this is a rule that i dont agree with.i do understand why it is there but i think it is as usefull as reducing the speed limit for taxis to 100km/hr when they where not obeying the 120km/hr speed some guys can be pricks and annoying and the programmers of this great site have catered for this by allowing you to block a user from block of often dont chat in the pool and a whisper to say hi breaks the ice .is that so wrong?
You make a good point.
I hardly talk or chat in the chat box,but found that if you sort of ask to whisper to someone,your request is lost in the fast moving different chats between people.
I never stay I feel bad if I do not answer the whispers...but one person cannot answer 6 sometimes more whispers and keep chat going and follow what is being said in the main chat.
I personally log into chat to actually ask something specific or to see who is all online mostly,and to say A very fast hello to everyone.
I know you can create your own room but what is the fun in that?
So you whisper anyway, and either get ignored or you get *kicked* if someone complains about you whispering.
Lucky it has not happen to me as yet
But I do believe it happens to some people and I can only think they feel bad if they get kicked.
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I agree that sometimes the permission asked in the main room gets lost, but appreciate it a lot if some one does ask even if it is in the whisper.
Starting by saying something like: 'Hope you're not to busy but would like to whisper with you if okey?'
That way I can say yes we whisper or sorry allready got few going bit busy maybe next time? And I truly appreciate it if they respect a not now answer. I only have one or two whisper chats, more than that gets to manny to give my attention to and that I feel may be rude.
Some times if I truly don't feel like whispering I will state that when I go online and most notice and respect it. Ussually that will be because I have set time to meet up with some one in chat room and do not wish to start chatting with some one els.
Just my feeling on this!
i think erotics way of dealing with it is great and anyone who does not respect a "thank you but no thank you" should not be on this site.i know we have a few bad apples but like my cricket coach always said we dont set our field for bad thanks to these bad apples a whisper saying hi how u doing (with no permission) will get me drop kicked.i dont think we need the rule ,it makes more work for the mods when they could be chatting , and all it takes is for one to select the offenders name hit the x ,a message will pop up "do u want to block this person from whispering to u" you hit yes and bobs your uncle problem not saying dont report the person please do people should be dealt pool is just getting to be like a primary school play ground must all just grow up
You are so right ash!!!!!
It really beacame more a primary school as an adult chatroom. The mods are not (hopefully) control freaks. They got other things to do as deal with who is allowed to whisper and who not.
Unfortunate that the chatroom has changed a lot since we joined. We really hope that it will change back where all people was involved in conversations or even invited. No one had a problem with the whisper or was bitching about it. The guy / girl was simply exposed in the pool, we all had a good laugh and done of storry. The chatroom becomes more and more of a clique and people see no other chance as whisper to a partie they are interested in.
Excuse my ignorance
If I am not allowed to whisper why is the facility there and how do I get someones attention, or as it happens how do they get my attention
From a mods point of view........
The whisper rule is there to make this site favourable to all. Erotic is indeed correct with the response of asking to whisper in a whisper... This is actually allowed yes. But as stated it should be a request to continue with what you have started.
All to often the whisper comes through with - "nice tits" or worse "wanna fuck on cam" - These are the type of unsolicted comments we as mods have to try and stop. We do not police it for our benefit. On the contrary we do it to make it a more adult and lifestyle respectful site that we deem it to be.
From a profile point of view........
Both my wife and I have on occasion cammed on this site. All to often when she is on and wanting to get a bit frisky - the yellow storm of unsolicited, rude, crude and disrespectful comments that she is subjected to - has in no uncertain way left a very disgusting taste in her mouth.
Hence she does not feel it right to do it that often anymore.
From a general point of view ............
She is not alone with this either - I have a record of comments from individuals that would make even the most brassen of individuals shudder.
So ask yourselves this - is the rule there to make this site a better more respectful place - or is it there to hamper??
Will the site be a better place without it ???? yes you can block the people but as soon as you log back in they will be on you again. We as mods - can take stronger action.
So by all means - please ask to whisper in a whisper (i know that sounds Irish) but yes - it is acceptable.
