do any of you married couples have this similar " problem"
we a married couple. I enjoy watching my wife get a good hard f*** ...as much as she enjoys getting one.
we met a few "single" guys who enjoyed my wife while I watched and took some pics...these guys then want to get her alone with them. What part of SHE DOES NOT PLAY ALONE...they do not understand.. I'm not bi ...just watch the show.
They had it all with my wife... but now we will never invite them again..
The guy is offered everything on a platter, then goes and blows his chance for a repeat visit..
why is it so difficult to build a good relationship with a decent guy?
Any suggestions?
I will be glad to hear of others experiences.
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Forum Virgin
i know wat u mean and want try the best now will give u a show u wont 4get
Warming the Bed
some people are just idiots with no sense of fun beyond the NOW
Orgasminator
I think most guys here are not for swinging but to get laid. So I think they get thinking the will enjoy being watched and then afterwards realise it's not what they thought. Thus they push their luck hoping to still get laid.
Orgasminator
We have had similar experiences, and I have to admit, it really irritates me as the male partner. My reaction is without question that it shows disrespect for both myself and my marriage, and if you can't or won't respect my marriage there is no hope in hell I would let you play with my wife.
My requirements are very simple, in this order you will respect My wife, My Marriage and Me as the husband. If you can't get that right then hit the highway, this is not a stop you welcome at.
I think we all agree on at least one thing, and that is that the majority of single guys will screw it up for the rest.
I think the 80/20 rule comes into play here, where 80 are the numnuts.
My suggestion would be something that I insist on when playing with a couple, and that is that all communication goes through hubby alone. This prevents any misunderstanding or testing of the rules.
I hope you have better luck in the future.
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My suggestion would be something that I insist on when playing with a couple, and that is that all communication goes through hubby alone. This prevents any misunderstanding or testing of the rules.
That wouldn't work for us, as I, as the wife, am the one doing the organising.
Don't get me wrong, K is very much involved in the selection process, but I am the one running all communications...
I would suggest chatting to both of them if possible
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C
hey C?
Orgasminator
Personally my suggestion is a threeway group on , that way he can see what's happening to her and there is less funny business. Both people in the couple don't have to speak but it's a permanent cc.
Sexlightened
I have seen many folk lament that they cannot find decent single ladies to befriend and I feel the same way about decent single guys....
We have several lovely lady friends, however, finding a decent single guy = almost impossible!
Any advice welcome ...
Orgasminator
No idea on advice. My only suggestion though is look for guys who aren't desperate. If you can keep them interested over a number of chats over a few weeks then hopefully you can try for a drinks night and look out for inappropriate touching.
Quote by Mike_Pta
No idea on advice. My only suggestion though is look for guys who aren't desperate. If you can keep them interested over a number of chats over a few weeks then hopefully you can try for a drinks night and look out for inappropriate touching.
is this at all possible with younger guys,, I have found that the older guys are more mannered and they will not have a problem talking to my husband. This is a catch 22 because older men don't have enough stamina lol that's why younger men will work better..
Forum Virgin
Put it clear in your profile Assholes stay away, this is no dating site.
Orgasminator
Quote by Amazon
is this at all possible with younger guys,, I have found that the older guys are more mannered and they will not have a problem talking to my husband. This is a catch 22 because older men don't have enough stamina lol that's why younger men will work better..
Well my theory is that you should filter out the younger guys looking for a quick shag. But I'm sure just meeting up for drinks tells a lot about a person and what their looking for.
Quote by couple4_peHi. We need to start a clud (group) where we share the guys who have proved they can be trusted. We keep a list and that way we as husbands get to watch, our wives are satisfied and tha guys have regular pussy. Contact me please. K.
do any of you married couples have this similar " problem"
we a married couple. I enjoy watching my wife get a good hard f*** ...as much as she enjoys getting one.
we met a few "single" guys who enjoyed my wife while I watched and took some pics...these guys then want to get her alone with them. What part of SHE DOES NOT PLAY ALONE...they do not understand.. I'm not bi ...just watch the show.
They had it all with my wife... but now we will never invite them again..
The guy is offered everything on a platter, then goes and blows his chance for a repeat visit..
why is it so difficult to build a good relationship withH a decent guy?
Any suggestions?
I will be glad to hear of others experiences.
Orgasminator
Quote by wetemke
Hi. We need to start a clud (group) where we share the guys who have proved they can be trusted. We keep a list and that way we as husbands get to watch, our wives are satisfied and tha guys have regular pussy. Contact me please. K.
That's a horrible idea. I always try to earn a couples trust so that they have the best experience possible but I'm not doing it so my name can be traded around like a cheap toy.
Single guys are people to, we're not just glorified sex toys.
Applauding you Mike_Pta. Yes people are not toys at all.
But on the other hand ,just so you also know, when we check out a profile of a new person whom has contacted us, (I am talking about myself and few ladies I know) we also check out whom has verified that person, we will then write that person asking about the person whom they/or I have verified, BUT that person should have been met face to face and in person, NOT just by webcam, to ask if he or she is kosher and safe and reliable...it is a sorta safety thing really.
It might have also been what wetemke meant.
Orgasminator
That system I agree with PiB, however forming a club and writing up a list. Now granted it may be a more efficient system than the one you described but it just feels impersonal to be. I don't like the idea that out there is a group which meets once a month and their saying "well we met this guy Michael, he was very good in department a but could have scored better in d. That is why I think he should be included on the list and the specs are.........."
I have nothing against references, I have one couple who said they would happily write back if someone asks about me, but I still can't wrap me head around being on some stud list.
