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prevelance ha ha ha
Sexpert
it has something to do with the measure of a specific occurrence amongst a sample relevant to the total sample group.....but i could be wrong
U r correct but on this site it means 'we only play with whites'. We live in a small city but here most people still have the farm mentality. Don't get me wrong, most white males would love to play with other races, but it is usually the white females that feel disgusted with us. Maybe its time to stop being predujice and get to know people from other races. We also take good care of ourself and we are clean and discreet. Lately we are only here to laugh. So much so that everytime we get in contact with a white couple they tell us' Sorry we only play with whites ' or the best one we have received: ' You are to dark in complection and your hair not long enough. Please contact us the day you are white' lol. I rest my case
Miucha and Prada
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I am sorry that people say this it is rude :sad: and uncalled for and uneducated. A person can rather use an excuse like they have to much on their plat at the moment maybe next time. DO NOT BE RUDE it is not nice :sad:
Joyrider
Trying to play nice
You are to dark in complection and your hair not long enough. Please contact us the day you are white'
lol. I rest my case
Miucha and Prada
I am sorry that people say this it is rude :sad: and uncalled for and uneducated. A person can rather use an excuse like they have to much on their plat at the moment maybe next time. DO NOT BE RUDE it is not nice :sad:
Joyrider
Trying to play nice
World English Dictionary
prevalent (ˈprɛvələnt)
— adj or current in force or power; predominant
I think the word "prevalent" and the word "preference" have been confused.
Your post is such that I'm not sure whether you have confused them or whether someone else has on their profile.
If someone used this word in their profile, please pm me so that we (moderatior/admin) can ask the individual to correct their profile.
Please note that a preference is an acceptable thing to indicate as long as things like "disgust" dont come into it.
If anyone has been rude or inconsiderate please copy their message to the "report" link on their profile and let admin have the opportunity of disciplining any member who abuses others or breaks the acceptable use policy. Only making vague references on the forum does not help us eliminate such individuals from membership which should be something we all want for our lifestyle, true lifestylers deserve a minimum level of respect in this environment, regardless of their preferences, which of course means that you need to respect their preferences too, provided that they do not make abusive remarks to you or about you.
You expect single males to stay away, that is your preference. Why is that different from preferring to play with people of the same race as themselves?
Additionally if you contact couples who say very clearly that they don't want contact from people of a different race group, in their profile, its actually like picking a fight. You are trying to push them into a corner essentially where you force them to expose their fears and the areas of the lifestyle that are outside their comfort zone. It's like pushing BDSM activities on people who specifically only want soft swing.
You all need to remember that people are not static photographs, people change and expand and adjust and relax and may eventually become comfortable enough to play outside their comfort zone. Being offended by a person's CURRENT boundaries and reacting so badly to them actually enforces those boundaries and does ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to remove them at all. It just gives them impression that you can't be trusted to respect them and their choices. Being understanding and allowing people to ease into an idea that is foreign or forbidden for them, allows trust and possibly friendship to grow and possibly enable breaking out of those ideas.
Being defensive and automatically offended by other peoples ideas - particularly very publically - almost guarantees failure in connecting with people who might actually be "on the fence" or persuade-able in any other context.
It's particularly off-putting to read your comment on your profile - about how your race isnt good enough - even for some one like me who has no issues with race at all, it makes me feel like I want to keep my distance because you appear to have a big chip on your shoulder about politics and this shouldn't be a political space at all... I certainly don't need politics in my play lifestyle.
Just my 2c - I wanted people to know how being so politically sensitive about one or two people who you will never even be friends with, obviously, since who wants to be friends with people who so vehemently disagree with you, can actually seriously hamper your whole experience in the lifestyle. Just let it go and move on to other people who actually WANT to be with you.
Lee and the other people,gave such a good comments, I have nothing to add.
It is a ongoing problem that back grounds hamper people in the lifestyle.
I just want to add I am told frequently that I am to........fat.......old......ugly........wrinkly........once, that I was to *pink* and to *Afrikaans* and that I was not female but a male.......yeah the list can go on and on....
Orgasminator
My penny in die saak, in ons meer as twee jaar in die wonderlike leefstyl en baie gesels met baie mense kan ek nie een geval aan dink waar mense met ons onbeskof was of ons beledig het nie. Ons het vir baie mense die kort antwoord gegee "Dankie maar nee dankie" en die kontak net daar gestop. Sal nie eers probeer om verder te argumenteer nie.
Ek glo as jy wil argumenteer gebruik die forum of die pool dan kan ander mense kant kies en die verkeerde persoon gou op sy plek sit en daarmee se ek dat ek baie die skuldige persoon is.
Dit is vir my lekker om mense kwaad te maak.
My point is that we live in a new era where race shouldn't b a topic and the word prevalence was used mind you. I do know what it means I'm just using it in the context that it was used. Yes we do prefer only couples and females. We have been with males and we enjoyed it , but we are moving on to something new. Most males in the area are either married and swinging secretively or are in relationships and lie about their relationship status. Is quite disappointing how you can make a comparison between race and the fact that we prefer not to invite a male. Its definitely not the same thing. We treat everyone with the utmost respect and found that some people here still live in the baas and boy era. What makes things even worse is that they don't keep their comments for themselves but they utter it unto innocent people making statements like 'julle kleurlinge is almal vuil en ongeletterd' mind you. Lol but ja I rest my case my points been made 
Orgasminator
Miucha why go on winning, Lee asked you to give her the names of the profiles you have problems with, I can assure you she and her fellow mods will handle them.
Report them are the proof in the pudding.
Orgasminator
Lets getting positive in the forum and i have no problem with a opinion but if you had problems with rude people there are ways to handle it.
Quote by Miucha_Prada
My point is that we live in a new era where race shouldn't b a topic and the word prevalence was used mind you. I do know what it means I'm just using it in the context that it was used. Yes we do prefer only couples and females. We have been with males and we enjoyed it , but we are moving on to something new. Most males in the area are either married and swinging secretively or are in relationships and lie about their relationship status. Is quite disappointing how you can make a comparison between race and the fact that we prefer not to invite a male. Its definitely not the same thing. We treat everyone with the utmost respect and found that some people here still live in the baas and boy era. What makes things even worse is that they don't keep their comments for themselves but they utter it unto innocent people making statements like 'julle kleurlinge is almal vuil en ongeletterd' mind you. Lol but ja I rest my case my points been made
Hi everyone!
When I read this post I immediately Googled the word and when I came back and saw all the responses I realised it was not at all about the meaning of the word BUT something else (not to mention a possible confusion - which LeeEC smartly pointed out). That's OK I can build a bridge and get over it, BUT...... I'm slightly confused too...
@Miucha_Prada
I made a mistake to click on your profile because your ABOUT paragraph started off well but the rest was totally unnecessary (only my opinion and definitely not an attack) and will definitely not attract open-minded people. Your statement about 'most males' is also a prejudice on its own while you are roasting all prejudices on the other side!
My 5 cent worth - "For things to change around you - it must start with you!" and "The smart approach always leaves another door open to opportunity!"
@Gerrie lol come now. Attacking me cause we like females and couples? Ha ha ha and the rest of the profile is there so that everybody can know what we are about. Yes like other people say ' We do not cross the colour barrier' lol what's your problem with ours? Like I said we had our fun with single guys now we are moving on to the next chapter in our lives. We are only here to meet like minded couples and females. Its easy peasy to find a man to join us as men are more open for things like this, so ja. Oh and we changed our profile so now we won't pop up if you search for couples who want single males again.
Have a fab day Gerrie
Mwah
Miucha and Prada
Sexlightened
The function of your profile, in our humble opinion, is to attract prospective new lifestyle friends. It serves to inform prospective friends/interested parties of your sexual likes and dislikes, otherwise known as "preferences". Preferences include any/all descriptions of the type of people we find attractive as well as sexual acts etc. So: age, race, body type, geographical area and gender are all descriptions of preference.
These should not be seen as prejudice.....not everyone is going to appeal to you sexually and it is unrealistic to expect EVERYONE to want to play or be friends with EVERYONE.
That being said, rudeness is never acceptable. Our approach is that: if people who, clearly are not in line with our preferences contact us, we ignore them. If they did not take the time to read our profile OR if they have no respect for our preferences then we do not need to entertain them.....
