Quote by MattLeeECdear Lee
Hi all
As you know (wave for dogging) I have commented that I don't know what the big deal is. But then I come from a very "non-racial" background, and while colour isn't a "thing" for me - I really couldn't care less about the colour of your skin - I do find that I am more attracted to people who share my way of thinking - and therefore behave/or approach me in a way I find acceptable and appropriate, so for me the issue of cultural compatibility is probably more important. However I know this is something of a thrill for my hubby... I know he secretly would like to do a black chick... Guys don't reallly know how observant we can be
On the other hand I also know that if you try and "sell the idea" to me based on the "interacial thrill" I'm already put off, I want to be desired because I'm sexy and good at it and tasty and desirable not because I'm white. That's a bit random for me. So maybe try not to make such a big thing about it, perhaps assume that everyone else might not actually be into it because you're a particular colour but simply because you're hot.... or sexy or charming and since you are they will get the hot, sexy, charming and you get your white chick fantasy...
Also - tried to post this earlier after Jacks first comment, but my connection bugged out; I think a lot of singles set themselves up for diappointment; because you are single it doesn't factor into your process that couples often have families and children and two schedules to try and arrange play around. Propositioning people more than 200kms from you often means it will simply never happen even if you all want it to because logisitcally it's just too complicated.
Singles should particularly indicate their willingness to travel to their intended playmates, their willingness to make long-term connections (most couples are looking for long-term playmates - which is obviously a lot easier if you're in close proximity) and keep in mind the difficulty in terms of short notice meets for people with children.
hope my comments are helpful :)
Thanks for your sometime in the future, if I am in your area, I will contact you. Even if it is for a good old meet and chat.
I would like to mention that since being on this site for quite some time, I often get disappointed with most profiles where colour is mentioned. And through my experience, I have noticed that location does play a role, when it comes to open mindedness. However, I do enjoy the site, and if there is a profile that would enjoy me, I would like. I am always patient and seeking. Someday, sometime I may find what I want with whom I want. Just wish that all people could be open minded. I suppose this country still requires many years of patience to develop this openmindedness. Have you been to Mozambique? There colour is not a big issue, and this is a neighbouring a vast difference to SA.
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I admit that you can read and anticipate people's character and that your instinctive sixth sense was at work here (as you have explained in your post!)!
(this is becoming my favourite emoticon!)
