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my silly little site peeves...

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So if you were reading the footsie thread then you know that dirty hands or nails in album pics are a complete turn off for me. But I have other photo peeves... Dude, one picture of your erect cocktail from the left at that angle is quite enough, twelve... well you are wasting bandwidth! Oh and do you think we ONLY want to see your bits? Some of your bod would be good too! I know you guys will be happy to just see pussy and tits but I want the WHOLE package please! And couples looking for women and other couples! Only pictures of the wife is just a bit sad, this isnt just for the guys i want see him too! ... I know I may seem to be calling the kettle black, but I have pics of Matt in our private album to share if someone is serious about meeting us -privacy/work issues. I'm always wondering, "is this guy fat and ugly and hiding behind his hot wife who is making all the effort to look good?" ... which is of course fine if you are just looking for single guys to shag your hot wife smile Oh and please, no animals means no animals, not cut them off the edge of the pic so you still see a paw or ear. Oh and boys if you do take pictures of your hard cock please do not do it while sitting on the toilet!!!! GROSS! You should know women do not just look at the cock you took a picture of.... she's checking out the background, whether your bathroom floor is clean, are there dirty clothes and dishes lying around? That stuff all says something about WHO you are... so it matters friends.
Once again I find myself reaching for my note pad( with my free hand lol ) and picking up the pearls of lee
Although a nice cock is good I also prefer to see all, fat or thin, and comparible length
Well said, Lee We should start up classes for beginners... lol
through experience! Less 'teaching' and more hard core banghead Otherwise the fora would be flooded with teachable handsome people!! The big Q with the difficult out of reach answer ........ "Why don't they like me?" (Answer - clean up your act!) rotflmao
Thanks guys, I thought I was gonna get roasted for that little rant :high-smile:
The truth will always set you free...
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Thanks guys, I thought I was gonna get roasted for that little rant :high-smile:

You are absolutely correct!
Thats why i said i love a woman's hands and feet.... if they are well cared for!
Same for men i assume Lee?
definitely... no question about that.
Lee sometimes you do tend to go way off base but on this thread you are right to throw your toys lol :lol:
We would never roast you lee , we know you are trying to help .rant away sexy alll we need is your clone in jhb to see how well we learn lol :lol:
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We would never roast you lee , we know you are trying to help .rant away sexy we need is your clone in jhb to see how well we learn lol :lol:

Thanks for that Ash
Ha ha - if I had stayed in JHB then I probably never would have ended up on this site smile
Oh by the way, I've decided to try and be more consistently civil on the fora so I'll be ignoring certain responses by certain members of the peanut gallery this year, so as not to start any wars-of-words :)
I know that some people rather enjoy when I tell off these rude and badly behaved peanuts, so if you really feel strongly that some spanners are required on any threads please PM me and I'll oblige.
I feel somewhat guilty of the above mentioned peeves. (Besides the tidyness and personal hygiene. I'm C.D.O.) I do feel that I only have genital pics, but know that any pic of my body, would be an instant give-away as to who I am. (Due to the fact that I have Tattoo's and some obvious and distinctly individual body "design" flaws.) I do however have body pics in my private album, which I would be more than happy to share, but feel like I'm getting penilised before I've even begun. (Based on what you have said) I do appreciate your honesty, and have learnt much from this thread. Thanks a million! ;)
I did not comment on this threat before,as I am guilty of posting pics that is not always me, BUT I do DECLARE and post a Disclaimer on that very tender subject in my written profile and it soons show me who is guilty of only browsing pics and who took the TIME to read my profile. By what people mail me. It is fully understandable that the risk some people take to posting their faces and tattoo`s that is a personal *give-away* to whom you are. But it is also possible to post sexy *body shots* where you, as the male, could be seen as so MUCH sexier by us ladies even if you need to take a photo in the bathroom behind closed doors in secret. sometimes the BACK ground of a pic is JUST as disturbing. Just think about this,and give it a try. 1) Standing with your back to the camera, showing in a mirror show your tight little buns and strong back to us,fully dressed. 2) Full frontal...well drop the buttons or zip on your jeans or pants , if possible open your shirt...and give us ladies a peek at your chest, tummy and the dark hair trail down into that tantalizing *open what is there* jeans... 3) Doing it side ways another possibility.... there are many many ways on showing a pic of yourself without revealing whom you are. 4) A partial shown cock pic where it is shown just out the top of a open jean is very sexy.... 5) thumbs in the loop of your jeans fully dressed pelvis thrown forward should also be very sexy!!! 6)) Keep the *oh so proudly shown *cock* pics behind lock and key in a private album, just as your tattoos and face are kept. Now you gonna ask well *WHY SHOULD WE,WHEN YOU SHOW OTHER PEOPLE RIGHT*???? Go read the reason I do it, on my profile.
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I feel somewhat guilty of the above mentioned peeves. (Besides the tidyness and personal hygiene. I'm C.D.O.)
I do feel that I only have genital pics, but know that any pic of my body,
would be an instant give-away as to who I am. (Due to the fact that I have Tattoo's and some obvious and distinctly individual body "design" flaws.)
I do however have body pics in my private album, which I would be more than happy to share, but feel like I'm getting penilised before I've even begun. (Based on what you have said)
I do appreciate your honesty, and have learnt much from this thread.
Thanks a million!
;)

Just to clarify, I never did say at what point in contact/connection I was viewing said pics. It does pay to say in your profile, things like "body/face pics only accessible to serious prospects" - also completely acceptable and actually rather attractive, because reserving certain things for only serious prospects could be perceived as an indication of your classiness!
Guys there really is as much space as you could possibly need to explain yourself and your status right there in your profile - why not use it? A lot of guys have said things to me like "you have/she has/they have the wrong impression of me" or "you are/she is judging me" (not a comment on previous post), and I'm talking about online and in my coaching sessions, but the key thing to remember is that people get these impressions and make these judgements based on what YOU put out there.
And many people (who mostly 'get' this principle) don't understand why you don't use the mechanisms available to "put your best foot forward".
The same principles that make a good job interview are applicable in all relational interactions, and swinging is right at the top of that list.
Basically what I'm saying is if you don't want people to think you're a lecherous porn trawler, put something in your profile beyond the basic stats. If you don't want people to think you are an offensive tosser then think before to 'speak' and don't post offensive tossery things. If you don't want people to think you are a dirty guy who likes to wank on toilets and take pictures of your cock while you do it, then don't upload pictures of yourself and your hard cock on the toilet of a very dirty bathroom with dirty clothes strewn all over the floor in the background.
Simple really. People are only reacting to what YOU put out there.
Loving_life, if you only hide your pics and assume everyone magically knows why then, well, they would never know that contacting and connecting with you would bring them the yummy reward of seeing THOSE pictures, because you didn't SAY that was the case.
I know the boys struggle with just SAYING what they want or need or how they feel, but boys for us please try to use the text parts of your profiles more effectively, I promise pay off is really worth it.
If you're part of a couple and your female partner doesn't really interact on the site, get her to come review your profile text and ask her if she thinks you're marketing your profile well. Ask her if it's an accurate writeup and reflects well how she sees the two of you.
It might have some added benefit on a personal level for you to ask her this, telling your female partner that she has coming 'overview' and a chance to input on how you present yourselves could result in her "sexy-switch" getting flipped and you scoring a bit of loving too!