I don't know whether this is an oddity unique to me or the norm, but when I am browsing through the members profiles, I only pause to look at a profile when there are pictures attached.
It seems many (the majority of members) have no pictures or photo's posted in their profiles.
How do they manage to attract people to their profiles if there are no pictures?
What do members that have not posted any pictures, hope to gain by not doing so?
Are they successful in their endeavours to find friends, mates or acquaintances?
Most, if not all the members on this site, were drawn to this site with a single idea in mind.
We are here to search for, and hopefully find, persons of equal persuasion as ourselves that are looking for the same things we are. Be those things casual sex, friendship with or without benefits or any of the other reasons that members first joined this site.
* Just an observation that I made.
If I don't find pictures I make a u-turn. Just not a risk I'm willing to take. I also don't like genital close-up exclusives, I can always stare later but at present it says nothing about yourself.
Pezulu the problem with photo's in your public profile is not only for the eyes of SH members but of the world to see. Public photo's are public and for sure not many people whant there photo's for the whole world to see
Profiles can have pictures in either public or private folders.
There are still pictures.
Some people could be afraid to identify themselves to the entire web community, and prefer to keep their pictures hidden in private folders. That is not the issue.
The issue for me is people that want to remain anonymous at all costs.
I don't even look at a profile if it is not indicated that there are pictures present.
There is a vast difference between being discreet, and remaining anonymous.
We all use nicknames or handles by which we are known.
Once people have started interacting, they may choose tor reveal their true names to each other, and probably do when a friendship blossoms between people.
To remain anonymous, where you are hiding behind a faceless mask though, is not opening oneself up to the possibility of forming friendships, meeting people face to face or taking things a step further.
I wonder if a poll on the matter would reveal the truth in how many of the anonymous profiles have successfully managed to connect with others.
We only added photos recently...
Maybe it was because we are a couple with a female, but within our first 24 hours on the site, we had received nearly 60 messages and winks! Some of which were appropriate, others not...
Then we added some details to our write up... that helped to narrow the kind of people we attracted, and still we had quite a few guys and couples who were outside of our specified interest areas who contacted us...
But as time has gone on, we have made quite a few chat friends, had a few coffee dates, and two successful playdates.
Our pics were only added after these events, and due to busy schedules etc.... we haven't met anyone since the pics went up! Lol.
Why didnt we put pics up earlier? No need to I guess, our write up is pretty explicit.
Maybe we got so much attention because the single guys on site seem to mail anyone who indicates that they might be interested in males... However, we have spoken to many couples, and that was way before the pics went up...
;)
C
I feel the same about pictures in profiles - make the first steps in meeting easier.
A poll? You'll get gr8 responses from the forumites, but when anonymous ...... want to stay anonymous!
