Most single men on this site complain and rant on of how there are fake people out here, how they never get lucky blah blah blah. Couples complain about how single females don't want to play or how they come across so many fake couples.
Now I'm gonna tell them to shut up cos it's your own fault. Do you know I have better luck outside the swingers scene? Some people on this site and in the lifestyle do not know wtf they want. I have been chatting to guys that I am interested in screwing the daylights out of, but it is such an issue to freaking meet them physically. There's excuses and all that. They let you get dressed and then tell you last minute they not gonna make it or simply don't pitch. Couples as well, they are hot and into the idea then also back out last minute(thats why I don't meet couples anymore, they are the worst)
People complain that there's no parties or events. Then I organise and book venue and again they cancel last minute. The guys that do pitch, look nothing like their pictures, are married and play without consent or are really just not ones cuppa tea.
Also couples get upset because I'm not bi, not every woman likes another's vagina, Cmon guys! Then you get the married singles, that can only see you at certain times. Really? Well, that's it I am no longer giving second chances, no more wasted perfume. I've been here since 2012 looks like things are getting more and more difficult.
This is me standing up and applauding you Sofistikitty
Good on you for showing the other side!
I see people reading but not responding. It's the truth though hey. I am also not the only one experiencing problem. Today I got a message from a couple, they been interested in swinging and events all this time. They tell me to invite them but to give them enough time to prepare. So, I do that and I invite them to private event that better suites their needs. First one they said they would love to come and second one they will let me know. Then this morning woke up to a message saying I must not invite them to swingers party again. I must respect that they not into it anymore. I'm so confused.
Got launched again by 2 guys this weekend. So left high and dry yet again! They run after a person and want you. Minute you agree it's as if they were just checking if I would. Couples want private time but more for me and the female to play, when I say I'm not into women it's an issue.
I have read this Sofistikity, I just do not have anything to add or say. Nothing new what I have not ALREADY said many many times before.
But it is sad that people complain about not getting *anything* or nowhere to go, but the moment something happens they recoil or just not attend events.
The problem is that people use the actual site as their fantasy, and to gain their pleasure.
It is very easy to be brave and outgoing using the site as in all essence you are anonymous, you can say and do what ever you want and have a whole different identity until you actually have to meet that person in the flesh.
A person shy in nature can be outgoing and talkative on the site, coming across as confident and sexually uninhibited, this all breaks down when he/she actually gets to the next step of having to meet the person they have been chatting with.
@ FunwithaFYou have just said it like it is...
Being behind a computer screen, you can become who ever you want to be, and the moment you have to meet your little bubble of fantasies burst like a soap bubble does....and you will be exposed to who you really are.
That is why the really SERIOUS players will have validations and verification's from other profiles, on their profile.
Now I also know it is VERY easy to get verified by numerous people here on SH by just going on the webcam in chat and many people verify you.
That ALSO does not make you the real deal in my eyes, as I can go behind my lover/spouse/friends back while he or she is not home and talk to various people via webcam and thus get verified!
But now the person who makes contact with you can the opportunity to mail the profiles who verified you to ask about you, and there and then you can decide who is the real deal and who not, because I myself ONLY verify anyone who I have met in person in real life face to face.
I might NOT have played with them but met face to face. And I expect the people who verify me to do the same, to have met me in person.
When this happens, I always tell the person who enquirers about someone, that I have met the person and that he or she is the real deal...Nothing more, you now have to go meet them yourself to see if there is any chemistry or way you also ensures the other persons privacy!!! It also means that because I like someone that you will also like someone. We all have to see if we like the other person when we meet.
That is the really only way to know whom you are talking to and whom you are to meet.
Now also know not everyone you meet verify you and you do not verify everyone you meet,but it is a nice system if it is used correctly.
Hi All
I think its more an issue of being on cam or behind keyboard and being rejected does not compare to physical rejection i guess.
So rejecting any guy onsite he will take the punch but the embarrassment of being rejected by a women face to face will hit his pride.
How does one meet with someone and not show any dislike to being rejected.
I would love to meet like minded people and both you lovely ladies as there is no physical attraction does that mean no friendship either?
So my dearest Sofistikitty.
I have to agree pee here are just all talk. Message me if you want to chat, etc etc and when you do no replies. Could be because of a number of reasons but I feel all talk and no action.
So I wanne urge the serious players and player - resses out there, if you said it then you better be able to back it up otherwise best you get it out of it
