I met the most amazing man....with the ability to have girl talk with, who can make a person smile, who can do training, and who is just a very likable guy, we have known about each other for years, and there is this amazing karma between us, he was my friend, my mentor and my teacher. and I miss him so very much.
He then turned out to be a coward.
So I moved on, forgot about him, and made some new friends on here... as luck will have it I have the ability to attract the wrong emotional type of man.. and once again.. I am amazed at how sad and hopeless the human race became, just for a shag, a fantasy a good time, and self preservation.
I WILL NEVER TAKE A LEAP OF FAITH IN PEOPLE AGAIN.
I AM DONE.
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Most men are cowards!!!!!!!!!!!!
Ms Amazon I do not know what the gents did to you. But to just give up on everyone is really sad.
I have read your previous profile since you joined us in the fora`s and If I remember correctly you have a disability making your movements slow and you are married as I understood to a wonderful person whom you adore and whom adore you.
I also read all your comments on the fora about the home HIV testing. I found that very interesting to tell the truth.
You did appear to be a little ambivalent about your own expectations and what you expected from your hubby.
But Lee gave you such good advice I did not bother to comment at that stage.
But now you say all men are cowards....NOT likely in my eyes.
I know, I have met and personally KNOW quite a few people here on site and they are great people!
Them being couples/ single ladies and single men and yeah married men and women who play alone, even some who you guys consider cheaters!!!! They are still GREAT human beings in my own eyes!!
I even know about a few single men and ladies who met in the life style and I might add they are happily married.
I really think you should reconsider your own expectations and what your desires are before saying all the male folk on here are cowards and NOT anyone to consider.
We females do get a lot of cyber bullies and thugs and trolls,but we do handle them and report them to the mods if the need is there, but we stay for the other men who is really jewels in the disguise of men.
I have to really stand up and say NO NOT all men are cowards, NO, not all men are bullies and trolls and thugs.....The men I KNOW on here are GREAT !!!
Sex God
As a male of the species, I suppose it's only fair to agree with what you say @Amazon, that most and not all men are cowards.
I obviously do not know what you mean exactly by cowards, but in all honesty, and in my own opinion, most men are some or other kind of ID10T.
I would add my voice to @PIB in saying that there are those who are not such a perfect example of what you have experienced, and encourage you to somehow learn to "filter out" these guys.
Orgasminator
Glad to hear that. We should not let others pull us down but instead stand proud. Use every idiot trying to pull you down as a step up, then when you look back you can enjoy the view of the mountains you have overcome.
Orgasminator
Was never called a cowards, but yes a idiot by some high and mighty
@Amazon... I am with you all the way! The world is plagued by "the human condition"! People are inhuman, untrustworthy, greedy, selfish fools... And by people, I mean 99%!
I am clinical and sceptical (and proud of it!). I have been walked over, scammed, fooled and taken advantage of one time too many and as such have become a lone wolf. With my back to the wall I had nowhere to move to except advance, I challenge just about anybody looking to "mess" with me. I have learned to reserve my trust. I do not take crap from anybody, I do not fear anybody and I do not give anybody more than what I feel they deserve (or have earned). It is not a personality flaw, it is my choice... a choice made due to my understanding of the human species. Every person I have ever met has some or other ulterior motive in their false good nature. Men are the worst! I do not blame females for being the way they are... Even the decent ones have a vagina for a brain and even though they pull out your chair for you or open the car door or take you out for several romantic dinners, they still just want to bone you! Most guys would shag their best buddies wife if given half the chance without a second thought!
You are not at all wrong when you feel you have to reserve your feelings and your trust. Give someone your trust and there is a 99% chance that they will abuse it. Don't get me wrong, it is ok to like someone, or to make friends but always remember there is ying in every yang... Or let me say it this way: You know the saying "every cloud has a silver lining"? Well that coin has two sides... every " silver lining has a dark cloud inside it ". We are always told to see the good in everybody... better to look for the bad early on before making any decisions.
My motto: No excuses, No apologies, Not to anyone, Not ever!
(wow, I am a very angry man - therapy please 
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) Hey you guys - I know it's not appropriate to advertise services but I'm seeing at least three people on this thread who might seriously benefit from a couple of sessions with someone in my industry. (The job I have when I'm not swinging )
If anyone is having issues trying to work out where they stand in terms of their sex life, swinging issues, emotional/sexual dynamic, relational communication, etc. There IS HELP! Please PM me and and I'll refer to my long list of associates and colleagues and let you know where you CAN find help.
Please note: I'm NOT advertising my services, and I'm not talking about counselling - something MUCH more practical than that!
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If anyone is having issues trying to work out where they stand in terms of their sex life, swinging issues, emotional/sexual dynamic, relational communication, etc. There IS HELP! Please PM me and and I'll refer to my long list of associates and colleagues and let you know where you CAN find help.
Please note: I'm NOT advertising my services, and I'm not talking about counselling - something MUCH more practical than that! U know if been like that for a very long time, not allowing any people in.. I went through years of not talking about myself, my demons, my loves to any one. I learned at a very young age that most people men and woman, cant be trusted.
I was happy with my own company, with my family, but I could see my husband needed more from me, so I started working on myself. I have lost about 37 kg, my head is clear ,, because I don't take any pain pills, I have a better memory now, and because I can walk again,, the sex came as a bonus.. So we were really working on every thing.
The last thing I had to sort out was my head,, so off I went to go see head doctor.. He helped me with a lot of my issues, and one of the tasks he wanted me to do, was to be more open to people, and not to shut them out..
Well I stay very far and the only connection I have is the internet. So I found this site. .. I was do glad that I have found south African speaking people, and I made friends. One of the men I am talking about were also on another site, and even though we never connected we did on here, he wanted some pic.. which i sent him..a idiotic move from my side because I showed him my face as well as the freaking hang boobs,, but i just thought its best for him to see who I am....and then he never spoke to me again... this is now about a month or so ago.. so because I was so pissed of on Monday I also sommer sent him this message from here as well .. and he then replied. he was out of the country and had no internet.... so he lied as well because he became friends with someone just a few days after the email.....
the second thing that happened was the one guy wanted to dom me,, so I though o what the hell let we give it a go, im out of practice any way... fooking hell... he had mood swings from hell,, he would ignore me for days.. so I left it at that...
then he came into the pool chatting and telling every one he tried to stop smoking... not a word to me,, and he called himself a dom.
It pisses me off that both these men took the easy way out and ignored me... not a word, email a message to say.. look u fugly and I don't want to be friends, any more.. or sorry I cant handle the emotional side of being a dom... how can any one take their word that they give so lightly.
Its not about the men or these 2 men or the wankers in chat ,, I have a man.. its about their lack of manners or what ever u call that, that just got to me..
I am a friendly person, and very, very softhearted ,, when I hurt I scar and it takes a long time to heal. I chat to every one, reply to every message, I just don't share who I am with every one..
And I had to go pick the worst 2 of the lot to share myself with.. where do I go from here, back to not talking to people ?? I am just so disappointed.
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Hey you guys - I know it's not appropriate to advertise services but I'm seeing at least three people on this thread who might seriously benefit from a couple of sessions with someone in my industry. (The job I have when I'm not swinging
If anyone is having issues trying to work out where they stand in terms of their sex life, swinging issues, emotional/sexual dynamic, relational communication, etc. There IS HELP! Please PM me and and I'll refer to my long list of associates and colleagues and let you know where you CAN find help.
LeeEC that sounds like you're advertising personal services !! - please clarify.
As you're a Moderator, I'm shocked at your reply.
This is a swinging site not a therapy service or a place where extra curricula advise or services should be offered via a PM - Your post hints on Solicitation.
I'm sure the site would like to be far removed from that concept.
I hope I don't get banned for questioning a Site Admin Team member, that's not why I posted this, at the end of the day we're all members irrespective of stature or presence.
Sexlightened
I sincerely hope that what you have written was merely for 'shock effect'? If not, then my wish for you is that you are proved wrong regarding the human race....
We are not perfect and there are those of us who are truly horrible people, but there are those of us who are not cowards, do really care and are loyal, true, honest friends! I hope that you get to meet the 'better folk' and that when you do, you don't close them out....
Hugz
Mrs Cat
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I sincerely hope that what you have written was merely for 'shock effect'? If not, then my wish for you is that you are proved wrong regarding the human race....
We are not perfect and there are those of us who are truly horrible people, but there are those of us who are not cowards, do really care and are loyal, true, honest friends! I hope that you get to meet the 'better folk' and that when you do, you don't close them out....
Hugz
Mrs Cat
Dont Judge me for for my posting it was in response. - I'm a swinger and have been - Like I respect yours and reply.
As far as I'm concerned this Thread no longer merits a reply from my part.
@ Irish
I also was little flabbergasted at Lee`s reply this time around. She usually never does something like this. I know for a fact she once said that she does not like dealing with other peoples personal issues because it can cause a lot of misunderstandings.I agree with her on that, as counseling should be done with BOTH parties as one side is not always the right is 2 sides to any coin.
Would not know what the *practical side* of her offer is I wonder hmmmmmm...think I must PM her..... (not really).
@ Amazon
I read your detailed explanation as to what happened and what made you write this fora.
I am NOT taking sides here, but you should remember a computer and computer chats and computer friendships Is NOT the ideal I think your *head doctor* meant when he said you have to connect to more people,and be more *open*.And most certainly he did not mean on a SEX site.
Anyone of us can be anything we want to pretend we are...and then at the end we are NOT really that.
Only way you can really make friends is to meet up with people! FACE to FACE in real life.
As for meeting people here which is really a SEX site and not really one for friendships, sorry to sound crass but in reality it is,
EVERYONE on here wants sex and no one can say it is not true.
Yes most wants one night stands...some wants funny things...NO ONE wants to deal with another persons *issues* and sorrows and stuff.I know I must sound very very crude and to be NEGATIVE AND HARD person , IF ANYONE WANTS TO DIFFER FROM ME, THEY ARE ALLOWED TO DO SO, but no one wants to listen to someones woes all the time when we all have our own issues.
Most of us come here to relax...have some light banter, have some light hearted flirts, if a physical Hook up is possible , great.
I can most likely tell you if you expect anyone to really *care* you are in for a LOT of disappointments and heartbreak.
But come here and just relax, chat to whom ever is ready to chat, give as good as you get, and you will soon find you have a few really nice people to connect too.
As for Private issues heck really really try and meet someone in real Life who is going to become a friend.
I do understand that the men you are talking about BEHAVED badly by just ignoring you, yes they could have told you that they needed space and that they are not ready for anyone having some *issues* they are dealing. Forgive them and move on.
As for you being a kinky and scaring people THEN I have to say droves of people must run like hell when I am near!!! And so far no one really runs away from me....I am a KNOWN Domme !! IF you really want and need to connect with people, it is the KINKY community, they are a FRIENDLY and TRUST worthy lot BUT once again, YOU will have to go meet them in REAL LIFE show them you are whom you say you are!!!
PLEASE do contact me if you need kinky sites (where I am also on) and if you need to know whom to contact on that sites if you want to meet The real people in real life. NOT to play, but to get to know the community and enjoy being whom you say you are *kinky*. I know for a fact they will befriend anyone with out expecting anything in return!!! As long as you are honest in YOUR approach towards them and that you be *open* as to your agenda wanting to befriend them
IT is MOSTLY NON SEXUAL friendships these people if you connect only on the computer via cyberspace on any kink site or any other site , it is just the same as here , YOU CAN never be sure you are safe and you never know whom you are dealing do get the trolls the users and abusers. SO meet anyone as soon as possible!!!!
Just a little snipped of info.... to anyone who reads this...always remember NOT to become depended on one person or anyone here, they do not want a LONGTERM relationship as in 24/7 they/we want fun and pleasure not obligations.
also LOOK for profiles where people has been VERIFIED as you can write the people who verified that person and ask if that person is kosher!!!
Sex God
It never seizes to amaze me how people are selective on public forums to their own end game . . . . . . .
Surely as a mature adult, when one responds to something, one should have the common sense to respond in it's entirety and not just be selective of what they respond to?
Perhaps I should forward a suggestion to the Site owners that they should add a tab in the forum list, something like "let's see who we can ridicule today" or maybe "I have no understanding about what is going on so I will just twist others words" . . or even "comments about being banned from the site" . . .
Thank you for the reply. I am on a fetish sites have been for many years.. have met people etc. But thank you for all the effort u put into the reply.
I should have just deleted my profile, instead of mumbling on here.. I am however glad I posted on here, because sometimes your own view is blocked, and other people can help you see things in a different lite.
I am going to work on my profile, and on being more of a bitch than a friendly human that just wants to help every one. I wish I could just shrug things like this off me. any way. thanks again.
As for Lee ,, thank you very much for the offer of help, I however do have my own head doctor who is very open minded, and I am not going to go into details as to why I am on this site now. I am sorry if my topic made u a target.
The end.
@ Amazon
Thank you for your reply to me 
Some people get really hotted up when they think they are being singled out, categorised or labeled.
I wasn't really talking about you though, I just picking up on a tone that seemed to run through several posts, a tone that often comes with un-spoken frustrations and it's one I hear a lot.
Also I noticed some people haven't been really paying attention at all :) But it's fine, the upside of what I do, means I take very little personally :)
And while my profession has me almost exclusively "dealing with other people's personal problems", I don't particularly enjoy being dragged into other people's drama, which is a subtle but very fundamental difference. Personally I don't currently offer my services long distance, and in that context my post can't be considered "advertising my services" because I'm certainly not. But I do think that sometimes the difference between finding help and success & staying desperate and frustrated for years, can be a simple comment or question from someone like me :) So sometimes I just put that comment or question out there, hoping someone will reach out and find someone who can help them :)
I'm glad you have someone who helps you - it's nice to know that :)
Some people get really hotted up when they think they are being singled out, categorised or labeled.
I wasn't really talking about you though, I just picking up on a tone that seemed to run through several posts, a tone that often comes with un-spoken frustrations and it's one I hear a lot.
Also I noticed some people haven't been really paying attention at all :) But it's fine, the upside of what I do, means I take very little personally :)
And while my profession has me almost exclusively "dealing with other people's personal problems", I don't particularly enjoy being dragged into other people's drama, which is a subtle but very fundamental difference. Personally I don't currently offer my services long distance, and in that context my post can't be considered "advertising my services" because I'm certainly not. But I do think that sometimes the difference between finding help and success & staying desperate and frustrated for years, can be a simple comment or question from someone like me :) So sometimes I just put that comment or question out there, hoping someone will reach out and find someone who can help them :)
I'm glad you have someone who helps you - it's nice to know that :) 
Sexlightened
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u welcome
U should try taking the time and effort to send a decent message and the receiving party doesn't even have the decency to reply and that goes for 98% of couples on here.
