hi guys,
As we browse through the profile,
We cam across lots of profile tht says
"Apologies, but we dint cross racial line"
My ques is, where do my partner n i come in?
As there r so few other chinese cpls around....
If we try to reach out to the above cpl,
Does it consider to b rude?
Or who can help us to classifiy which "race" do we fall under....
Tks!
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Please help me undersand do not cross racial line
Sex God
Quote by kinkychinese
hi guys,
As we browse through the profile,
We cam across lots of profile tht says
"Apologies, but we dint cross racial line"
My ques is, where do my partner n i come in?
As there r so few other chinese cpls around....
If we try to reach out to the above cpl,
Does it consider to b rude?
Or who can help us to classifiy which "race" do we fall under....
Tks!
You could be opening yourself up to a mountain of "forum abuse" here. The race topic is never allowed to go past more han a few responses, so let me get my thoughts in before its locked.
People (well most of them anyway) who add the racial line comment on their profiles do it to be seen as doing it, as many times one of the first questions people ask you is have you been with a person of another colour. I have no doubt there are a number of other reasons that people add this line, but this is my contribution to your question.
As far as what race you fall under is concerned, it depends how you look at it. The SA government is very clear as to their classification of Chinese people, which does have a large number of people in SA from a different race group a little upset.
My best suggestion is to mail them and ask them.
Chances are they themselves will have to think about it.
I'd venture that vast majority of swingers in S.A. have never really come in contact with people who are Chinese, let alone been offered the opportunity to meet or play with Chinese folk.
It's good to calculate into your perspective on rascism (or race avoidance which may be more accurate in a lot of cases), that most people are indoctrinated in terms of their viewpoints, and if not, their perspective will be inextricably entwined with experience.
Usually meaningful contact must happen between groups to birth prejudice.
S.A. people largely have very little meaningful interactions- as yet, with Chinese folk (although Zuma's latest antics may change that significantly in the near future), and as such I expect that in most cases folk will be open to you.
Sex God
Quote by LeeEC
My best suggestion is to mail them and ask them.
Chances are they themselves will have to think about it.
I'd venture that vast majority of swingers in S.A. have never really come in contact with people who are Chinese, let alone been offered the opportunity to meet or play with Chinese folk.
It's good to calculate into your perspective on rascism (or race avoidance which may be more accurate in a lot of cases), that most people are indoctrinated in terms of their viewpoints, and if not, their perspective will be inextricably entwined with experience.
Usually meaningful contact must happen between groups to birth prejudice.
S.A. people largely have very little meaningful interactions- as yet, with Chinese folk (although Zuma's latest antics may change that significantly in the near future), and as such I expect that in most cases folk will be open to you.
I think LeeEC's usage of the phrase "Race Avoidance" is pure genius and it should be used way more often.
As far as Zuma's latest antics though, I think there is more chance of the existing Chinese people in SA feeling some of that "Race Avoidance" as opposed to feeling more welcome by the people of SA.
Master of Sex
It means that they only play with people of their own race. Welcome, look out for people that are open minded. I wouldn't approach those type of people(they will most likely approach you because you so hot). I know a lot of "mixed" swingers if you are interested. Lol aren't chinese considered "coloured"? I'm sorry this is funny because the race thing in our country is complicated. They don't cross racial barrier, but if you sexy they mmight make an exception(been there).
Quote by Sofistikitty
It means that they only play with people of their own race. Welcome, look out for people that are open minded. I wouldn't approach those type of people(they will most likely approach you because you so hot). I know a lot of "mixed" swingers if you are interested. Lol aren't chinese considered "coloured"? I'm sorry this is funny because the race thing in our country is complicated. They don't cross racial barrier, but if you sexy they mmight make an exception(been there).
lol @ SofistyKitty- " By no means and by No Means are we CROSSING THE RACIAL LINE!! No Means No!!!!!!!!!!!!!! We stick to OUR OWN RACE!!!!!!!!!!! Dont contact us!!! ... But if you're sexy... Then Maybe you might get lucky with us "
Maybe I over exaggerated a little...
Quote by Thedude26
lol @ SofistyKitty- " By no means and by No Means are we CROSSING THE RACIAL LINE!! No Means No!!!!!!!!!!!!!! We stick to OUR OWN RACE!!!!!!!!!!! Dont contact us!!! ... But if you're sexy... Then Maybe you might get lucky with us "
Maybe I over exaggerated a little...
Just a tad
We have been isolated so long it is strange for some people to mix sexually and people will naturally navigate to their comfort situations. I have yet to see pda couples listing the proviso of race. about 70 % of profiles are caucasian and of that a significant percentage play within their own race groups. this narrows the search ultimately.
personally, i look for culture, class, manners, all the attributes which will make us compatible. When i was overseas, it is similar although not as blatent.
Just a tad
personally, i look for culture, class, manners, all the attributes which will make us compatible. When i was overseas, it is similar although not as blatent.
Quote by LeeEC
lol @ SofistyKitty- " By no means and by No Means are we CROSSING THE RACIAL LINE!! No Means No!!!!!!!!!!!!!! We stick to OUR OWN RACE!!!!!!!!!!! Dont contact us!!! ... But if you're sexy... Then Maybe you might get lucky with us "
Maybe I over exaggerated a little...
Just a tad
Sex God
Quote by embrasser
We have been isolated so long it is strange for some people to mix sexually and people will naturally navigate to their comfort situations. I have yet to see pda couples listing the proviso of race. about 70 % of profiles are caucasian and of that a significant percentage play within their own race groups. this narrows the search ultimately.
personally, i look for culture, class, manners, all the attributes which will make us compatible. When i was overseas, it is similar although not as blatent.
The difference between SA and "overseas" is that overseas people are "expected" to tolerate each others differences, yet in SA it is only the people of Non Colour who are expected to tolerate people of Colour's differences.
Your statement above (pasting in) "personally, i look for culture, class, manners, all the attributes which will make us compatible" . . . is what the majority of people in this country need to get right (in my opinion)
You have made a choice for yourself, and that is entirely acceptable. But if you had made a choice where you had specifically said that "this or that" was not acceptable to you . . . . . . well now, lets just say you could possibly have been called some very interesting names.
I have said it before and I will say it again, the reason the younger generation, such as High school students (yes, I used the word student) have very little issues with each other is because their use of a common language (English) is on the same level.
Only a blind idiot would think that SA does not have race issues, but I still maintain that the majority of our issues in this country revolve around a language barrier rather than a skin colour. Non Coloured English and Afrikaans (isn't white a frigging colour?) speaking people even have issues with each other, but because their skin colour is the same, it is not looked at as a racist issue, but rather as some form of disagreement.
very well articulated and insightful. it makes me realise that, coming from an indian ancestory, we exactly the same in the indian villages and wont even marry our daughters to someone with a different dialect. perhaps we can put it down to prejudice rather than racism. America is still battling with race issues and we have been thrown into the "potjie mix" a mere 20 years ago. Education is key, i think. and you point ot sudents.
My family is so diverse so we dont see color really. im indian, have a jewish and a british brothers in law.
