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Preferred Age
Um, yeah. I have no interest in hooking up with guys the same age as my children! Or for that matter people older than my own parents. .. so obviously as I get older the range will shift with my age, by the group of people in the "potential" range will pretty much be the same people.
The next problem you come across is "what the hell do we have in common with someone 20 years older/younger than us? "
That kind of gap can put you in a completely different generation (I think it's harder for younger people to relate to older in most cases) - and this causes more awkwardness in those cases where people are looking for friendships.
How do I confidently assimilate a couple (in avastly differentage group) into my vanilla social life without people constantly asking me how I know them. If they fit seamlessly into my normal group of friends (similar age, with kids like mine, interests and activities like mine) then people don't question the friendship or connection.
Younger people might also be intimidated by older people's experience and knowledge of the lifestyle.
Though I suspect 30 will always be the lower limit for me.
Age is a preference too.. and a perfectly acceptable one too.
ALSO If you think about it (you'll really only get this if you're 35 plus) as you get older your body changes and quite frankly younger hotter firmer bodies make a person feel self conscious and "judged" for something there isn't a lot one can do about- even toned fit people get wrinkles!
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ALSO If you think about it (you'll really only get this if you're 35 plus) as you get older your body changes and quite frankly younger hotter firmer bodies make a person feel self conscious and "judged" for something there isn't a lot one can do about- even toned fit people get wrinkles!
Ha! there we have it, being over 35, toned and in shape gives you wrinkles, I shall now go finish that blackforest cake with extra cream and ice cream........
Orgasminator
I've also noticed plenty of couples not keen on young guys. I understand your point though Lee, generation gap can get weird.
Orgasminator
In this game you to young or to old but some of us except it, and can live with it only asked for honesty
Sex God
I guess we all have our preference, but in reality as long as they are of legal age and sound of mind . . . . :swingingchair:
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I've also noticed plenty of couples not keen on young guys. I understand your point though Lee, generation gap can get weird.
The moment someone starts approaching others too far away from their own (more than 20 years either way) it starts getting a bit "grey"
fifteen is my limit I think. Sex God
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I guess we all have our preference, but in reality as long as they are of legal age and sound of mind . . . . :swingingchair:
You are such a BOY!
Oh come on, at least I insist that they MUST be sound of mind as well . . .
Ok, but seriously, I like all of you have a preference. BUT, I will not say NO purely on age. Same as I would not say no purely on photo's.
Orgasminator
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I've also noticed plenty of couples not keen on young guys. I understand your point though Lee, generation gap can get weird.
The moment someone starts approaching others too far away from their own (more than 20 years either way) it starts getting a bit "grey"
fifteen is my limit I think.Well 20 years places people either double my age or below the age when kids start walking so 20 years works for me. But I don't mind going older, I find it fun.
Still it's your loss
Sex God
Quote by Mike_Pta
I've also noticed plenty of couples not keen on young guys. I understand your point though Lee, generation gap can get weird.
The moment someone starts approaching others too far away from their own (more than 20 years either way) it starts getting a bit "grey"
fifteen is my limit I think.Well 20 years places people either double my age or below the age when kids start walking so 20 years works for me. But I don't mind going older, I find it fun.
Still it's your loss
Mike, most people 20+ have been there, done that and some of us are the reason for the t-shirt
Orgasminator
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Mike, most people 20+ have been there, done that and some of us are the reason for the t-shirt
Lol, I figured that one. We all start somewhere I guess
Sex God
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Well i see just about everyone agrees on the age gap thing then what is the excuse for some cpl that have such a age gap between one another. How do they find something to talk about?
Joyrider
just as long as the sex is great ne
Probably the difference is that when you are a couple you have time to discover each other.
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Well i see just about everyone agrees on the age gap thing then what is the excuse for some cpl that have such a age gap between one another. How do they find something to talk about?
Joyrider
just as long as the sex is great ne
Well the answer is obvious, they have found some other common ground which outweighs the age gap.
Ok, let me make a (simple) example. Your wife might not be Charlise Theron (or any other woman for that matter), but you have other things (that you see as far more valuable and precious) in your connection with Joy, that out weigh money, youth, fame or any other thing Charlise could offer you right? So hands down, no contest you choose Joy!
So in a swinging context, there may be things that don't attract you or "put you off" like they aren't physically your type (blonde, short, tattoos) or they are from another culture or they are too young or too immature, but then someone who may very well fit one of those "turn off" categories, comes along, but to your surprise, the SHARE your weird and rare fetish OR they are much more mature than other 25 yr olds, OR they have a personality that 'clicks!' with yours OR they share your passion for cycling/badminton/bee keeping/motorcross/embroidery/biking/camping/baseline/13th century art, or whatever.
That's so cool, you overlook the other "put offs" to reap the benefit of the aspect you find more valuable and precious.
This dynamic is true in ALL human connections, swinging is no different.
Sex God
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Well i see just about everyone agrees on the age gap thing then what is the excuse for some cpl that have such a age gap between one another. How do they find something to talk about?
Joyrider
just as long as the sex is great ne
Well the answer is obvious, they have found some other common ground which outweighs the age gap.
Ok, let me make a (simple) example. Your wife might not be Charlise Theron (or any other woman for that matter), but you have other things (that you see as far more valuable and precious) in your connection with Joy, that out weigh money, youth, fame or any other thing Charlise could offer you right? So hands down, no contest you choose Joy!
So in a swinging context, there may be things that don't attract you or "put you off" like they aren't physically your type (blonde, short, tattoos) or they are from another culture or they are too young or too immature, but then someone who may very well fit one of those "turn off" categories, comes along, but to your surprise, the SHARE your weird and rare fetish OR they are much more mature than other 25 yr olds, OR they have a personality that 'clicks!' with yours OR they share your passion for cycling/badminton/bee keeping/motorcross/embroidery/biking/camping/baseline/13th century art, or whatever.
That's so cool, you overlook the other "put offs" to reap the benefit of the aspect you find more valuable and precious.
This dynamic is true in ALL human connections, swinging is no different.
THIRTEENTH CENTURY ART ? ? Allrighty then . . .
Orgasminator
I was gonna see he has money to blow, she needs money to blow so they match that way but let's go with Lee's answer
Well Mr K and I have an age gap. But he is more mature than any older or my age dude I've been with. With regards to play preference, its uncomfortable if the couple or person is much older or asd old as my parents.
I suppose it comes down to attraction though. But no offence to anyone.
I am frequently told that age is just a number....LMAO at that thought.
AGE does matter.....to each and everyone. No one can really say that age does not bother them.
Not even when chemistry is at work , age will bother everyone.
Too young is too young and too old is too all have our limits.
Men usually will try and have sex with older woman in the privacy of a house,BUT do not think that same man will take an old lady to is when the age gaps becomes problematic...when you have to appear in public.
Somehow the community will accept a old man with a trophy wife/arm candy girlfriend but not an old lady with a much younger gent.
I myself also think it is a question of money and prestige when a really young woman marries a very very old man.
I am NOT talking about age gaps of 10 too 15 years. I am talking age gaps of 20 and more.
(BUT then it could just be me being bitchy)
I used to think that age was just a number until i realised that its really a lot of things.. I agree with what pussinboots was saying when it comes to really really large age gaps. I mean you might find that the chemistry is GREAT you might be able to connect very well sexually and all that but now the problem would most probably come afterwards on both sides. cause neither would enjoy that amazing conversation of how they know each other when introducing each other to their friends and all that. but k guess it all really depends on what youre looking for . Looks like 10 to 15 year age gaps are pretty common.
Let me say this.....there are some things that naturally come with age.....some things you can do nothing about! But other things such as a great big mid-section you can do something about! Put down the Lays and go for a walk! Can someone explain to me how people who take no care of their body expect others to want to touch that body? With the lights on and their eyes open? Yes I am going to probably get a plethora of replies about babies and time, and other such stories, again I say why ? If you are 45 and your kids are grown why? Why no gym....why no care for yourself? Hell even if you 25 and yiur kids are 2 again why not care for you? Not just to find interested play partners but for your own health and wellbeing and to live a long life???? Yes the young ones are sometimes not any better but hell least they few and far between!!! Just saying! Let the nasty comments begin, i fully expect them...after that tho perhaps join the gym.....
Sexpert
Im a child of the 80's and a teen of the nighties so i share certain interests of people older than me ie music , pop culture etc and with those younger than long term girlfriend was ten years older than me yet we had so much in common since she was a teen of the 80's. I could sing a long to abba songs which she loved and i knew because my sister listened to them .what i am trying to say in a long winded way is i guess you just need some common .....let me get my fat ass to the gym
Sex God
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Im a child of the 80's and a teen of the nighties so i share certain interests of people older than me ie music , pop culture etc and with those younger than long term girlfriend was ten years older than me yet we had so much in common since she was a teen of the 80's. I could sing a long to abba songs which she loved and i knew because my sister listened to them .what i am trying to say in a long winded way is i guess you just need some common .....let me get my fat ass to the gym
Ash, all valid comments (well apart from signing along to ABBA) but I think the main question was about age gap in the lifestyle, as in a 40 year old couple not wanting a 21 year old couple.
Oops, My fat ass will not fit through the Gym door
Despite having a general age preference, I think it would be unfortunate to walk away from somebody that really blows your hair back just because of some sort of age policy agenda
I think I could male a case for the fact that Our eyes are better at finding what we want than what we think we don't want.
Despite having a general age preference, I think it would be unfortunate to walk away from somebody that really blows your hair back just because of some sort of age policy agenda
I think I could male a case for the fact that Our eyes are better at finding what we want than what we think we don't want.
