May you look or not

6 May 2013

Well I like to think of myself as a connoisseur, but not a connoisseur of wine but a connoisseur of beauty. Meaning I like to look at beautiful women. Now is it right to look at other women if you are married or in a relationship? Now the same question can be asked I may women look at other men if they are married or in a relationship? Then if you are the man in the relationship and another man is looking at you lady do you feel proud or jealous. Same question for the women if another lady is looking at your man, how do you feel, proud or jealous? Joyrider Enjoying real beauty wink

6 May 2013

Quote by joyrider
Well I like to think of myself as a connoisseur, but not a connoisseur of wine but a connoisseur of beauty. Meaning I like to look at beautiful women. Now is it right to look at other women if you are married or in a relationship? Now the same question can be asked I may women look at other men if they are married or in a relationship?
Then if you are the man in the relationship and another man is looking at you lady do you feel proud or jealous. Same question for the women if another lady is looking at your man, how do you feel, proud or jealous?
Joyrider
Enjoying real beauty

Well done to Joyrider, they got the first new thread going.
An interesting topic, I remember when I was a little younger (and I guess a little more insecure) another guy looking at my lady used to trigger jealousy, but my jealousy / annoyance was always then directed at my lady friend (remember, I said when I was younger) now that I am a little more older, whenever there is a person on my arm for longer than "once in a while encounters" I find myself having a silent chuckle and thinking, hmmmm he approves of my choice of lady.

6 May 2013

We both love it when the other is getting the eye when we're out and about. Mrs D will tell me so-and-so is checking you out (i'm useless at noticing) and I do the same with her. It makes me beam with pride knowing that others are lusting after her. It makes me beam even more when it's a lady oggling her! (odd that i'm able to notice that :huh: ) But jealous? Either way? Nah, jealousy is borne out of fear and we're way too much in love to be jealous biggrin

6 May 2013

Quote by joyrider
Same question for the women if another lady is looking at your man, how do you feel, proud or jealous?
Joyrider
Enjoying real beauty

No sure if proud is the right word...but I do get this warm feeling and think, Ya you may look, but it's me he's going home with :grin:

6 May 2013

I would think it JUST normal that anyone look at s really sexy person should it be a lady or gent or couple. In fact I think it abnormal if they do not look!!!! But about jealousy in a relationship...YEAH the little slimy green man pops up in many relationships ,and most men are NOT allowed to be normal....or ladies for that matter, but here in Swing-world, I think it is NOT a problem. People like it if the other notice that you have eye-candy on your arm or you are the eye-candy on an arm, and lust after someone,or they lust after you. Me personally...I love Looking at people,please notice, I say people, not a gender. I tend to show or say when I find someone sexy or something sexy about someone. I know my girlfriend likes big bottomed girls, so I will direct her gaze to many a proud wriggling *booty*.... When we first stated out in our relationship,I know My girlfriend got *off* on me showing a little jealousy, so I used to show her some nice woman....but also add *I will allow her to watch, but she is not allowed to touch*....but Inside I would smile a BIG Colgate smile of a Cheshire Cat....knowing she is enjoying these days she has learned that I am not the jealous will smile with me ,when I say I will slap her bottom if she touches. I tend to over look the really *beautiful people*/the Ken and Barbies of the world, and look and see the shy ones,the flawed ones,(I am after all also one) I see how they shine in their own each and every person has something really beautiful about them. But why have eyes and appreciation of something, and you are not allowed to use it??

8 May 2013

When I was still involved, the idea of someone else looking at your partner made me feel very proud. To think that they would like to stand a chance of getting it on with her where I can say, at least she's going home with me tonight. I always loved it. We discussed on numerous times when I saw an attractive lady with a nice figure and she would also comment. Same thing went when she saw a stud. That's just how we were.

15 May 2013

Quote by georgeous
When I was still involved, the idea of someone else looking at your partner made me feel very proud. To think that they would like to stand a chance of getting it on with her where I can say, at least she's going home with me tonight. I always loved it. We discussed on numerous times when I saw an attractive lady with a nice figure and she would also comment. Same thing went when she saw a stud. That's just how we were.

I concur! We do the same!

18 May 2013

we do too! smile