Self LOVE

Lying in bed this morning I was wondering if the *lets chat about list/Help wanted*, I posted yesterday*  Hoping someone was BRAVE enough into giving me/us anything to sink me/our teeth into, thus starting a nice lively chat...Alas NOTHING.....

Yesterday, I asked if rb still *rubbs one out* Anyone NOT knowing the slang I use here, It means masturbates.
This of course made my mind wander.....

Now the gents can tell me I KNOW nothing about this.....Yeah WELL I AM WAITING for that!!!!!!!!

Now the usual way a gent goes about relieving his nice hard needy erection with out some help,is usually doing it while they shower, using soap or even shampoo and in some cases EVEN using the hair conditioner. Now using these products sure ensures a nice smelling clean Penis at least...and with the conditioner...Well some Nice soft pubes.

Men will use their dominant hand to firstly rub over their cock head with their thumb while ensirkling their cock, to slowly slide their hand down their shaft with a nice firm twisting grip. Maybe cup their balls to squeese , and in some instances even insert their longest finger into their anus to try and stimulate their own prostate,or just to get that so called *verboten* feeling of a full feeling of *something* IN there.
They will move and twist their hand around their cock while moving up and down, They might rub their little happy spot (the frenulum: This is a layer of tissue  under the glans penis that connects to the foreskin).  Some might even insert their little finger nail into the slit of the their pee hole or at least they will try! Some might even slam/wave their cock against their legs for extra feelings..and they will move faster and faster untill their spine indicates that it is time to Let go and spew (ejaculate)   OHhhhh, that peacefull enjoyment of Orgasm!!

My question here is. Has anyone ever tried something ELSE, Something to increase their self love??
Something different. Now today, I am NOT talking fleshlights or other toys, I am talking the way you stimulate yourself?
Tomorrow I might continue on the same....but hopefully someone would have told me I KNOW nothing about what I am talking about. So we can discuss WHY he or she says so. I am totally open to change my knowledge if I am wrong.....but I do have many, many years of observing and talking to men!!!!!

ermm How do I change my  wrong spelling these days???   Please note  circling  is not spelled with an  S and a K  sorry for that.

Try laying in your arm until your hand falls asleep and at the appropriate moment switch to this hand and it feels like stranger has taken over, or so I have been told. ?

@ Bob969

At least you heard of a new method...BUT never tried? 

I know about a lot of methods men can make their self love interesting and fun. I wonder how many men tell and enlighten  their sons about this, or are you guys hoping the poor boy finds out for himself. Google does give a LOT of information !!!!

@ the OTHER people reading but not making a comment, are you shy or what??? Lets hear about anything or anything you have tried or heard about.

When I was about 17 I made a sailing boat that needed a lot of sanding before painting. I used one of those orbital sanders which made the whole boat vibrate. Leaning over, my crotch touched the boat in such a way that it sent the most intense feeling coursing through my groin. needless to say 10 minutes later I had orgasmed in my pants. It was amazing. The draw back was I had to wait for my folks to go to bed before I could go inside to clean up without them seeing the huge wet spot. Will never forget it. 

Never in the shower, that is rather selfish to the next shower user! Also soaps are a bad idea for a lubricant - soap in the urethral opening burns like the blazes! Conditioner is much better but messy. Baby oil works the best.  But when in a hurry, lubricant is not always a requirement although it does always improve the sensation. Other than that, varied strokes work well - corkscrew actions,  2 hands moving in one direction, ... 

I enjoy giving myself a Lingam Massage. You need enough time though. Usually it doesn't end in an orgasm, but it helps to learn you how to control your orgasms and ultimately prolong your endurance in bed...my 2 cents... 

Sorry, double post

Morning  toy...welcome to the Fora and Thanks for taking part of our discussion.

Now a self given Lingam massage  sounds like fun. What kind of  massage oils do you use? And do you go all out and enjoy this practive with candles and soft music the whole sensual enchilada? Please do tell us more.

Hi PiB, thanks for the welcome, it makes me feel at home.

Due to my working conditions, setting up the perfect atmosphere is usually not possible. I do use oils when available, I am a huge fan of grape seed oil, it does absolute wonders for the skin. But if that is not at hand, normal skin lotion does the trick. Going at it dry is just not as sensual....and usually spoils the mood. 

I used to keep my own oils in the fridge. I love using almond oil as my  carrier oil as I like mixing with some essential oil, but usually only if I know the person I do a massage on is not allergic to nuts, otherwise I also like grape oil.

I need to invest in some essential oils, never used it before

@ toy   Type/kind of essential oils you need to research as to what your goal is for the massage you want to give...and learn/KNOW how much to mix with your carrier oil...as it can and will burn your partner. Invest in little bottles to mix your oil and only mix enough to use for one massage. Depending on how many people you are going to massage for the day.

If I give a body massage, I use a (nice) bowl  so I can dip my fingers in to coat my hands,much better than a spray bottle or a depressor spout bottle that most people use. (The *nice bowl* is a fine bone china bowl and it more for myself than for the person being massaged)  So in fact any bowl will do. NOT plastic please...it is just wrong!!!!!!!!!  I use a depressor spout glass bottle JUST big enough for one massage, If I give Lingam or Yoni massages, or do some CBT.

And be carefull NOT to MIX your smells in the area you are using!!!! Meaning not to burn lavender candles and use a  vanilla or rose or Ylang Ylang massage mix, remember your carrier oil might also have a smell of its own. YOU also smell of what ever soap you used bathing....see WHAT I mean by a perfect  atmosphere????? I can go on and on on what you wear, lightling, area`s, bedding, towels music and even some extras to use....like cucumber slices...

Another little tip....Keep your oil in the fridge.

Thank for the advice PiB. I have sooooo much to learn.