It would be of great interest to discover what percentage of single guys have been successful through this site ie in having expectations met/finding what they are looking for/meeting others from the site face-to-face etc?
Single guys regularly remark, either in the chat room or in forum that they have little or no success on the site. In addition to the aforementioned, the topic of single guys being "less popular" or the disdainful comments made by couples and/or single women about single men (in general) which comes up from time-to-time has peaked my curiosity as to what the actual success rates of single men are......this inspired me to suggest we take a pole and see the real numbers.....
It may bring the, yet unsuccessful, single males hope OR function as a dire warning.....
I guess the response here will link up to other forum posts.
Personally, I have met a number of couples and single women from this site. We have had and continue to have great and steamy times together.
There are manyanyfactors that I believe, contribute to a guys success here or on any other site.
As I always say, if it's on a site or in person, it's all in the approach. Guys, be interesting, memorable and different.
I had no expectations when I joined this site I'm just enjoying the journey.i have met great people had tons of fun and lived out fantasies ...and developed new ones.
I feel the same as Ash has put it
I must however add that I have been able to add SH in with friends I had before so it has expanded my circle
I agree with ash and voyer.
I found this "poll" to be interesting but at the same time, a bit pointless. The word "success" is thrown around in this topic. Why should a male be "successful" in getting laid?? Ladies, you are the fairer sex, and yes, it is really enjoyable having sex with you gorgeous creatures.... BUT.. You do not own sex! Men are not a bunch of "horny dogs" that "need" sex all the time. You need our penises to have intercourse - not? There is pleasure for you the same as for us. So why has it become such that men are seen as the ones that are "successful" when sex occurs? Surely the female that the sex happened with was also "successful"? We are not all ugly boys hey.. Some of us are good looking and desirable and also have the right to turn females down. I personally never "need" sex - I just want it...
i hear what you saying stamina but my interpretation of success was in terms of ones expectations of what they came here looking expectations could range from dogging to could also be just to learn about the my understanding of mz cats question.
Looking at my expectations (since I started as a member) I still get limited (but quality) results.
Understandable? Well yes, because swinging involve couples!
Once I got to know the 'rules of engagement of life stylers' I knew my approach and attitude had to change!
what will be . . . will be . . .
Single men generally have a very bad wrap when it comes to the swinging lifestyle. I believe that it stems from past experiences that coupes have had with obnoxious, common, single minded guys who don't know how to behave themselves. Indeed, it is difficult for the few decent fellows out there to meet couples for drinks so that they can 'suss you out'.
I've had mixed experiences on the site. I met a couple a few years back through another site and we became really good friends. At this stage it is more like a friendship with benefits than a sex session and in the end we talk more about how enjoyable the 'kuier' was than how good the sex was. Unfortunately they live in Cpt so no more regular visits but we have contact with each other on a weekly basis. I've also become good friends with a second couple from this site and although we have not 'played' with each other, we still have contact on an almost daily basis!
On the other hand, I've had a couple contact me who wanted to meet up a few hours after their 'summons' as they wanted a guy to 'fuck'. I politely declined as I do have my standards and if you don't want yo be friends first then there really is no point in meeting up (read: Phil is not a manwhore!).
The Nelspruit area is interesting, a few couples who are interested in men, but non of them responsive to a decent introductory email.
So for now I'd say...I'm here, watching and waiting to see who else might become good friends.
