Side question

Just wondering, why do some guys not wash or shower etc after they've been with you? Like they go on with their day smelling like sex or punani? Lol just curious

@sofistikitty   All I  HOPE is, YOU make them shower before playing with you!!!!!!

As for smells....LMAO   In a scene (BDSM style) many a man/woman had to go home with a punani or cum smell......then It is not really an issue.....BUT for a normal vanilla person NOT showering BEFORE play or going home is a BIG NO-NO for me....I would NEVER play with that person !!! CLEANLINESS  is one of my hard limits!!!

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Just wondering, why do some guys not wash or shower etc after they've been with you? Like they go on with their day smelling like sex or punani? Lol just curious

 Maybe they like to smell like you the whole day a but I also know that it's a fantasy of some women that they men come home smelling of anther ladies punani sort of like woman coming home with cum in they pussy 

I shower before and after, cleanliness is after all not a negotiation it's common sense. Hell sometimes you might want a shower while playing. Yes some people can give you quite a work out lol. 

Don't see people not showering after as a problem though.... Might be kink might be something else. But as long as they good , clean and fresh when we started its all tra la la .... Lol

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@sofistikitty   All I  HOPE is, YOU make them shower before playing with you!!!!!!


As for smells....LMAO   In a scene (BDSM style) many a man/woman had to go home with a punani or cum smell......then It is not really an issue.....BUT for a normal vanilla person NOT showering BEFORE play or going home is a BIG NO-NO for me....I would NEVER play with that person !!! CLEANLINESS  is one of my hard limits!!!

 No guys, you not getting what I mean. This person is super clean. Or the dudes I've been with are clean. Its like a carnal thing I think? Like they want to leave your smell on themselves?

I get what you mean, but I do sometimes KNOW that a guy can play with one lady and directly go to another play date! Hench my comment to making them shower even if they are as clean as a freshly fallen snow flake.

Punani and cum smells is a known kink. the men usually rubs the excretion of orgasms into their skin... There are men who loves to smell  any worn and dirty/used panties, I myself had a few males who asked to BUY some of my worn panties!!! there is even a method of sending smelly panties over the post to keep it nicely *fresh*...just saying....

Men mostly will tell you they feel possessive of the lady whom they smell off. It makes them feel *kinda* manly thinking on how they made their lady happy for her to excrete  a nice smelling discharge... I am sure there are people here who might even know more than me or had more experiences with the above!!

I am wondering if two clean and healthy people  meet and these two have sex why are they "dirty" to some after they have had sex to ?. What happened? When did they become unclean during the sex act?

I love love the smell of my wife at all times. We have been married 26 years. Bath or shower before sex mostly but have never showered or bathed after sex with her. At times I really enjoy having her immediately from work so I can smell and taste her while we having sex. Love the smell of her at all times. I am forever "snuffeling" (as she calls it)  on her

@Seeman  As a married couple I would not think anyone is dirty for not showering directly after sex or even before sex....BUT for a single person that is just (for me anycase) a normal procedure to ensure that I am clean and nice smelling for anyone I play with! And coming home...well I like to know I am not smelling of anyone else to make my lady love unhappy with. I would think it normal to shower before leaving to do whatever the next thing is a person are going to do for anyone who played with me!!! I also would not just jump up to go shower directly after a sexual interlude, I do like to cuddle and chat.....anyone who jumps up and scatter is like an insult to me... 

I however KNOW there is a lot of men and ladies who FEEL dirty after sex...but in the lifestyle this is not really a problem (or should not be), it is mostly a person in a very vanilla marriage with a lot of personal issues towards sex.

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@Seeman  As a married couple I would not think anyone is dirty for not showering directly after sex or even before sex....BUT for a single person that is just (for me anycase) a normal procedure to ensure that I am clean and nice smelling for anyone I play with! And coming home...well I like to know I am not smelling of anyone else to make my lady love unhappy with. I would think it normal to shower before leaving to do whatever the next thing is a person are going to do for anyone who played with me!!! I also would not just jump up to go shower directly after a sexual interlude, I do like to cuddle and chat.....anyone who jumps up and scatter is like an insult to me... 
I however KNOW there is a lot of men and ladies who FEEL dirty after sex...but in the lifestyle this is not really a problem (or should not be), it is mostly a person in a very vanilla marriage with a lot of personal issues towards sex.

yes from that angle it makes sense to take a shower afterwards.

Just in my little world I play only with my wife. There will never be a scenario "coming home to my wife smelling of anyone".

I only got married at 30 and up to 30 lived out all my fantasies. After 26 years I am still so into her. All my sexual fantasies involve her now. We are older and still just as playfull. Love watching her play with another man and then have her afterwards. And no she is not allowed to shower in between  :-)

Just trying to explain a different  viewpoint and have no problem with people who feel  otherwise. 

Love all the different people and tastes here on the forum and what makes them tick

@Seeman  I played alone, it is out of respect for my lovey that I did not like to come home smelling of anything naughty! Everyone or I must say MOST of the couples and people in the Swinging and BDSM community I know, met my lovey and My lovey knows what I did and whom with. She is just not into the things as I am. Or I have to say Things I was into...as nowadays I am , just talk and nothing more. Just as my Profile says. She used to go to all the meets and greets with me and sometimes would wait for my *playdate* to end to take me home. She is one Phenomenal lady!!! Not everyone is lucky as I am!! For the last 35 years and counting....

ive known this specific dude a few years now. So, I don't think he went to play with someone else afterward. Anyway, was curious. I mean I don't bath after because I like the smell of guys Cologne and scent on my lips and skin after a smash. But I do wash down there and if I am going out to do whatever I at least wash my hands. By I've seen guys that won't even lol its like they want to keep the smell on them. Thank gawd I'm super clean and smell like fresh clean kitty lol

its actually a bit of a turn on, thinking he wants to keep my scent on him... As if he's "marked"

If I may... I think showering before and after sex is just as important as brushing ones teeth after a meal.  It shows consideration towards your partner to always keep clean and fresh.  Makes them want more of you. My humble opinion

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If I may... I think showering before and after sex is just as important as brushing ones teeth after a meal.  It shows consideration towards your partner to always keep clean and fresh.  Makes them want more of you. My humble opinion

 im not saying he is smelling funky and is unhygenic. have you ever had a lover and just loved their scent??