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Name and Shame
I don't know of any site that permits a Name and Shame policy.
A failed meet that was arranged off site has got nothing to do with the Site or Admin team.
What would a group achieve afterall it would be based on hearsay!
The Forum or Groups should not be used for matters pertaining to individual site members.:thumbup:
Warming the Bed
We would join that group and can put quiet a few names down. It is pathetic how people treat others.
Sexlightened
Well it is part of the game sometimes you lucky sometimes you not
Remember no pressure and there is always two sides of a story...so not sure if all the facts will be laid on the table
So be VERY carefull about this one...
Sexlightened
Just my 2c worth ...
In our experience, here are some possible reasons for those dreaded no-shows:
There are unfortunately a lot of profiles that can only be described as FAKE, based either on the fact that the person (or you) is not who they say they are or indeed based on the fact that although they have been brave enough to place a profile in cyber land they have no real intention of ever following through.
There is yet another group of people who get off on fantasizing about you sitting waiting for them at a particular place and time. It turns them on: imagining your frustration and disappointment. This would be a domination fetish as it is all about them being in complete control and you being their puppet.
You could also plausibly expect a no-show if someone contacts you out of the blue, with no prior interaction, requesting a meeting and you agree, get into your car and go there ... hmmm this one is on you! lol
How to prevent no-shows:
1. Take the time to create a realistic profile for yourself which defines you and what you are looking for accurately. Be truthful both with your factual information and with the pictures you post of yourself eg. Don't describe yourself as you were 20 years ago with a picture to match. A no-show could actually have been a walk-out!
2. Take the time to actually READ the other person's profile. Those fake profiles tend to have lots of give-aways usually in the form of discrepancies eg. A single guy who starts a sentence with "we"; A couple's profile where the description is based on the singular person; A single female's profile which is written in the form of a teenage male's porn fantasy (My hot, wet, dripping pussy is waiting for you. I want to suck your cock and have you cum all over my face... etc.)
3. Take the time to get to know the other person a little either by mails, in the chat rooms, camming, bbm etc. Once a rapport has been established between people, it is very unlikely that there will be an intentional no-show (with the exception of the domination fetish folk of course)
In short, simply take your time and pay attention to detail.
What say you?
In our experience, here are some possible reasons for those dreaded no-shows:
There are unfortunately a lot of profiles that can only be described as FAKE, based either on the fact that the person (or you) is not who they say they are or indeed based on the fact that although they have been brave enough to place a profile in cyber land they have no real intention of ever following through.
There is yet another group of people who get off on fantasizing about you sitting waiting for them at a particular place and time. It turns them on: imagining your frustration and disappointment. This would be a domination fetish as it is all about them being in complete control and you being their puppet.
You could also plausibly expect a no-show if someone contacts you out of the blue, with no prior interaction, requesting a meeting and you agree, get into your car and go there ... hmmm this one is on you! lol
How to prevent no-shows:
1. Take the time to create a realistic profile for yourself which defines you and what you are looking for accurately. Be truthful both with your factual information and with the pictures you post of yourself eg. Don't describe yourself as you were 20 years ago with a picture to match. A no-show could actually have been a walk-out!
2. Take the time to actually READ the other person's profile. Those fake profiles tend to have lots of give-aways usually in the form of discrepancies eg. A single guy who starts a sentence with "we"; A couple's profile where the description is based on the singular person; A single female's profile which is written in the form of a teenage male's porn fantasy (My hot, wet, dripping pussy is waiting for you. I want to suck your cock and have you cum all over my face... etc.)
3. Take the time to get to know the other person a little either by mails, in the chat rooms, camming, bbm etc. Once a rapport has been established between people, it is very unlikely that there will be an intentional no-show (with the exception of the domination fetish folk of course)
In short, simply take your time and pay attention to detail.
What say you?
Had a chat with him again, he contacted me to opologise.
Now there is no way I will introduce him to my wife after what happened but said I would check him out so we chatted in the room and he started to come out with various demands, bring your wife panties with etc ended with him wanting me to pull him out of his car and beat him and him
I had agreed to meet him and chat but this was out of line with my expectations
This bloke was on something I am sure, I did pick up that he did not remember our previous date where he did not show, he was getting off on chatting and his fantasies and fetishes which sounded like getting out of hand and was making himself a danger
Quote by Voyer1105
Had a chat with him again, he contacted me to opologise.
Now there is no way I will introduce him to my wife after what happened but said I would check him out so we chatted in the room and he started to come out with various demands, bring your wife panties with etc ended with him wanting me to pull him out of his car and beat him and him
I had agreed to meet him and chat but this was out of line with my expectations
This bloke was on something I am sure, I did pick up that he did not remember our previous date where he did not show, he was getting off on chatting and his fantasies and fetishes which sounded like getting out of hand and was making himself a danger
In this case I'd rather sugest you at least notify the site mods b4 this chap goes any further with some one els!
Hi there folks - I do not often get to read forum debates. But having found some time to do so - Can I ask that you send me the profile name please. There is a danger here that another member could end up in a lot of trouble. That I am afraid I do not want hanging on anyone's conscience - least of all mine - knowing that I knew about it.
So please help out a little here.
