Ahhhh, who still remember the 1970's Rodriques song "I Wonder"...?? That catchy tune with the seemingly innocent lyrics...?? Here is a reminder of the lyrics:-
I wonder how many times you've been had
And I wonder how many plans have gone bad
I wonder how many times you had sex
I wonder do you know who'll be next
I wonder l wonder wonder I do
I wonder about the love you can't find
And I wonder about the loneliness that's mine
I wonder how much going have you got
And I wonder about your friends that are not
I wonder I wonder I wonder I do
I wonder about the tears in children's eyes
And I wonder about the soldier that dies
I wonder will this hatred ever end
I wonder and worry my friend
I wonder I wonder wonder don't you?
I wonder how many times you been had
And I wonder how many dreams have gone bad
I wonder how many times you've had sex
And I wonder do you care who'll be next
I wonder I wonder wonder I do
Lekker, hey...?? Remember it...??
But, taking the number of solo (single and married) men compared to couples and women, on swinger sites into consideration, two questions spring to mind:-
1. How many of these men actually are true swingers, or
2. Could it be that an increasing number of males, both single and married, seek swingers rather than prostitutes, since swinger women are considered / perceived more participative than prostitutes, and obviously do not charge by the hour...!!
The last time I checked, swinging was about:-
Swinging is a non-monogamous behavior, in which singles or partners in a committed relationship engage in sexual activities with others as a recreational or social activity. Swinging can take place in a number of contexts, ranging from spontaneous sexual activity at informal gatherings of friends to planned regular social meetings to hooking up with like-minded people at a swingers' club. It can also involve Internet-based swinger social networking services online.
So, what do you, solo male, class yourself as:-
1. Swinger with spouse's consent (could be confirmed with spouse), or
2. Cheating husband / boyfriend.
Major difference in the swinging community...!!
Every now and then, some of these "solo men" will drop out of the scene, only to reappear a couple of months later full of styles and smiles. Recently, when arranging a 3sum for one of my lady friends, one of these "solo men" informed me that he isn't currently playing, as he met someone and didn't want to involve / share her in the lifestyle.
Now, this got me thinking that such "solo men" are leaning more toward my second question (re prostitutes). It's actually simple, these "solo men" are falling over their feet to get to your wives but, heaven forbid, don't even consider the possibility that they will share their partners with you and your partner...
No wonder solo men have such a hard time getting excepted into swinging circles...
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Rodriques - Cold Fact...
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do you know you can catch a bus at an airport and you can buy food at a chemist vice versa one can buy medication at a evolve .the site might be called swinging heaven but we can all agree they cater to all types here including the much detested single male (like myself).i stand correted but swinging started with military men who would be gone for months at a time and they asked their mates to look after their partner while they are away, so if we are not in the miltary then are we swingers?i have a question , why is this attack not directed at the single ladies on this site as well?and lets not kid anyone this "wondering" is nothing more than an attack.
Quote by ashI agree, things sure do "evolve", however I haven't heard of any more primates evolving into humans...
do you know you can catch a bus at an airport and you can by food at a chemist vice versa one can buy medication at a evolve .the site might be called swinging heaven but we can all agree they cater to all types here including the much detested single male (like myself).i stand correted but swinging started with military men who would be gone for months at a time and they asked their mates to look after their partner while they are away, so if we are not in the miltary then are we swingers?i have a question , why is this attack not directed at the single ladies on this site as well?and lets not kid anyone this "wondering" is nothing more than an attack.
Point is ash, ladies, as a rule do not pay for sex and thus logic would prevail that solo women in swinging are more lifestyle orientated than solo men.
Also, sex is experienced differently by the different genders.
To men, sex is an external event with the aim of not only an immediate temporary release, but also an ultimate age old urge for power, conquest, dominance and the rite of procreation (the sowing of the "royal" seeds). The whole sexual act takes place outside the male body... In brutal honesty, men will fuck any hole as long as he gets that release, thus the old saying "meat is meat and a man must eat"...
Contrary to men, women experience sex as an internal event - being penetrated. Most women will have a life-long struggle to differentiate between mere fucking and making love due to this internal interaction / interconnectedness of the physical, emotional, relational, and mental influences experienced during sex. In general, women need a connection, not just a place...
Immaterial as to how in touch you are with your feminine side, you will never, ever reach the same level of intensity - that spiritual release that comes with orgasm or to a short period of melancholy or transcendence as a result of the expenditure of the "life force", the feeling which is caused by the release of oxytocin in the brain after the occurrence of orgasm. No wonder the French call it "la petite mort" or directly translated as "the little death".
Now, call me what you like, but I've learned that the best form of defense is attack.
The mere fact that you interpreted my entire post as an attack on the "detestable single male" is evident of the fact that I stepped on a nerve...
You mite have a point Looking
But just remember there are single men and woman on this site looking for friends as well as fulfilling thier fantasies and fetishes and not just to treat it as a ready, mostly not so ready, whorehouse.
If I was a single man in need of a pomp I would rather visit a prostitute, so much easier and less complex.
The men you are talking about is maybe 1 % of the members, a wild guess
Just to put you right in another matter, I am not after your or any wife, my fetish is to watch men with my wife so she is available to any she chooses and I try to introduce her to men selected from this site. Just read the frofiles and you will find lots of men that feel like me
I am repeating on what I always say, in this forum.
Any single person ,being single as in really single ,have long standing living partner or are married but playing with out her /him knowing or they the partners KNOW.
Can NOT ever be called a swinger,as we are not a part of a couple,we do not exchange partners....even if only *soft swing* or same room play is we all have a place right here or on any other sex site. We need to be tolerant of each other.
We as singles are prepared to share our bodies and our minds with other singles and couples and same sexual orientated men and if we join swinger-sites, it remains a sex site and here each person can have the opportunity to express him or her self sexually, whether you are a cheating man or woman.
Yes it is true MOST men try and *pick* up single ladies for a quick shag, as we *SEEM* to be easy and desperate and needy.
Most soon learn that, that is NOT the decide who shares our bodies,and who gets to come back for repeats.
I just want to say, People sort of always overlook us single ladies to put under the same title as *single* men...but we can be just as bastardly as single men...we can be just as devious,and YES we can be just as rude.
WE single ladies are also be a pariah in clubs and parties and socials ,Some of us misbehave badly as we think it is OUR Right to be obnoxious and out of control where ,if the same things is done by the single male....he gets a bad reputation and gets called on his bad behavior far quicker.
I agree that we as couples should be able to accept and to some degree tollerate the singles.
What simply peeves me of about singles, and usually very unfortunately it is the men who are guilty, are those who would rather be better of on other sex or dating sites. Those who cannot (or maybe simply do want to try) understand that 'swinging' is more about a couple. Luckly I have met a few who does understand and accept the rules laid down as a couple (mainly that we don't play without each other).
Lastly I think what irritates us as couples is the approach some have....especially when they have no respect for the lady.
