Im confused, is this a sex site?
Let me explain, so many times I get messaged by men and couples that are interested. We chat a little and then they tell me what they want...and they break out " i want to fuck, u can suck my cock bla bla" or " we want u to suck my wifes pussy and fuck her with a dildo..." now maybe im mistaken but thats not swinging. Im under he impression that so e people think that this is a porn site or a place where u pick up prostitutes/whores and dont need to pay.
Also some couples think that this is te place where u pick up women that u can and i quote "fuck like a bitch". They want a female to join that the hubby can do all the things he cant do to his wife. Im sick and tired of people like this, its so offensive.
Am i wrong? Or do i not understand the concept of swinging?
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Orgasminator
You are totaly right most of the members on a site are there because they think its a porn site, yes we as a couple have our own thoughts on swinging but thats not what we see here.
Out of all the mails or whisper we received there are not one and yes not one trying to get friendship with beneffits, no its how qiuck can i fuck your wife or how fast can your wife suck my dick
Since I joined this site - this "phenomena" is repeating itself daily! Strong indication that we need some kind of measure to curb these happenings!
We have to realise that SH is not an exclusive club, where we join by invitation only (although I was actually invited by a wonderful lady, and on her invitation I joined immediately! - so maybe I'm contradicting myself 
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Naming and shaming is actually at work (sort of - don't want to start angry responses :sparring: ) in the Chat room - without making a huge issue you are just dumped! Everybody in the chat room knows that so-and-so was dumped! Whispering without permission (especially the members that actively participate) you are 'named and shamed' in front of everyone! Which is good and I can live with that!
When it comes to private mail - control can only happen when reported! The profiles that do this know that Admin cannot respond immediately so they use the hit and run method? Naming and shaming" can be a good thing (I am aware of AdminSteve's stance - see his posts) especially now that I can see that we need definite 'harsher' measures.
A great attitude off course is - "For things to change I must start with the change!" - whenever we get these kind of mails, we respectfully should inform this individual (or couple? - just added for balance sake :twisted: ) about your 'Friendship policy', etc. :cheers:
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Naming and shaming is actually at work (sort of - don't want to start angry responses :sparring: ) in the Chat room - without making a huge issue you are just dumped! Everybody in the chat room knows that so-and-so was dumped! Whispering without permission (especially the members that actively participate) you are 'named and shamed' in front of everyone! Which is good and I can live with that!
When it comes to private mail - control can only happen when reported! The profiles that do this know that Admin cannot respond immediately so they use the hit and run method? Naming and shaming" can be a good thing (I am aware of AdminSteve's stance - see his posts) especially now that I can see that we need definite 'harsher' measures.
A great attitude off course is - "For things to change I must start with the change!" - whenever we get these kind of mails, we respectfully should inform this individual (or couple? - just added for balance sake :twisted: ) about your 'Friendship policy', etc. :cheers: In any group or society you get unmannered people so it seems we have to live with it and block or ignore those that dont please us.
I also suggested name and shame but now months later I agree it would be a bad thing, who will control it and many innocent people will be named for a misunderstanding.
Read the profiles of the offenders and you will find that most of the time they are just un educated, and here I dont meen cholastic.
They are like kid's in a candy factory, eat as much as you like.
Sexpert
There is strength in unity , all for one an one for all etc, so ladies and couples might I suggest this. Form a group , or network and if one person receives an un welcomed message from someone then spread the word to your network via a private message or whisper in people in your network can choose to let others in their network know etc folks who are informed can be proactive and block the offending user, or as suggested inform him ( i doubt it would be a her) that he is on the naughty list and has been his mailbox is flooded with messages from people who have blocked him he will soon shape up and change his behaviour . before I get reprimanded for straying off the topic let me say that swinging does involve sex so in my opinion yes it is a sex site ( to a small degree ) but sex is only one dimension of what swinging is are all here for varying reasons and as we proceed down this road our fantasies change and I think we just need to find people who are looking for the same things we are.
Orgasminator
I must agree what been said' how wouldt members know of bad behaviour if people not report them, and what i say now, its my opinion, name them till Admin stop you. By that time you will have the whole site backing you
Orgasminator
What you say between yourselves is entirely up to you, we would however not allow any public form of name and shame, over the years I have seen way too many examples of people being accused of things that they were not guilty of, usually this happens when someone is refused a meet, if a public version were in place what is to stop someone saying "meet me or I will name & shame you"
To me this is a sex site!! NOT only for swingers as I as a single lady can not call myself a swinger, I am not part of a couple.
I will even go as far as to say, people who play with singles are NOT really swinging..they are sharing their spouse,with that single person.
Swinging to me is when a COUPLE have sexual interludes with another COUPLE.
But being single/ male or female or a couple or a hubby looking for a male to shag his wife or vice versa, the wife looking for a lady to shag her hubby, We are all here looking for some sexual interludes which then makes this a sex site.
But to get back to what Sofistikitty is asking and telling us...
NO one is to abuse us via mail or disrespect us because we are single females/males/couples.
I have written about this before so will not repeat and go into the details again,just scroll back and read what I think about this.
To name and shame anyone here in the forum,or chat, is shady to me.
Like AdminSteve says,and he is RIGHT, it is a tool that can be misused and abused.
Best is to keep it private and if you warn your friends by letting them know about that offending little misfit.
But then if the offending person realizes the bad manners he showed towards us,and he repents and mended his ways, How are we to know if we do not give him a second chance?
We should also remember, anyone coming on a sex site for the first time like this, has to learn how to respond and how to approach people and it remains a on going process,and we all can help teach them.
A sex site is like a candy store for starving Horny people!!
Just my 2 cents.....
I have someone to name and shame will do so with delight, because I do not care how new and inexperienced you might be I guarantee there isn't anyone on this site who doesn't know that is not polite to tell a lady you just propositioned, to
" f'#$k off and die! You piece of shit!" only with much worse spelling...
Particularly if a) the lady only asked for more info and perhaps a pic or two.
and b) you already gave her your name and cellphone number unsolicited in your first mail to her. AND HER HUSBAND.
Oh yes and c) she's married... any hubby worth his salt would want to moer a guy who spoke to his wife like that....
This is either the most incredible specimen of utter stupidity or a very seriously strung out chap in dire need of a pity lay.
Mail me if you want to know his name - only really relevant for EC members who require a person to be friends with them before playing.
OMW, OMW , now HOW RUDE can someone be??? and FOR what reason???
Reminds me of a mail I once got, after revealing in a pic who I am....
*You are not BIG, YOU ARE FUCKING FAT*
Man ,what an ego egg burst I had!!!and it is NOT as if I do not tell the people I am fat, I do!!
LOL but yeah Matt, If anyone cannot like *Lee* and can say that to her, for what ever reason, then I do not know what they want..she is one sexy lady from what I can see of your profile pics.
I would also like to take a baseball bat to them...and push it where the sun never shines.
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And he comes from the town I went to school, we were taught to be gentlemen, help a lady across the street type
Mailed him and will see what he is about
That was brave, I wasn't even brave enough to show the mail to MattEC ...
He wanted to place an add in the personals of a newspaper, advertising free bj's to any guy asking, with his cell number and name!
Matt has an evil streak....
Sexpert
Hahahaha...I know a guy who placed his neighbours house on the market....and it sold:grin::grin:
