessions for size
Orgasminator
Ooooo references, we are getting fancy
Can I use this as a refference
Orgasminator
None yet;)
For now you have to make do with a spec sheet. Still imagine being able to send over a trial penis if she says you look to big in the pictures.
