Join the most popular community of South African swingers now
Login

Meets or proposed meetings

last reply
3 replies
314 views
4 watchers
8 likes

So, please educate us.

Why is that there is an eagerness by couples/members to meet as advertised on the various options here on SH and yet when there is a reciprocal interest to meet, it never happens?

Fully understanding and appreciative of considering the safety elements that need to be considered with a physical in person meet, but in today's technological world we have various avenues to mitigate the risk and concerns of a physical in person meet.

Whats the difference between asking for a virtual meet first, rather than a in person meet.

A virtual meet has its advantages in that you save costs, you in the safety of your own privacy and you have the option and control of being an adult and if a couple does not do it for you, you can simply say "thanks but no thanks".

If the virtual meet goes well then you have the option of taking it foward. The virtual meet also serves as as an assesement of valid genuine couples that exit. Even the cams in the chatrooms have their perks. Lol.

Seems that individuals (in bold) are testing the waters and that there is no real intention to meet...... or it's a scam.

There is a Bell Curve at play
You have
Scammers 10% - Timewasters 15% - NeverWillBees 15% - WannaBees 10% - MayBees 10% - Starters 10% - Occassional 10%- RealActive 10%

Remember its easy on the keyboard - but having to convert to real life calls out on lies / half truths.

LESSONS
'1. Be patient
'2. State your requiremensts up front
'3. Engage with caution
'4. Test the Waters
'5. Over time you will find a "core" that you can identify and trust

They are the Inner circle that will cross-introduce and then you get momentum.
They will make it worthwhile
That is the Occassional / RealActive Group that makes up the 20%

TOM

Yeah I have encountered this a lot... People just never follow through with their ADs

One of those “sticky” principles of life is the 80:20 rule - The Pareto Principle - which says that 80% of outcomes result from 20% of all causes/inputs for any given event.

Tom’s advice of be patient is great. It’s taken me nearly 2 weeks to work out a profile photo that wasn’t full face, but had some personality. Now the challenge of the profile words.

I want my 20% to be the best of me 🤞