Members with absolutely no decent manners

I am fuming today 

Do members have no decency at all nowadays

Ok here is the scenario:

Me on the other side of the world

Arrange a meeting for someone to meet my Hotwife (member) after a few min says, sorry I am getting a drink quickly and than disappears without having the decency to say sorry and goodbye

She is completely broken 😡😡

That after they met beforehand so it was not an blind date

All I received was an sloppy story of my mind was at the wrong place etc etc 

This lifestyle does not need people like that 

I wish we could have a name & shame column 

I am so disappointed 

And the person blocked me straight thereafter so he does not even take my calls

All I wanted to say was go and have your say, apologize and we all have respect for each other

No this person did not have the balls 

😡 me pissed off 

Our regrets to Mrs AandBB. Unfortunately the lifestyle is chock and block full of chancers and bullschitters. Sadly for the decent ones - the biggest culprits are the infamous single men. We have been let down so many times by singles guys that we have prevented their contacting us on the site. And the excuses...  omg. My Granny died. I was hijacked. My car was stolen. My cell phone was stolen (but he miraculously remembered our cell number). Pet run over. Oh man the excuses. Just to cover up what is essentially character flaws. 

Our best advise - move on. Tell every person you know who the doos is. So they dont waste their time. We do that. Not a public shaming. But a courtesy heads up to other couples and single ladies as to which jerks to block in advance. 

Use vouches as a guide. If a person has a few vouches - chances are they are legit and wont drop you. Not a guarentee though, as we found out to our dismay when a single guy with vouches failed to arrive at an event which we took leave for. Mrs did make up and nails etc. Loads of effort for this Super"man" who ended up ghosting us for days and then some piss poor excuse about a work emergency. 

It's such a shame for the genuinely awesome single guys who end up shunned because of the actions of their AHole fellow single males.

It happens too often . But there is a couple of gems out there . Rule of thumb is check for vouches . It helps . We do get success with single guys , but you would be amazed to know that the hit rate is less than 10%. 

Surprisingly hard to find when you actually look for a decent single bloke . But hang in there and don't give up on all of them because of a doos.  We would love to be able to say there is only a few bad apples,  but sadly there is only a few gems . Good thing is when you find those gems it makes it worth while . 

We would also like to encourage couples to vouch for the good ones . Many people don't.  But that's how we find the gems .

That is so hectic. I don't blame you for being so pissed off. I can imagine how you both felt.

Fortunately not all single men are bastards, there is a few of us that are genuine, we just get seen through the same fake lens as the bull shitters m, but as Daphil says, there are a few gems out there , you just need to find them.

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It happens too often . But there is a couple of gems out there . Rule of thumb is check for vouches . It helps . We do get success with single guys , but you would be amazed to know that the hit rate is less than 10%. 

Surprisingly hard to find when you actually look for a decent single bloke . But hang in there and don't give up on all of them because of a doos.  We would love to be able to say there is only a few bad apples,  but sadly there is only a few gems . Good thing is when you find those gems it makes it worth while . 

We would also like to encourage couples to vouch for the good ones . Many people don't.  But that's how we find the gems .

Vouches, also lie, been there

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Vouches, also lie, been there

If there is one or more vouches on a profile, also look at the profiles of the persons that placed those vouches and what vouches do they have.

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Vouches, also lie, been there

True that, but at least if there is a lot of vouches and the person has been verified then the chance for a slip up is slightly less

As a guy playing alone I am clear and to the point I'm professional and don't have time for BS

But 7 out of 10 times I've been stood up at the last minute after looking forward to dates a week in advance at times

I've heard all the BS from couples and singles ...car accident...kids came home ....baby vomiting....burgled...high jacked....work call out

Then next day only to be asked to meet again in 2 days time across town or in another town 100km away. And still stay "nice" only to realize the chase is exciting enough not the act itself

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True that, but at least if there is a lot of vouches and the person has been verified then the chance for a slip up is slightly less

Thats true, unfortunate on 2 separate occasions, they had more than 5 vouches. Both occasions they didn't even pitch up.

So sorry about that experience @AandBB. We can vouch for Mr Slowvelder , spent a few evenings at the club's with him, and that's where we have met the best people. Either at a club night or meet n greets and there is nothing preventing naming and shaming at one of those get togethers.

Will name and shame really help? Will the person not just abandon his current profile and create a new one?

I the verification process set up to recognize two or more profiles with different names linked to the same face?