Married men without consent vs Married women without consent.

I would like to know why is there such a big stigma with married men playing alone without consent but the married women without consent gets the most attention.

Isnt cheating cheating?

I think for most it's more the fear of an angry Mrs arriving on your doorstep , and inturn unicorns is so few and far in-between that it just doesn't matter.

There is a place for everyone in the Lifestyle, but it's all about supply and demand . Single men oversupply low demand , and unicorns is high demand and almost none available.

So our experience and a question we ask most men playing with out permission is have you asked your wife if she would be interested in this lifestyle and most of time we get no or I don't want her playing with other men which is selfish from the man

Well we don't play with married men or women we don't want a angry spouse spoiling our fun

Well, for starters, there are 91,477 Male profiles on here, whilst there are only 13,726 female profiles on here. Of those 13k female profiles, almost all of them are indeed single or have permission...whereas of the 91k male profiles (in my experience) at least half of them are playing without permission.

Males playing without permission have led to a lot of drama for people exploring the lifestyle...much more than the few females who do so. People are therefore generally much less tolerant of males who do it, due to the sheer volume of it happening.

Now, with regards to the double standards...

When a man plays behind his wife's back, he is always inevitably found out, leading -a lot of times -to broken homes and children suffering in the process. The wife, then almost always creates a lot of drama for the person he was cheating with.

When it is a female who plays around, the husband very rarely contacts the people she was cheating with.

Anyways, breaking your partner's trust (whether you are male or female) goes against everything the Swingers lifestyle is about, and should never be done. When relationships break up, it is more often than not, not about the sex or the money...but about the fact that the partner cannot trust their partner anymore.

Whether you are male or female, never do this to your partner or to the people you wish to cheat with.

Jay and I have one rule -above all other rules -in our relationship: No Drama! Not from family, not from friends and most certainly not from strangers...anyone who plays without their partner's permission will inevitably bring drama into our life and we will avoid them at all cost.

Btw. If you filter those results down to profiles active in the past 30 days...
Males
907 Females
...and that does not account for the thousands of "Couple" profiles where the wife does not even know about SH.